Insights Weekly Essay Challenges 2016 – Week 19: The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

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08 May  2016

Write an essay on the following topic in not more than 1000-1200 words:

 

“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”

  • Pankaj Nimbolkar

    ???Thanks insight ???

    • Pankaj Nimbolkar

      Prov.??

      People always think they would be happier in a different set of circumstances. (Usually implies that the other circumstances really are not any better.) Jill: My job is so tedious. I wish I had my own business, like Beatrice does. Jane: Beatrice probably wishes she had the security of her old job. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.⚽⚽

      • Hi Pankaj bhai,
        Please find time to review my essay 🙂

  • Keshav Singh

    good morning…

  • Thanks dear insights!
    Very good morning to all dear friends 🙂

  • Mahi

    My friend is working in a multinational earning 12 lakh p.a. having a luxury car a and a beautiful girl friend . One day he comes to me and say ,” bhai sarkari naukari hi bdia h , tu upsc pe LGA RHA , hum toh gulami kr rhe hain” … After he went I thought he is having all the fun of life but still thinks I m in better position and enjoying . So he thinks i m in good situation and I think he is in better position.This reminds me of the fact that grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

    It is a human nature to see oneself surrounded by difficulties and think that others don’t face any problem. This creates the problems for the person and s/he never seems to be content whatever he is having and enjoy it.

    The boy walking on a road thinks that a cycle rider is better than him. The cycle rider thinks that a biker is better than him and the biker thinks that the person moving in a car is better than him and this goes on . The fact that everyone has something to enjoy and different kind of problems, but one is never satisfied with his position . The grass is greener on the other side of the fence.

    It is true that we should always try to improve our position , dream big and make them come true. But it is also true that we should enjoy what we are right now. One should understand the fact of life and shouldn’t be disappointed with his /her current status by looking at others. Instead one should work hard and harder to achieve better in life.

    A villager feels that a city dweller is much more happier , have all the facilities of life. At the same time city dweller thinks that a villager is close to nature and living in peace with no pollution and rush to run from post to pillars. The grass is greener on the other side if one is having a subjective view. But the objective reality is that each person has their own set of problems and opportunities.

    • Just remember the name !

      BAS ITNA suuuuuuuuu!!!
      ??

      • Mahi

        Lol. …Hahaha…..aage smjh ni aya kya likhun…:p

      • ESWAR

        Dude please review mine too

    • Hi Mahi,
      It is very small. It wont be called an essay 🙁 🙁
      Though I loved the third para. You wrote it beautifully 🙂 you could have written more ..
      Please review mine too

    • vijay- the ray of hope

      Please mahi review mine I will do the same soon

  • Mahi

    Good morning friends…

  • GK

    Good Morning Insights.:-)

  • Sanchi

    Morning fds……have a good day…….thanks insight

  • Sam Saikia

    As a child, no one realize the resplendence of that golden time. At that time, the face of match teacher only comes to mind repeatedly in the form of demon. As time passes, people got adult stage, they generally crave for childhood age thinking it to be of innocence and fun. It happens to everyone. The greenery of other side of the fence enchants everyone but more appropriately at a wrong time or wrong way.

    Complexity is the twenty first century phenomenon buoyed by globalisation. Things are not happening as are expected. Italian marine killed two indian fishermen on Indian water. Indian people wholeheartedly demanded to get trial of them in indian court.It got political issue for opposition,remained topic of controversy for newspaper and channels. But the real picture is not as green as it is claimed. The international diplomacy, UNCLOS law, continuous dispute between the countries to claim right on territorial water etc comes on the way of solution.

    In case of nuclear sector, India is fast approaching. But controversy arises whenever the context of NUCLEAR LIABILITY LAW comes. All want an easy and evergreen solution of the matter. Indians want responsible nuclear suppliers being emotional by Bhopal gas tragedy. Foreign companies say that why they would responsible for any fault of operator. Solution seems to be simple but entwined amidst relentless controversy.

    Financial inclusion is the aim of government. Under Jan Dhan YOJANA Scheme, lakhs of accounts are opened in rural areas. A green picture of financial inclusion is at hand for India. But the matter is not finished here. To get the real picture, it is necessary to cross the fence. It is necessary to see how many accounts are active at real sense at present. It should be examined how many people are aware about the scheme.

    The supreme court has given many judgements against Khap panchayats as unconstitutional and illegal. Everyone is talking about removing casteism .Everyone is talking about women rights, celebrating womens day, mother’s day etc. A verbose speech or a thoughtful article might portray a green picture of women, casteism in India. But real picture is quite grim. Until and unless, mindset is changed about women and caste, the real side of the fence will be always dark.

    Food security problem, subsidy problem on gas , fertiliser in India always occupy prime concern. Committee after committee is formed to look into these matters. Various recommendations are put forwarded. But they remain symbol of green solution in paper only. The same is true for direct benefit transfer scheme. All these are green in nature from far side. But from close view success is less. It is not because the schemes or recommendations are not effective but an effective implementation mechanism accompanied by proper awareness is lacking.

    Fiscal responsibility Act has legally bounded India for fiscal expenditure. But still India cross the limit every year. The close view of this fence is not always as in the act. Various international economic situations, domestic economic policy compel India to spend crossing the legal amount..

    Whether it is a matter of Naga insurgency problem or India’s claim for permaanent seat in UN security council —there are always some complex international matters which make the things perplexed.

    The issue of Nationalism or sedition law or the controversy regarding indianness of Jana Gana Mana song are some burning issues which are easy to solve in general perspective. But the whole Indian sentiment is entrusted with such matters which require utmost care.

    Things are easy to solve in general view like a mountain is always green from far view. It is not always difficult to solve or to get the real picture of grass behind the fence. But perseverance, determination, mutuality, international support , friendly relation with other countries, effective diplomacy, correct policy implementation are some necessary qualities required by an individual or a country to get succeeded. Six packs or a flat belly in a picture always attract everyone. It is like grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. But with proper discipline in diet and exercise can make both sides of the fence greener.

    • Just remember the name !

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    • Just remember the name !

      First …. Intro to startwith
      The first example doesn’t fit the proverb….
      Grass is always greener on the other side…
      When a person doesn’t REALIZE the difficulty and circumstances faced by the other due to not having experience it ever,, that makes for the proverb …..

      Moreover, your conclusion way too absurd ….
      Overall good effort

  • Anit ifs

    Human’s are the only animals to have the complexity of emotions and cognitive understanding to go beyond the mundane and understand not only the world, but also ourselves. Sadly, we use this ability to compare what the other human has and then to make a fuss out of it.

    We grow jealous, fight for the wrong things and then when we do actually get for what we were searching for, we don’t feel fulfilled! The modern world has given us the power of the ‘instant’. Everyone can now get whaterver they desire for within an instant. By everybody, I don’t mean the very poor, but the average citizen of the globalised world, who has the power to consume it’s many bounties and also to be afflicted by it’s many curses.

    The ‘instant’ gratificiation means that the goals that we set aren’t going to give us substantial satisfaction. This is simply because, they’ve been acheived with so less invested in them emotionally, that we don’t value them at all! This means that we are always in search of another goal someplace else, or looking at the greener turf that someone else has.

    I went to Vaishno Devi shrine once. The train took me all the way to the base station and a helicopter took me to the mouth of the shrine. There was anticipation building in me, since I had heard about the shrine since a very long time. But as I entered the prayer chambers, I realised that the actual shrine consisted of only three stone formations. That was it! I thought that there’d be something else, some place hidden where the powerful deities shone, but instead I was being shoved back by the crowd. 


    An old man who had just had his ‘darshan’ was moving back. Since he seemed knowledgeable, I called him out. “ Uncle is this is?”. “Yes son. What else does anyone need?” he said calmly. But for me it wasn’t, so I asked again, “But there was nothing except the rocks there” and then on second thought I added, “ Maybe I should have gone to Amarnath instead”

    The old man turned around. “ It’s all the same, everywhere. It’s just that everyone finds what they seek.” After a lot of reflection later, I understood what he meant. Instead of enjoying what I had at the moment, I was seeking instant solace someplace else, where the grass would be greener. In the process, not only did I miss the climb which gives the meaning to the entire experience, but also I held on to the same mentality of the urgency to be someplace else. Therefore, I was dissapointed.

    This is true with life as well. Not only me, but countless millions are out in the world, chasing happiness everyday of their life. People seek to build a life that they want, a goal that they want to achieve, something that they want to become; all of this because they think being there or getting that would make them happy. They have seen the people on the other side and they seemed happy enough. Maybe, getting to their position is the secret!

    But, what we are misssing in the picture is that the entire process of constantly seeking what the others have, is in fact the problem. We would not be happy after our ride on the hedonistic treadmill, because it doesn’t lead you anywhere.

    The truth is that the inner happiness and satisfaction come first. Only after that can the search for something that resonates with that happiness be found. The negative concept of happiness means the absence of unhappiness or pain. Simply by having inner peace, we make our grass greener than that of the other.

    IN everyone, there is a psychological tension. It’s mostly the genetic requirement for being happy. Close relations, human contact, love, care and mutual caring is what is at the bottom of the happiness cycle. THe products that we buy, the money that we save are ultimately the abstract expressions for the search of that happiness in an artificial manner. Even if a human acheives whatever he wanted to, and finds no one else to share the joys of having done it with, then no pleasure can be derived from the labour.

    Can we be kings if there are no people around? Can we call ourselves aritsts, if there is not a soul to see that work of art? IT’s others who define us, relate to us, make us who we our by placing us in a particular social position, in relationships and inclined towards particular goals. But often, we miss the entire point of existence, by looking at what others have rather than what they are, who they are and how they became so. In short, we look at the grass and not concern ourself iwth the much more interesting owner.

    Actually, this isn’t such a bad thing after all. Humans have attained economic successes and power, all towards the goal of attaining the flimsy goal of happiness. Without the comparisons, all of us would be lethargically stuck in our primeval settings. To find the greener grass, we found new worlds, new avenues, new discoveries.

    The restlessness that is at the core of our explorations, our scientific discoveries also derives it’s power from the never ending drive to acheive for ourselves what others have. It makes economics possible, society civilised, and even leads us to our highest creative pursuits.

    But then, when all is said and done, if life has to have a purpose, we need to focus on what we have. The inner contentment is especially necessary in a world where almost everyone has sufficient means, but no one really has ‘everything’ and hence no one’s need is sufficed. By changing our mentality to enjoying the grass, rather than constantly upgrading it for a darker green, we’d have the ultimate expression of a well lived life, a meaning.

  • ajay

    THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE

    human beings are always hungry for more.they demand and think the best for themselves.this is the reason why they think that they must have the best of jobs,houses,family,spouse,children and incomes.by nature we have an insatiable diet,always looking out for more greener and healthier pastures.but the reality is different.

    mohit was the first born child in the family.he had an eidetic memory.he could recall poems,images and concepts with audacity.he always wanted to become a surgeon.but his family was wealthy and in business.he was their single heir.so leaving a well established and profitable business was a foolish thing to do.leaving behind his desires he had to do it.here mohit thought that how successful a doctor he would have been had he not been in business.but who knows what would have happened on the other side of the fence.biology may not have interested him?.competition would have become a barrier?.he might have got a dental course?he might not be used to such a hard work?..in life ,we sometimes have to live by some hard choices.here being in business would make mohit financially secure and stable. he could use his skill sets in business growth and expansion.he could learn best practices,apply them astutely.though arguments could be made for both sides of the debate,in general,people think that grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

    similarly people appreciate richer,wealthier and powerful people.they dream of being in such a position,as they think it would make them happier.but it is not necessarily so.many people live simple and straightforward life enjoy small moments,emotions and incidents.they value relationships,commitments,friendship and comradeship.this brings them real joy and delight.while excesses of money may provide material happiness,luxury and comfort they may also make a person greedy,malicious and selfish.he might value money above all and even adopt illegal and immoral methods to earn the same.this give him a sense of notional happiness but also makes him insecure and afraid.thus here it may seem that the grass is greener from outside but it may not be so from the inside.

    in the society we often see people comparing their spouses and children.they always desire for more.for eg- a working executive married to a housewife may desire for a working,well earning partner.but he generally doesn’t think that a working women might not cater to her children and parents the same way her wife does.similarly parents think of their children to be always ahead of others.they even might vie for the neighbours child who always does well in exams.but in the process they might disregard his unruly behaviour and disrespect he shows towards his parents.this again shows that greener grass might not be green and all that glitters is not gold.

    in our very preparation we always yearn for more and more.a candidate selected in IRS or IPS could curse himself for the few more marks he would have got to become IAS.but in the process one forgets that he/she might be more suited to the current service.he may remain more happy and satisified while on his current job profile.though to dream is not wrong ,to curse oneself and his whole life hard work for something which might not be his cup of tea is definitely wrong.

    similarly even after getting top administrative job and security,some people feel that the corporate jobs were more attractive.they think of the high salary and money they would have got had they opted the other line.this aptitude exemplifies the qoute “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” most appropriately because even after getting into such high-profile services people think differently.

    thus its seems imp to remember that in life its better to think,introspect and discuss deeply before making one’s life choices which are going to have deep impact later on in one’s life.but after commiting oneself to a particular course,lifestyle and destiny one should not deviate and double mind themselves.because then grasses will always seem greener and fresher on the other side of the fence and there is little one could do after that.

    • Mahi

      Nice

      • ajay

        Thanx mahi

    • Hi Ajay,
      You brought out the meaning of the quote very well. Substantiated it well with examples and explanations 🙂 good job 🙂
      But in spite of giving it more depth you could have expanded it broadly with more dimensions. This is what I feel 🙂 overall a good read with nice flow brother. 🙂
      Please review mine too

      • ajay

        thnx for review simran will try to improve upon and think upon more broad dimensions next time..thnx:)

        • Please review mine when you find time 🙂

          • pranay rajput

            Captain naam kyu change kia….log sochenge ki night thinker kahaa gayaa…;)

    • xyz

      Good Ajay . Review mine when u get free.

    • missionmode

      Hi!
      Very nice essay. You were able to structure such an abstract topic well, which is great. You could also talk more about the positives/motivation induced by always wanting more.
      Just 1 thing, i don’t know if the examiner would notice or not but the working women example could be construed as offensive. I am sure that was not the intention, you could nevertheless word it better or give a different example.(I have also given a controversial example wrt Pak & Kashmir, do let me know your views on that.)
      You could have also tried to apply the principle to other entities like country/organisations/cultures etc instead of it being very individual centric.

      • ajay

        Thanx for detailed review mission mode and pointing out the glitches will work on it and try to improve

    • Titan

      Are you people adhering to word limit? Mind, it is going to be two essays paper buddy.
      Good material.
      Please review mine.

      Guys, please review and encourage answers and essays written on paper and attached. The quality of the writing and presentation only then can be evaluated.

    • Well tried. No doubt you have a good understanding and clear picture of the theme of the essay. But

      1) It seems that you have tried to increase the length of your essay forcefully by including more and more examples. You have tried to justify the quote in every paragraph.

      2) In second paragraph, i found unnecessary question marks.

      3) 2nd paragraph could have been the introduction instead of first one.

      4) Starting with a small alphabet didn’t look nice.

      5) Introduction is the plinth of any essay. It must be attractive enough for reader to proceed further.

      Well I do not have the authority to judge one’s essay until my essay is completely fine. So this was what I felt. Rest is fine.

      Keep learning,keep writing and thanks for the review.

    • HappyIAS

      Inroduction must be impressive. Please give a good one next time. 🙂

      Continuity and flow breaking at times.

      There are few grammatical errors here and there. Please take care of these small things.

      You have not even written 1000 words. Please write withing the word limit.

      Overall, a nice read. And u can and will write good essays in future!

      Please review mine. Thanks.
      All the best, friend! 🙂

      • ajay

        Thanx happy for the review will try to improve….

        • HappyIAS

          Please review mine. Thanks.. 🙂

    • Eco-friendly

      Bro ur intro is good and you have quite clear picture and understood the quote.
      But there are things to improve upon-
      1) Bring in more dimensions and relate it to contemporary world
      2) Increase the length of ur essay and i knw u can.
      3) U can write about consequences and show the way forward too

      All the best.

      • ajay

        Thanx for the detailed review eco ..will work on your suggestions and feedback thanx a lot …:)

    • Rashmirathi

      simple sweet essay.
      a few pointers from my side :

      introduction should be more interesting. you could have used ur second paragraph as intro instead.

      the essay seemed a bit short. many other dimensions could have been added for example, the presence of this comparative mentality from the individual level to matters of national and international level, the various impacts this leaves on our life such as inferiority complex, jealousy, dissatisfaction etc.

      rest is good

      thanks 🙂

      please review mine

      • ajay

        Thanx rashmi for the detailed review yup more dimensions can be added…will try better next time will review yours by night. Thanku 🙂

  • Twinkle

    Good morning dear all.
    Can we make a structure of this essay. Anybody???

    • xyz

      Hi Twinkle . Plz review mine.

      • Twinkle

        Deepak sorry for not reviewing today. But I have a structure for this essay. Will share with u.

  • Keshav Singh

    In this swiftly changing world we often face this conundrum of contented vs acquisitive life.While contented life some times criticized for social apathy, an acquisitive life may keep people restless to the extent of dissatisfied. For an acquisitive person, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

    The analogy is taken from the kneeling cow which tries to graze across the fence,expecting that grass is greener there. This is often the case with human being as well.People often think that they would be happier in a different set of circumstances. While doing so they overlook negatives of the others, at the do same for the positive in themselves.

    Does the topic is only about predicament of making a choice or has other dimensions as well?

    Social: When we are faced will myriad problems(female infanticide,foeticide, dowry, castism, religious hatred, honour killing, Dalit suppression),we cling to the belief that other society is better than us. But other society has other set of problems ,which are not our concern.

    Political: Our Rail is not running on time, politicians are corrupt, administration is lax, people do not work honestly, we have thousand of these nagging thoughts. So and so country is so good, we should relocate. Are these country immaculate ? Are we so
    self-contained that we do not bother or try to fix if things are in bad shape? Dont we have civic responsibilities?

    Cultural: We are still pegged to the retrograde customs and tradition. Whats point following them, if it has no meaning.In some country a Man can merry another man, so is true with women, how “cool”. They have developed science so that they can have babies(Gay or Lesbian couple). People are truely liberated there.

    Economic: We are poor country,even well off here are poorer then poor of other country. But cost of living there is high so you need more money to survive. So what, even after surviving there we will be richer than our neighbours here. Our govt has taken many initiatives like JAN DHAN YOJANA, MUDRA, FASAL BIMA YOJANA etc, there will soon be “Achhe Din”. No, these are mere gimmick to co-opt you. See sun is setting near horizon, we must run, else it would be too late.

    “Greener grass across the fence” is reflection of ourselves , our psyche.We want more than anyone else.The cow is merely a medium to understand it better.In this materialistic society we are so much drowned with worldly things that we have become outward looking.We must be inward looking, what is within ourselves, which is with us ,we need to recognize it. This is not to advocate of being complacent, or stop to be inquisitive. For inquisitiveness has been central to development of human race.

    For Seneca said “True happiness is to satisfied with what we have”. Be content with your lot, one cannot be first in everything.
    Grass might be greener across the fence, but without appreciating grass within fence, one would be unjust.So we should appreciate and enjoy what we have, and strive to make it even better than to look for greener pasture.

    • Keshav Singh

      please review….
      this is my first essay…
      i know it has many shortcomings…
      need sincere suggestion and criticism….

    • Hi Keshav,
      Start is very good 🙂
      I somehow feel that asking questions in the essay are actually good, because it maintains the interest of the reader, liked how you brought in the question 🙂
      In the social point, you said the other society is better 🙂 but how? Need to back up with an example at least. Like, if in a country, women don’t enjoy much freedom and rights and the other does, then what sort of freedom? You need to write that too, at least in a line or two. Hope you got my point 🙂
      Political point is really nice 🙂 🙂
      Cultural point.. I guess its a typing mistake it should be ‘marry’ . Though explanation is apt 🙂
      Economic point needs to be structured and presented in a better way. Why is the grass greener on the other side? What needs to be done?
      Conclusion is very nice 🙂 🙂
      Keep writing 🙂 and please find time to review mine as well 🙂

  • KINDLY REVIEW!
    A LITTLE BIT OF EXPERIMENTATION FOR TODAY 🙂 WOULD LOVE TO KNOW WHAT YOU PEOPLE THINK OF IT. EVEN IF SOMETHING IS WRONG, PLEASE FEEL FREE TO POINT OUT SO THAT I CAN IMPROVE. WAITING FOR THE FEEDBACK! 🙂

    “Many people lose the small joys in the hope for the big happiness.”

    This quote by Pearl. S. Buck tells of the stark reality of the present times. We live in a funny world, where comparisons are done for almost everything. If a child stands second in her class, she’s compared with the one who stood first. If a person gets five hundred rupees as pocket money, he compares his money with his friend who gets seven hundred as pocket money. If Mr. X gets a package of 10 lacs, he compares himself with Mr. Y, who is getting 12 lacs!

    But one thing should be noticed, that comparing ourselves with others does not always do good to us. Instead it ruins the joyous moments and spoils our precious time. Instead, the student who stood second can be appreciated and encouraged to get even better. The person getting lesser pocket money, should get satisfied with what he is getting. Mr. X should think of those who even lesser packages and do his work efficiently with the hope that his good work will get him praises.

    Life gets simpler and easier if only we decide to make it simpler. But in spite of that, we look at others and find their lives and situations much better than ours. We find others living a happier life, with more facilities and luxuries. No matter what a person has, he always compares himself with others and finds their lives better. This proves that, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

    When I was a small kid, I remember my mother saying that humans are selfish creatures. No matter what a person has got in his plate to eat, he will always find the other plate interesting and more delicious. This clearly defines human nature, that he is never satisfied with what he has. He feels saddened by comparing himself with others. And that sadness leads him towards jealousy. The person starts envying someone who has got more than what he possess. This takes him towards depression. But one should realise that such ill feelings do no good to them.

    Possessing such extreme attitude won’t improve his situation. He’ll continue to be that same human with the same circumstances. Instead he should be contented with what he has. Because happiness would go away with materialistic things but contentment would stay forever. A person who compares himself with the one having more than him should start comparing his life with those who do not enjoy even those smaller things. As perfectly said by Oprah Winfrey, “Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough.”

    I remember reading of the days when socio religious reform movements started in India. We were facing many problems, social evils, degraded social status of women, illiteracy and what not. The need of imparting western education was felt by reformers like Raja Ram Mohan Roy and Gopal Krishna Gokhale. They wanted Sanskrit to be replaced by English, in schools. Because, they thought that western education would give better future scopes to Indian youth. It would get easier for the Indian youth to compete with Europeans in examinations.

    Then came reformers like Swami Vivekananda and Dayanand Saraswati who were not in favour of western education. They believed that instead of looking at western countries and adopting their systems, India should revive her own rich culture and heritage. Our Vedas and Indian culture were rich enough to show the Indian youth the right path and uplift them.

    So, what does it tell? It shows that even if our lives appear dull to us, we should try our best to bring changes in it and improve our conditions. Even if things are not falling at the right place initially, working hard shouldn’t be stopped. And in the end, we would only see positive results for us. We might initially think that the grass in greener on the other side of the fence, but that does not mean we sit idle and hopeless. Instead we should make efforts to make our grass equally greener. With this, it means that if someone has set high standards, we should take it sportingly and try reaching that level.

    We often wish of a greener environment for our future generations. But with our persistent actions and efforts only we’d be able to gift them a cleaner and greener environment. Like wise, many talk of women empowerment. That does not mean going out on the streets with huge posters and slogans. If you raise a girl child proudly, give her the best possible education and job opportunities, that would empower a women.

    It should be noted that everyone has flaws and no earthly being is perfect. One might see others’ situations as perfect and flawless. We might only see the ‘greener grass’ but fail to see the ‘reasons’ behind the greener grass. Comparisons, leading to jealousy, is it the end of the story? Can a person not look upto him and get inspired from his success story? Following his footsteps might take him to better situations.

    Same goes for the international scenario as well. We very well know that, no country is perfect. Each nation lacks something or the other. Though Industrial revolution started in Britain but it lacked in raw materials, so had to depend over other European countries, Africa and Asia for its needs. Same way, India lacks in the field of technology. So, she signs agreements with nations like Russia, Japan for sharing their technology.

    This gives a strong message, even if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, in today’s world, there’s no point in restricting yourself to this side of the fence. There’s no point in envying seeing what others have got. Instead, learning from them and working hard should be increased manifolds.

    • Keshav Singh

      hi simran,,,
      i wud hav read ur essay if u hav not upvoted it urself
      you have given urself an unfare advantage…
      please do not do that…

      • No I didn’t do it

        • Keshav Singh

          upvote or unfare adv?

          • Both buddy

            • Keshav Singh

              but i have seen it….now it is showing a guest vote….i dont get it…

              • What does a guest vote mean? I’m new to all this, don’t know the terms. To me, it shows no upvote lol

                • Keshav Singh

                  u used to write with name “Night Thinker”??
                  i read some of Night Thinkers’ ans,,,they were good..

    • amrendra

      nicely cover

    • Mahi

      Nice intro ..I don’t know how u remember the famous quotes.

      Nicely used Mr. X

      Didn’t understand the use of rammohan Roy and Vivekananda.

      What is the reasons behind the greener pastures u could have thrown some light on it.

      Overall nice ..and urs qualifies as a essay.

    • ajay

      nice intro gud flow and rhythm..nice egs u have taken the argument to work for making your grasses green or doing hard work and achieve higher succeses in life rather than sit idle it seems a different approach but u have justitfied it very well….good work..simran..

    • charu

      Hey good essay, only one thing to point out your para about clean environment n women empowerment looks misplaced. I am not able to understand how it is related to the essay topic.
      Quote by Oprah Winfrey is nice and you have compared between countries as well, nice point.
      Have a look at mine if time permits

      • Hey, thanks for the review 🙂 I’ll check yours too

    • xyz

      Good one.
      I have a doubt . can we write like ” when I was child” in UPSC essay. Introduction is brilliant.
      Review mine if u find time.

      • Hi Deepak,
        I’ve been writing it since quite some time. I’ve seen others doing the same. 🙂 I don’t think its wrong. Thanks for the review 🙂 I’ll surely check yours.

    • Iconoclast

      Best of the lot !!!

      • Wow! Feels good 🙂 thank you!

      • HappyIAS

        Please review mine. Thanks. 🙂

    • saran

      good essay. Excellent vocabulary.. Quoting of thoughts of the people is good and add points to it because I think it is difficult to include such thoughts while writing an essay in an examination. Difficult means we might not be able to recollect it as we have time constraints there.
      I really wonder you got a lot of ideas to include in it and connected it in a very good manner. Thats good.
      But I need to say this also to you. You have included points about Raja ram mohan roy and some history parts amid your essay. But I couldn’t find any connection for this with the title. I think the title of this essay has a kind of negative connotation. But they did all those for the betterment of the country and for the people with out having any kind of selfish mind. Right ? After saying this you just tried to justify it.(“So, what does it tell?” part). I couldn’t find it as a correct justification.
      Conclusion part is excellent. As the topic is a generic one, you used a conclusion in a generic way rather than sticking to any particular instance which is good.

      I said all these since you asked for the wrong things you used. In fact I would say your essay would be better than if I would have posted mine. haha… Excellent writing. Keep it up.

      • Thanks buddy 🙂
        Please check my reply to Rashmi as to why I wrote about SRRM, and yeah improvements are needed. KWAR

    • minaxi

      Hello Simran..
      One thing.. I need not to worry about your essay is flow.
      Introduction is good. But will you remember the name of person who said this or anything else for matter?
      Overall a good read dear…
      It is not matter of simple life, it is matter of better life( our over perception of better life) it might be complex life too.
      Though, there is nothing wrong in this essay and it is engaging peace but some points are like history of RRMR do not have any connection with this topic (IMO)
      As an evaluator., more diversity can be added, but the points you have covered in it, is work of expert.

      Thanks.. 🙂

      • Hi Minaxi 🙂

        Thanks for the review 🙂
        This essay needs improvement . And to why I brought in SRRMs , I have explained in my reply to Rashmirathi. That would clear the cloud that the mention of Roy and Vivekananda actually is linked with the theme of the essay.
        Thanks dear friend

    • Shaktimaan

      hi simran:)
      nice one:)
      bt whole eassy convey only one meaning>> i mean exact wt proverb ask… toh aise thoda uniqueness c ni lgti…:)
      though u gv different ex >> which is good >> bt i think more interpretations can be included..:)
      u hv used > quotes inbetween gooood >> if u rmmbrd dt ol :):) great one infact:)
      bt ur last 3 paras>> awsome with bit refreshment>> tooh wo acha tha:)
      thank u:)
      if tym permits hv a luk at mine:)

      • minaxi

        Hii Shaktimaan..
        Plz friend.. can you spare some time to review my essay too. 🙂

      • Hello Prem 🙂
        I always try and stick tot the theme of the essay 🙂
        Thanks buddy

        And yes I’ll review yours for sure

    • Hello CD-writer :P, my views-
      – ‘no matter what a person has, he ALWAYS compares…’- quite a sweeping statement, tone it down
      – idea of ‘comparison’ has been stretched
      – the idea of greener path is two fold- perceptional [that you have covered very well] and real[that you have only given slight references here and there]
      – ending of the essay was quite abrupt, you can talk more about ‘not comparing’
      – Couldn’t relate with your para on India depending on others for technology :/
      – flow needs to be improved a bit, it is easy to link with your ideas but bring some linkage through sentences too

      Since I have written after 3 weeks, I don’t remeber how you used to write earlier :P, so don’t know what has been experimented
      Overall, it is fine but improvement needed. Have a look at mine as well 🙂

      • Hello Palash 😛 😛
        I’m not CD writer! LOL
        Yes improvements are needed 🙂
        And yeah, I’ll review yours for sure.

        • are han ye to compact disk wala ho gya CD writer 😀 😀

    • Isha

      Hello thinker, my views-
      Your intro and conclusion seem to start and end in an abrupt tone. Try to bring them into flow with the main content.
      Use the name of the one who originally stated the quote only if you are sure to remember his name. Otherwise do remember the quote.
      Contentment isn’t always good and similarly, ‘not comparing’ with others anytime would shut down your growth. Take it in a positive healthy spirit. Comparing also necessary.
      RRR, Gokhale and Vivekanand example- clear nahi hua context. I mean british education system and english language benefited as well and in fact helped to rationalize the thinking of modern day nationalists. Indian culture and vedas were not absolutely superior anytime.
      The examples you came with in the last 4 para- keep them in the beginning and try to come out with a strong conclusion.
      More dimensions can be included.
      KWAR and ATB.
      Please read mine as well as and when you get time.

      • Hi Isha 🙂
        Thanks for the review 🙂
        Yes improvements are needed. 🙂
        SRRM wala point ka reason I gave in my reply to Rashmi 🙂 that will make you clear why I used it here 🙂 thank you.

      • Tanu Singhal

        Hiiiii…

        Kaisi hai..
        Sorry do week si absent thi.. 😛
        This week m back.

        Review KR dio jb b time mile..

        Tune likha kya !!???

        • Isha

          Hey 🙂
          chal karti abhi tera thodi der me bas. Mera bhi padh liyo.

    • HappyIAS

      Hey Simran!

      Intro is good.
      Oprah quote.. Awesome.
      Flow is good initially. suddenly breaks in the middle.. For ex, Gokhale and reformers wala para isn’t brining out the clear tone.
      Women empowerment wala para looks out of context..
      Suddenly, international scenario aa gaya.. but it wud have been okay if u explained and elaborated it a little more.
      Conclusion can be improved.
      Overall, a good read.

      Please review mine. Thanks. 🙂

      • Hello Happy 🙂 🙂
        The reason for writing about SRRM I’ve given in my comment to Rashmi 🙂
        Links and structure need to be improved I agree 🙂 thanks.

        • HappyIAS

          Please review mine. Thanks. 🙂

    • Purity like rain :)

      Gr8 essay . how come u end up writing such a good essay with gr8 flow. U do read some extra books or what?

      • LOL thanks buddy 🙂
        Nice of you! No extra books 🙂

    • Rashmirathi

      very nice essay simran 🙂 introduction , body , conclusion , flow , structure, flawless. my only pointers :
      what is the point of the two paragraphs about social reformers one set in favour of western education and another against it? i mean what are you trying to imply ?it just seems to be hanging midair ,taking no sides. if however you intend to say that it is human tendency to always aspire to be on the other side of the fence no matter which side you are on right now, then just make it clearer.

      thanks 🙂
      please review mine

      • Hi Rashmi 🙂
        Thanks for the review 🙂
        My logic behind using SRRM wala point was purely to link it with the quote that’s given for today THE GRASS LOOKS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE. I’ll tell you why and how! 🙂
        For Roy and Gokhale, western education was the solution to a lot of issues existing at that time. Hence, for them the grass was greener on the other side.

        Then in the para following that part, I have brought in Vivekananda. Why? Because by that I wanted to convey that grass might be greener but that’s not the end. With our persistent efforts and dedication and perseverance we cam cultivate our own greener grass.

        Hence, the illustration wasn’t out of context. It might be that I couldn’t execute it well.

        I’ll improve. 🙂 thanks buddy 🙂

    • 1.decent start simran ji
      2.use of word “funny”..not impressive
      3.yar dont know but this philo and then trying various level could not bring flow..it broke ur flow from both sides-explaining the philosophical part and of dimensions…try one at time..ex-see yogi’s essay
      4.use of examples were very lively
      5.comparison part was very repetitive..try other dimensions..more coverage we give more chances of scoring more :p
      6.conclusion ok but can be improved
      thank you..please find time to review mine 🙂

      • Khanna saab 🙂
        Thanks for the review 🙂
        ‘Funny’ ko hataa denge but sach to haina 😛 funny world. 😛
        Feedback well taken 🙂 I’ll improve 🙂
        And yeah, will review yours for sure. THANK YOU

    • Tanu Singhal

      Hey simran

      1. Intro seemed that of a editorial instead of an essay
      2. Flow is good , for the first timer, keep it up .. Thumbs up !
      3. The education example ,not so well suited, work a lot on examples.
      4.the middle part- u criticised the criticism too much. For most achievers its the best motivation.
      5.conclusion could have been more influential.

      But still great work.

      Pls review mine as well. 🙂

    • Aj

      The introduction and the next two paragraphs seem to be mere explanation of the quote and find it repetitive. Shouldn’t have consumed so many words for that and more importantly does not give a good impression in the start.
      Secondly, the intent behind the education example may be right but it has not been structured properly and does not convey the meaning you intend to.
      Thirdly, throughout the essay you said that people have to be content with what they have but do not explain why. Some justification has to be given to add force to your argument.

      On the whole, a decent effort. Good one.

    • sankar

      very good simran as always
      we can also add some positive and negative impact of comparing nature of people
      plz have a look at mine……….thanks

    • ESWAR

      Greener environment paragraph has diverted from topic. Work on grammar. I do not think so, one should give own example. Nice essay. All the best

    • yogi

      1. intro is goood,
      2. 2nd para, starting giving the judgements that what the perosn should do or feel instead of comparing is giving the sense of conclusion of the essay, it should have been preserved for the end.
      3. the paras of english vs indian education did not bode well. Western education here does mean the western cukltur per se, people like Raja ram mohan Roy emphasised on the scientific education that was modern education, ir does not mean indian education is inferior. The comparision did not fit well in the context of the theme.(IMO)
      4. Comparisons, leading to jealousy, is it the end of the story? Can a person not look upto him and get inspired from his success story? —-where are the answers to these ?. If in the main body u are writing qn then provide the answer just after the question otherwise the reader would be confused just like i was.
      5. 2nd last para, does not suits there as the content before conclusion, it is altogether a different dimension.
      6. So, after this 2nd last para add one more para that gives the sense of coming to conlcusion, the way u have come to conclusion looks abrupt, bring that smoothly,
      not ur best
      keep writing, we all will improve 🙂
      thanks 🙂

      • 1. Thank you 🙂
        2. I’ll work on structure 🙂
        3. Point well taken sir ji 🙂
        4. Ill work upon this too. 🙂
        5. Okay 😛
        6. Sure 🙁
        Thank you

    • Eco-friendly

      Its a nice read Simi
      U used quotations well and very well said that through hard work we can also make our side greener. Liked this thing most in ur essay.
      On improvement part-
      flow in middle seems disrupted, green environment for our future generation wala para seems not connected or irrelevant.
      Conclusion could be made better.
      All the best

  • Eco-friendly

    The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

    In a village called Nandgaon in Rajasthan there is a SHG having 12 members. There is a government of Rajasthan’s scheme under which each SHG would be given a loan of 50,000 rupees from government side and interest on which would be very low. Women of that SHG decided to distribute that loan among 5 members and the rest will take loan after repayment of it. After 2 months of receiving loan Kamli who is the beneficiary thinks that she is on the wrong side and is being wronged by other members as now she has the burden of repaying the loan as well as interest whereas others (7 members left) do not have to do so. Another member Andok feels that Kamli and other 4 members were benefitted because they are now reaping the benefits of loan in terms of small enterprises they have started, while she is not.

    This is a common situation. We as human beings always try to see the brighter picture of other’s condition and compare with ours gloomy one. Hence the proverb “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”.

    From the childhood days we used to compare ourselves, our situation, our luck with others. When we are small we try to compare with our elders who are earning. We say that it is always good to be big, an adult because then we do not have to go to school, do homework or get punishment from elders, teachers. Whereas the elder person will feel that childhood is the best part as there is lesser tension of targets, no responsibility and lots of free time to spend with friends and family.

    Similarly an elder brother will feel how lucky it is to be a younger sibling, who always get more attention of parents and gets the best part of food served in home. Whereas a younger sibling will feel the opposite i.e. it is good to be elder as you can direct the younger one according to you. Both positions has its own advantages and disadvantages. The thing is we are biased towards our situation and belittle what we have.

    We human as social animals, keep looking at the life of others, how their friends’ lives are shaping up; how successful their next door buddies are today and what paths they have taken. It is human nature to want what one doesn’t have. People may have this envious feeling subconsciously, not recognizing the peculiar longing that is occurring. Parents differentiating between their children and other children is a very common example of it.

    A person not having reservation/quota in education and job may feel that as he does not belong to some xyz class/caste hence cannot reap the benefits and is being ignored after getting quite higher marks than reserved category student. But what he forgets is the condition and situation of a backward community. How they are struggling to get one time meal a day and how the taboo of belonging to a backward class/caste is still haunting them in the 21st century. Upper class/caste people fail to recognize their own benefits like social status, and other material benefits they and their community is being enjoying since centuries.

    In the every field condition is similar. Take agriculture for example- a farmer doing agriculture in a traditional way by using natural manure and without any chemicals was earlier being looked down as he do not get the output compared to a farmer using chemical fertilizer and pesticides. But now the farmer of Green Revolution of 1960’s feels the same because his product has harmful chemicals and production has decreased.

    Today in this 21st century we enjoy high speed internet, advanced technology and more comfort but what we feel we are losing is our privacy, our secrets data and to a large extent balance in society. Earlier people wanted high speed, better technology, and comfort but when all these came people started worrying about losing jobs, encroached private space, increasing pollution and dangers of becoming slave of technology.

    We always have this feeling of having a half empty glass when it is on our side while it looks to be half filled when it belongs to others. A rich man or a celebrity may feel bad as he has not much time to spend his money and his private space is being evaded by media whereas a poor guy or an ordinary person curse their destiny of not being rich and famous. A political party in opposition may feel bad as they cannot take decisions and reap the benefits of low oil prices whereas a ruling party thinks that the time of their ruling is not fit as the country is suffering from back to back droughts and global slowdown. It is actually our habit of not taking the responsibility and biased observation which always make us see the brighter picture on the other side.

    We do not want to see the background of any successful person or an era we are observing. What we see is the outside decorative part or the part of life which we wanted to enjoy but were not able to do so because of many other reasons. We fail to see the hard work of a successful person, or the small-small moments and things we enjoy in our life. This is one of the main reason (i.e. unsatisfied with what we have) of ours to be sad. It is always in our hands what we wanted to feel but we give-up this opportunity and attach our satisfaction and happiness in either some material things or with something which was irrelevant to us earlier.

    This condition gives rise to enmity between individuals, communities and countries. Naxalism, terrorism, World wars are some of the extreme consequences of it. But if so were the consequences then we must try to stop it or reduce such feelings. And it is only possible when we stop comparing us with others, or try to get the background situation and observe in an impartial manner. Similarly Andok and Kamli have to look at the larger picture and the background condition. Both of their situations are different and should not be compared. They must be satisfied and happy that government is running a good scheme for their upliftment and they must make it successful.

    We should try to be satisfied with what we have and what we are. Satisfaction cannot be achieved from outside it must come from within. Every person, every generation, and every situation is unique in itself. And must not be compared. We must enjoy life and all the small and big happy moments it offer. This is the only mantra for the happiness and larger peace of mind. Because there is always something green (to cheer about) in everybody’s life.

    • Mehaboob T

      Well written???

    • Hi eco bhai 🙂
      Into didn’t appeal much 🙁 you have written much much better introductions than this one. 🙁
      In the second para.. First two lines are good 🙂 but suddenly bringing the proverb broke the link. 🙁
      Next 2 paras are really nice 🙂 🙂
      Reservation wala part is explained in detail. 🙂 good job!
      Agro part needs improvement 🙁 it wasn’t clear.
      I found the paragraphs following green revolution part are much better linked and explained beautifully 🙂 🙂
      You write lovely pieces 🙂 keep up!
      And please find time to review mine as well. 🙂

      • vijay- the ray of hope

        Please review mine

    • ajay

      nice essay, u can improve upon the intro eco but ur essay covers a lot of dimensions linking them with the proverb..its nice esp reservation wala part,rich man and political party wale points …conclusion seems gud…pls review mine as well

      • sankar

        plz have a look at mine

        • ESWAR

          Dude, please review mine

          • sankar

            mine too , i m doing yrs pzl

          • vijay- the ray of hope

            Please review mine I will review it soon

      • Eco-friendly

        thank you…..abhi karta hu review….:)

    • Shaktimaan

      hi eco!!
      nice one..:)
      bt para wo childhood wal >>sibling wala>>human being social animal wala>>>> yeh tino ek hi cheez convey kr rahe h>> kuch diversity show c ni ho ri..:):)
      agri wala >>connect ni ho para easily khud se jyada sochna pd ra h….:)
      hmmmm
      is war concl sahii tha pr intro utni jami ni:)
      half glass n celebrity para >> rocking the boss:)
      overall good>> bt aap is se acha likhte ho:)
      keep writing:)
      PREM:)
      thank u:)

      • Hi Shaktimaan,
        Please review mine too. PLEASE 😛

      • Eco-friendly

        thank u shaktimaan…..:)
        lekin aaj aapne nhi likha……I was searching for ur essay….
        agar likho to jaroor batana…

        • Shaktimaan

          likha h maine>> direct profile se check karo >>> forum me toh kahin niche pda hoga bechara:):)

    • minaxi

      Hello Eco…
      I have to give a mixed review….:)
      Introduction- I think, it can be improved, I have to read it twice with greater care to understand the implicit meaning of given quota. ( If examiner will be like me, He will read it only once while checking)
      Flow is nice… But conveying one message in diffrent way.. is just consuming words.. However every para is beautiful. SOme dimensions are missing.
      Conclusion should be more optimistic. There is nothing wrong with dissatisfaction, but dissatisfaction should not resulted into discontent with ourself.
      Thanks .. 🙂

      • vijay- the ray of hope

        Dear my friend please review mine I wil do the same as usual..

        • ESWAR

          Please wait friend I will review by late night

      • Titan

        Guys, please review and encourage answers and essays written on paper and attached. The quality of the writing and presentation only then can be evaluated.

      • Eco-friendly

        yes intro is a bit longer also story can be improved.
        U r right in observing that similar things are coming. It is because initially only some general thoughts are coming in my mind and later when i wrote it completely some other points come….so i skipped them.

        Thank you for ur wonderful review……:)

        • minaxi

          Hiii.. Eco if get time them plz review my essay too. Thanks…

    • saran

      Hello,, I have a doubt. Not regarding your essay. Can we include stories in the essays ??? If so, what about its length….? I mean, we can include stories in essay that may take much words so that we can reach the word limit. But at the same time, does this inclusion of big stories may create an impression in the examiner while checking that he did it intentionally to make it lengthy ? please reply.

      • Hi , please review mine too

        • ESWAR

          Please wait dost I will review by late night

    • HappyIAS

      Bhai introduction seems too tough.. Couldn’t understand it in one read.

      “the rest will take loan after repayment of it” – please rephrase the sentence correctly.

      “We human as social animals, keep looking at the life of others, how their friends’ lives are shaping up; how successful their next door buddies are today and what paths they have taken” – Here, since u have used ‘we’, u should use ‘our’ instead of ‘they’.

      “without any chemicals was earlier being looked down as he do not get the output compared to” – change it to looked down upon as he did not get… But a brilliant example.

      The structuring and examples are good.

      A very nice read as always. 🙂

      Please review mine.Thanks. 🙂

    • Ramya

      well written but it has depicted only one dimension. comparison is not always bad. People may have good reference groups that help in improving their positions for the better. For example, a rural person who does not have access to proper education in his village gets inspired by those who get good education and lead better lives and struggles hard to reach that position, then there is nothing wrong in it.

    • Harsh (Learning Unlimited!!!)

      Good one buddy ..

      Conclusion is excellent …
      Intro can be improved a bit…

    • Aj

      No offence but then personally I feel writing stories as introduction has become too cliched. There is no denying the utility of stories but most of the times it seems as if we are forcing ourselves to write one when they don’t really fit in the scheme.
      Certain examples like ruling party and opposition strike a chord and was a refreshing moment while reading the essay. But I felt you got carried away with the examples without giving much focus on the philosophical and theoretical aspect of the topic. More paragraphs like the third last would be great.
      The line of thinking of the essay seen in the conclusion is perfect but has not been substantiated. Some force in the argument is needed.
      Please take the criticism on a positive note.

      • Aj

        Review mine if possible

    • Tanu Singhal

      Hey nice one…

      Good example in the intro, but could have used it later.
      Flow is pretty good.

      Pls review mine. 🙂

    • Doc Vyas

      Nice flow… Keep it up…

    • 1.it was a philosophical essay so some philosophy was needed for sure
      2.very wide coverage of topic….be holistic but explain the context and philo behind them….because thru examples we can go ad infinitum
      3.when u talked abt Andok and Kamli i felt u were going to end but conclusion was waiting…so use of these two guys in penultimate para was not apt as per me
      4.though every one has something to cheer about but striving for best is not harmful…eg we cherish our democracy still we strive to achieve ideals and aspirations of Preamble…so balance in conclusion is needed
      overall a nice essay with nice flow
      thank you

    • yogi

      Hello Friend 🙂
      my views:
      1. intro is bit complicated, to be frank i did not understand it in one go,
      2. main body, what a brilliant flow, each para is building over the previous one, good jod, diversity in examples with sufficient depth is what makes ur essay an special attraction, good job.
      3. but, u have completely left the questions like is grass always greener or the other side? how to maintain the grass on our side (though mentioned that we should do it, but did not talk how?)
      4. simple language, short paras, are ur plus pts, keep it up
      5. conclusion is good
      overall a nice read
      thanks 🙂

    • Sumit

      good essay and most importantly the way you diversified your comparision based approach loaded with examples for different age groups and sectors.

  • Just remember the name !

    GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE….

    A business person wakes up every morning , charting ways and plans to get his business to new heights. This persistence makes him nervous sometimes in terms of the prospects the future holds. Contrary to a employed person, a businessman always vies for a constant and assured source of regular income. It is not the case that a job secured person doesn’t have to work his or her way up to make earnings and climb up the ladder of promotions. Such a person may be craving for more flexibility in job timings, decision making and scope for higher earnings through more innovation. But due to employment constraints, most of the time this turns out to be mere wishful thinking. Such an example epitomises the dichotomy of both players and their subjective realities. Each one would love to switch for the other, notwithstanding the fact of the specific difficulties faced by the other.
    Indeed, more often than not the grass is greener on the other side.

    Childhood offers us many lessons to learn. One could be from the perspective of the child and other from those witnessing his growth.
    Children often disciplines from their early years and make an ardour journey every morning from their beds to the school. However, there are a lot of exceptions to this rule in our country, where a massive proportion of children are out of school for a variety of reasons.
    A child while on the way to school often feels envious of other children playing on the streets. School-bound children think that those on the streets have a much better life in terms of freedom and fun. However, not aware is he of the realities and turbulence in the lives of the other. Interestingly, those on the streets crave for better lives with regular education at their disposal.
    Another classic dilemma, is that of a grown-up person wanting to behold the carelessness of childhood again. On the other hand, the supposedly greener place has a contender who wants to grow up soon to be able to make ones own decision and be responsible for them.
    Indeed grass is more greener on the other side, most of the times.

    Another case in instance is of an aspirant for the coveted civil services. After repeated failures in an ever going journey, an aspirant is bound to feel bouts of depression. While facing the heat, the candidate might think that the one in the corporate sector is much better places in terms of the job routine. As the aspirant is still preparing, job security seems to be a distant dream. While interesting stories are abound from across the country, many have come to prepare for this exam, leaving well paid jobs in the corporate sector and even in foreign banks. This transition is made with the view of setting a higher goal in life in terms of achievement, disillusioned with the previous monotonous job. Thus, every aspirant has his or her own peculiar story and own preferences. But often the ones quitting the jobs are enchanted by a ‘veteran’ in the field of preparation, who in turn, is now , equally desirous of a well paying and settled job instead. This presents an equally mesmerising picture of the proverb that the
    – Grass is always greener on the other side.

    A case in point is that of the celebrities, who have reached glaring heights in the glamour world and are always subject to the ever chasing paparazzi’s.
    However, after achieving so much, they vie for little privacy and sometimes get the thought that lives of a common man is way to better in this regard. On the contrary, all through a live , a common citizen dreams of being the centre of so much attention.
    The one who has utmost privacy craves for attention, while the one a lady having achieved it, and bored of it now, wants anonymity for oneself.
    Probably it’s the human nature that always keeps us wanting for something we do not have and are not likely to get easily, despite of the obvious caveats attached to it. This human tendency tends to glorify that
    – Usually grass is always greener on the other side.

    • Keshav Singh

      well written…
      i esply liked the flow of ur essay….
      it is very readable….

      • Just remember the name !

        Thanks mate

    • Hi Danish 🙂
      How many words? It looks small.
      Your examples are good, justifies the quote well.
      Just one suggestion, the paragraphs are very lengthy cut them short or divide into two 🙂
      You could have given more dimensions and edges to the essay. It would have appeared holistic 🙂
      Please find time to review my write up too 🙂

      • Just remember the name !

        May be less than 700 words……

    • ESWAR

      I think, a business man often looks for exorbitant profits, constant income happens only happens in case of an employee.

      Gross enrolment ratio in primary education has tremendously increased by 96% as annual status education report of 2015. So be more specific and write what more needs to be done, u can also avoid it.

      What is relation of preferences (in civil services paragraph) here, u could write hard work needs every where.

      Always grass is not green on the other side of fence. Please review

      • Just remember the name !

        Sab examples chalet as long as they make sense 🙂

        • ESWAR

          Relevance, repetition are two different words, like examples also

          • Just remember the name !

            What does that mean??

    • saran

      It is less than 700 words I think. We need to produce an essay of 1000 to 1200 words.

    • minaxi

      Hello Danish…
      I ke the sincere way.. you brought the essence of given quota. Since It is short essay, therefore dimension are missing, moreover you have compared grasses in three paragraph. Introduction can be made to decode given quota. later on first paragraph to explain it more easily( I liked this example very much, since t is showng maturity of person still they see grass greener on the other side, children have not so much understanding of hardship of life, even if they are facing it)

      I will say… It is lovely peace, but dimensions are missing.
      Thanks.. 🙂

      • Just remember the name !

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  • There is a story of a insect which was extremely frustrated from its life. Its whole insect community was threatened by a mouse. After suffering a lot, this insect went to its community god and indicated its desire to be a mouse as the mouse was so powerful,it thought.Wish fulfilled by community god. After becoming a mouse, it was so happy and cherished until it faced cat. The moment it came to know about power of cat over mouse, it ran towards community god and wished to be a cat. In a short duration it realized the power of dog.It became a dog after submitting petition to community god but couldn’t be satisfied for a long time when it saw the power of lion over whole animal community.Community god again fulfilled its dream of being a lion.Completely satisfied it felt being a lion, roaming all around like a king but got misconception cleared when a bullet of a hunter penetrated his body.

    This story elucidate a very basic and common attribute of human behaviour which is always influenced by other things,always attracted by the things which he doesn’t have.This attribute is developed by a feeling of either dissatisfaction of what one have or by a feeling of desire what others have or both.

    No matter how much one acquire,he will always find what someone else has better.It ostensibly look attractive and good but that might not actually be good.A person working in a private firm finds government job attractive because of extreme assiduous work in his current job but perhaps he has no idea about faults involved in government job. He will not be able to realize this until he himself gets into government job.

    When a man gets married, he finds his single friends life much better than his. Things might look good on the other side, but it may not be true. If a person divorce his wife so that he can enjoy the freedom his single friends are enjoying. For few days he may enjoy his new found freedom but after some days he will realize his mistake and will miss the stability and his loyal wife and will want to get back to the things the way they are. Proverb “door ke dhol suhavne lagte hain” seems suitable in this case.

    Metaphorically, this compound is made of several elements with heterogeneous proportion. That means various feelings of human are responsible for this attribute like feeling of rapaciousness, feeling of dissatisfaction, feeling of unknowingness ,feeling of jealousy, feeling of blind desire without analyzing the whole situation.

    Originator of every feeling is discontentment. If I am not happy with my life then only I will look into others life and will judge and compare their life based on my perceptions and my situation.

    Basically it depends on one’s perception.The glass is either half full or half empty same thing can be viewed from different prospective.Man is never satisfied and always wants what others have. This is main reason of jealousy. Even the most riches people of the world such as Bill Gates cannot afford all the good things in life. On have to be mature enough to feel satisfied with whatever they have.

    The adage is not asking us to stop dreaming for better, but it wants us to be happy and satisfied with our life and not compare or feel jealous of the things others have. Many may have this envious feeling subconsciously.

    It asks us maintain stability in life and stick to decision because the grass will always be greener on the other side.

    • ajay

      good essay egs are solid intro wala story is gud but u can better it ..middle part seems nice but the lasting paras are much better..also u can connect a bit more and diversify the ans by including more broader prospects on the qoutes meanings ….pls review mine as well

  • Bindu

    kindly review my essay friends and give suggestions to improve

  • sankar

    FRNDS PLZ RVW

    “The grass is always greener on the other side of fence”

    The given proverb is the best reflection of the changing nature of human kind. It shows comparing tendency of human being in their life with respect to the prevailing condition in his life vis-à-vis his close ones. Such kind of dream and desire in life may give rise to two types of thoughts to fulfill desirous viz: the positive ones and the other is negative ones. The positive dreams are such that we strive to achieve in our life in the form of having good placement in jobs, respected social status in the society, adequate wealth, well education, knowledge and being kind enough to serve the needy, deprived, destitute and hunger etc.

    On the negative side, to excel our competitors, we may resort to some unethical and unsocial activities like bribery, theft, corruption, killing, insult to women etc which in turn may lead to unrest in the society. However there is a question here whether the comparing nature of human being has any impact directly on his life or not. The answer is in the form of ‘YES’ because it is the human tendency which possesses the nature of a person which can be seen in many forms of activities done by human being throughout their life. These works or activities encompass personal, social, political, economical, administrative, cultural, religious and other fields of life.

    Before going ahead, it is prudent to give some insight on the role of desire, nature and dream and its field of impact. Being human being, we have a normal tendency to compete with other human being in order to excel in the field of amenities of life. But this tendency has no boundary, it has omnipresence i.e. the nature has registered its eternal presence in every living creature of the universe including flora and fauna which is well perceived and scientifically proved that in the Tropical region, trees compete with each other in order to get sunlight. Here getting sunlight means securing one’s survival in such dense forest because it is very difficult for plant species to lead a very healthy and flourishing life due to incessant rainfall, humid climate and high temperatures.

    In the similar fashion, we all come across the story of a greedy dog and a goat. In the case of a dog, once it was crossing a river bridge. In the middle of the bridge, when it looked down, due to its own picture in the water body, it saw another dog has also held a piece of bone in its mouth. Due to its greedy nature, the dog opened its mouth to bark so that it could also take away the piece of bone from the other’s dog. But its greedy nature has resulted in losing its own mouth’s bone and hence it repented for the same later. Similarly a goat was grazing in a green field after grazing for a while; it saw a more greenery field a little far away so it decided to go to that field. But when it reached on the field, it found that the field has less green foods than that of the previous field in which it was grazing earlier.

    The very similar greedy tendency, desire and dream are found in human being who also tries his best in order to live a comparatively better life than his close ones instead of getting satisfied with the available resources and amenities having in his life. This tendency gives two types of result in one’s life i.e positives ones and negative ones. the works of many brave heart like, self-less work of the great soul like Swami Viveka Nand, ISHWAR CHAND VIDYA SAGAR, Dr. Ambedkar ‘MAHATMA GANDHI, Martin Luther king: fight against discrimination of ‘BLACK’ in USA, NELSON MANDELA’s struggle for right to equality in South Africa had rendered good perception, morale and principle before the people to imbibe in their life. The work of ‘MISSILE MAN’ of the India late Dr. A.P.J Kalam and his utmost simplicity, honesty, and kindness to human beings have changed the nature and thought of millions of people towards well-being of human kind. The other positive side of the coin is such that a child like GOVIND JAISWAL who met with insult or humiliation in his life has decided to do his best in order to level his status with his neighbor. Similarly, imbibing an act of humanity from other and trying to do the same has led to the formation of large number of dedicated NGOs like BACHPAN BACHAO ANDOLAN of Noble Laureate SRI KAILASH SATYARTHI, social activists and various other voluntary organization which work down to dusk to save child labour, trafficking of women and girls, serving food to the destitute and deprived children etc.

    Nonetheless, the tendency of nature has also its impact on the negative side of the coin because people often take unsocial and unethical stand and action in order to fulfill their dreams which take place in the form of bribery, theft, killing, trafficking etc. that create law and order problems which in turn lead to social unrest. The other negative impact of greedy (comparing) nature is that people start to follow inhumane practices and acts like sympathy to ISIS, AL QAEDA, JEM etc and do the brutal act for the same in the name of GOD. The growing incidence of suicide, snatching, honor killing, deteriorating personal relationship and family relationship etc all are the greater manifestation of the negative impact of comparing world. This is the comparing nature of human being which gives rise the most brutal incident of NIRBHAYA case.

    However this proverb does not approve not to dream but as a whole it tries to educate people to lead a satisfactory life with the available resources and amenities and also strictly striving for the good cause or positive side of the comparing nature. It also approves the principle of BUDDHIST philosophy: RIGHT CONDUCT’ in the accumulation of wealth, prosperty and amenities in his life in order to have a decent life. For this Buddhist principle, one has to abstain from greedy, inhuman, jealous, envious and cynicism life and adopt the path of honesty, integrity, love, devotion, dedication, care, kindness, affection, sympathy, empathy etc. one has to adopt the way of giving due respect to every fellow human being, flora and fauna of his surroundings. This can be achieved by following the path of inclusiveness, integrity and sustainability

    In conclusion, the biggest learning from the proverb is that one should have first satisfaction with the available resources and wealth otherwise one may become the victim of incidence which happened in case of dog and cat story. And also to have maximum happiness, one has to set a very achievable goal and enjoy in life for achieving without disturbing the right of fellow creature. One has spend a simple, selflessness and non-greedy life and at the same time try one’s best to fulfill one’s right and due dream.

    • ESWAR

      I think, need not to explain meaning of given proverb.

      Comparison part is good.

      Nature part is too good.
      Dog, goat egs are good and connected with conclusion.

      Connecting with ideals, NGOs is superb.
      I learnt a lot from u r essay, today.

    • Hi Sankar 🙂
      Please review my essay. I’ll review yours in the evening 🙂

  • ESWAR

    The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

    If creator has created you in a family, village, society, country then there is some relevance and truth behind it. In creator point of view every one is equal and he gives all opportunities one needs to survive, prosper in his or her locality but a few human tendency is like a meaning of given topic -the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

    Sunil and Anil were two adults living in a remote village. Their village was having abundant resources like water, timber, minerals, cattle and more so nice old people. Other social institutions like hospital, school, factories are nearby to that village. One can say, anyone, mostly can live harmoniously in such environment what one of the two adults -Sunil treated. on the other hand, Anil, was pessimistic about his surroundings value in his life so he left to a town without having a thought of his education, skills, relations whereas Sunil utilised the resources, guidance judiciously and grown up in his locality as an important person. Anil who left village for wanting of better life, had met all hardships from pillar to post to raise his life. He took more time than Sunil to settle in life. So, instead of running here and there; one needs to analyse, experience to make best of it whatever is at beyond your reach may appear to be best but it’s reality is only comes to know when one truly face it.

    Migration is indirect cause of forest fires. People who live in villages under forest often abandon their locality to other parts without giving a thought to valuable resources. It is their dilemma of better prospects at new juncture. They face different types of problems in securing their livelihood at new places. So, they can use their locality resources for growing Mushrooms, Fruits, organic vegetables under tag. By doing so they not economically empowered but can lead a happy life. The state must also support their efforts with MGNREGA, Skill India, GI tag (if relevant) to advance their life . Living of people in few stretches across forst helps to control forest fires as they act as agents of conservation under joint forest management committee.

    A few parents neglect the Government institutions of learning even if it is nearby to their living. They do not participate in social audit,management committee, questioning curriculum for irregularities, mid day meals miuse, raising corruption. They aware that they can’t send their ward to a good school due to their low economy. However, they send their kids to a private school, which is semi standard, having no laboratory, play ground, proper sanitation facilities except high raising class rooms and a team of teachers. If these parents strive for betterment of institute of learning, the Government provided to them, would save their finance and security of child. Incidents like kidnapping, accidents of school bus, sexual abuse of children often come to fore through media, to which parents later suffer most if their ward met any of these incidents, in some cases, complications arise like involvement of police, courts, money etc. As a result unrest starts in life so it is better to exploit the resources available to you rather expecting goodness when you are not sure about something.

    A few pessimistic humans worry more about others’ life than theirs. Some of them even do not lead happy life due to their jealousness, always think as their lifestyle is no use, they can’t do better in life, if they had migrated to new job or place, could have led happening good deeds in life.

    Entrepreneurs also often make mistake by changing manpower for silly reasons without substantiating skills and life of already available personnel who are on roll, treating they are useless and new ones do the best. The new comer may or may not contribute adequately for growth of institutions but surely a person who was dedicated his career in institution will definitely play a prominent role.

    So one must look carefully, contribute, experience at wherever is living in any position instead of getting lost to new ones where possibility of manuevourism is high because the grass is not always green at other side of fence.

    Please review

    • Hi Eswar,please review my essay. I’ll review yours in the evening 🙂

    • rajjoo!!

      can u take the pain to review mine 🙂 plz

      “THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE”

      With the growing population and in turn growing aspirations,needs,demands,experiences which may lead to satisfaction or unsatisfaction this proverb is well applicable. It proverb is used to say that ‘what other people have or their situations are better than ours, maybe what is not true or really so.’ Every aspects or side of anything is not always perfect to just outweigh other. Its just how one feels and comprehends depending upon their own intellect, persperctive, or mental level.

      What seems good for ourselves may turn bad for others or vice-versa. And taking this for granted for one & every situation and comparing with others in turn keeping ourselves at the loser or unlucky side is a wrong judgement. For example – if someone is suffering from some ailment and he/she says that other people are so fortunate that they suffer with no problem may always not come out as a right thinking. Because may be we are not at that person’s place where we can know what actually is going out there. May be the person must be suffering from major other ailment which is undisclosed and we tend to accept that the other person is happy and healthy. It depends on how much transparent is everyone’s life to others. The one who is actually facing a situation only can better describe it.

      All these mismatch and discrepancies come out due to unsatifaction, complacent attitude and under-reported or lack of genuine information. This can be sited with examples where the proverb is well fitted :-

      1. India being a multi-cultural country has its pros and cons at the same time. If we hear of any news about the rape cases, we say india is like this only, people have wrong mindset or the laws are not stringent to set a precedent from deterring others from committing such crimes in future. Out of this we say foreign countries are better, girls are more safe there, people there are more broad-minded, laws are good, etc. But if we have a look at the survey we found that india just comes at the 5th position for rape cases and not even it is in the first third. Countries like south africa, sweden,US, etc are well above us . Here it goes like we feel only India is not safe and other countries are better but the truth is it is actually not so.

      2. With the recent news, India is becoming the most favoured and wanted destination for sex-change surgery. We have always believed that foreign countries serve better , have better infrastructure and equipment but we under-estimate our own capabilities and donot give it a chance and are reluctant to take the initiative which automatically leads to praising the counterpart. Thailand which has always been considered the largest destination for sex change related surgeries is now being replaced by India because of its best after treatment, satisfactory results and that to at the lowest cost compared to other famous destinations. Here having confidence in one capabilities and with fruitful results will not give a feeling of ‘the grass is greener on the other side’ and will lead to ultimate satisfaction in turn setting benchmarks.

      3. There are many cases of human rights violation in our country and we again tend to compare with others and become worrisome that may be with better government and laws may be our greivances will be addressed better. But if we actually go around the world cases of human rights violations iraq,syria,srilanka, etc are well above us in that respect. They have gruesome cases and demand international intervention.

      4. Undoubtedly women in India are also looked down as lower in status then men in every aspect and respect. Reasons being the pre-established norms, mindset, male-dominating society which is linked to cultural teachings too. Wide agitations though have given a lot of ground and we are difinitely seeing a change compared to what the scenario of women was decades ago. But maybe the change is slow but it is surely visible with too many women being employed, educated, in leadership roles, etc. But still due to lack ofspeedily and immediate results we become dissatisfied and again say women are more empowered in bigger developed countries and have more freedom. But the case is at many cases similar or more serious than ours. Like pakistan, other islamic countries, china, and many more.

      5. There are other aspects like political,administrative, social,religious, etc where we always think of as if the system or situation is better than ours and become judgemental.

      There is always two faces of a coin. There can be many aspects of the same thing which may be taken up differently by different people on the level comprehending and enduring. No situation is big or small rather is taken up differently and raised to various levels of judgements. The proverb ” the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” is well applicable in today’s scenario where we or the society due to their own perceptions and experiences land up to wrong notions and undermine ourselves and raise our problems to a level which is actually maybe minimal in a real sense. This happens out of unsatisfaction, illusions, wrongly informed or conceived information, etc about anything or anyone’s life and out of this comparison we become disheartened, unsatisfied, complacent, complaining the fate, thus making ourselves only weak to fight and motivate for present and future sufferings.

      The proverb can well be compared with the phenomena ie; “Mirage” we encounter during summers days which gives an illusion of water on the roads which is actually not be real. The best way is to fathom, solve, contribute, check out for the realities of every problem or situation considering it the problem of the whole society thus building up a great future and a nation to live in .

      • ESWAR

        Please wait dude, I will review by late night

    • dada ap itna hat ke essay kyu likhte hai ;p
      1.intro ok
      2.only the dimension of appreciating and improving one’s own things have been elaborated and that elaboration is fantastic except lack of connectivity…add other dimensions too…also examples were more than philosophy
      conclusion b ok tha agar sirf is dimension ki baat karein…
      thank you

    • yogi

      I don’t know whether it is right to make our own interpretation of the given quote or not, but if i go by the actual meaning of the quote ur interpretation is bit different. You have assumed the other side in islolation, but as per the actual meaning of the quote the each case should be analysed from both the sides. So, when u are saying that anyone is migrating to a new place bcos of some opportunities in that area, then, u should also discuss that people from that place migrate to the first place due to some other reason as they see different benefits in that area. You have analysed just one side of the case, but the quote demands the perspectives from both the sides.
      That is the main flaw in ur essay,
      one good thing is that u looked for the implication of the quote in the social, educational,economic sphere in sufficient depth,
      flow is not good, the paras are in silos, try to link them
      concluding line is good, just add more content to the conclusion.
      keep writing, we all will improve
      thanks 🙂

      • ESWAR

        Thanks dear dost for value feedback

        I want to be real while writing. Yes, I made mistake, it is my ignorance for not looking other side too. Now I learnt for any philoshipical topic I need to view it both sides. In previous week essay I literally interpreted the quote, today analysed on only side and paragraphs not linked
        So all these to be avoided, I believe u had also committed same mistakes in your beginning. Ur writing skills are amazing and superb. Please find time if u come cross my write up anywhere to review. A humble request. Thanks

  • sandeep goyal

    There is an adage in Hindi ” Ghar ki CHin

  • missionmode

    The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

    As
    a small kid, my birthday would fall within two days of my brother’s and
    we would celebrate them together on the intervening weekend. People
    would always bring us both gifts, mine being girlier than his. I would
    always want what he got. For me his toys were the ever unattainable,
    proverbial green grass.

    According
    to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, once you fulfill one need it stops
    being a motivator and you are motivated to achieve a higher, different
    need – the old need becoming irrelevant. This captures the fleeting,
    impulsive behavior of human beings to always want what they don’t have.
    Our higher needs, according to Maslow, are such wants without which we
    could survive but we nevertheless want them.

    This
    want encompasses two key features. Undermining your own
    resources/achievements and exaggerating others’. This inevitably leads
    to an unending search for more. The few people who don’t suffer from
    this are either content or too lazy depending on what they are giving up
    on.

    For eg., for an Indian laborer in
    a village living on daily wages but meeting his family’s bare
    necessities, the idea of a job in the city might be too irresistible. He
    might be uninformed about the harsh realities, his perception formed by
    stories of the few who might have succeeded or who exaggerate their
    success. In this cost benefit analysis of what he has v/s what he could
    have, the allure of the unknown is likely to triumph. However, once he
    realizes for himself the truth after giving up on what he had he might
    be more cynical while evaluating his options in the future. Policy wise,
    making all the information available to him to make an informed choice
    is a priority.

    Another
    example in our social life could be Indians copying their western
    counterparts and getting more westernized while the westerners are
    importing everything from yoga to butter naan. We don’t know what their
    effects might be, yet the global world is coming ever closer strongly on
    the belief that exposure to other’s culture will be beneficial.

    Further,
    in climate change negotiations, western countries believe they are
    going out of their way to accommodate the developing countries and would
    want to be in their shoes, or so they portray. On the other side of the
    aisle, developing countries might willingly exchange with the developed
    world as well.

    Yet,
    this innate human quality could also be used to our own advantage – by
    changing the payoffs such that grass is actually greener when you come
    out to the other side. The self reward theory wherein we could use
    timely rewards like candies to motivate us to get through an event or a
    study session is also based on such behavior.

    Historically,
    this want for more and want for what the other one has has led to many
    conflicts and competition as well. For example, without any regard to
    the people of Kashmir, Pakistan’s policy believes they and Kashmiris
    will gain from a Kashmir integrated with them. This underplays the
    negative payoffs and exaggerates the possible positives from such an
    event. It is when possibilities become reality that the real cost
    benefit analysis happens. Chinese attempts to claim sovereignty over
    South China Sea could be seen in a similar light where the possibility
    of controlling the sea, no matter how costly the same is monetarily and
    diplomatically, seems to be the driving force.

    Achievements
    from possible trade agreements and the envisaged gains from such are
    always a key selling point when any deal is struck for India as a whole –
    because a post free trade society a society that others are
    participating in seems to be the pull. A different example could be the
    race for weapons that all the large
    countries in the world are participating in. They want the best of what
    everyone has while at the same time they don’t underplay what they have
    as it is strategically imperative not to.

    To
    prevent aforementioned escalation of conflict in search for what the
    other has and pressure one’s own self to look for more, one needs to
    practice a philosophy of contentment. Being motivated by the want of
    more while not adversely affecting others might be noble, but the idea
    of mindless copying and unending eye on the other side could also be
    detrimental.

  • Jaya Swatantra

    THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE.

    When Smile Pinky movie got international award and pinky a small girl born with cleft lips got international recognition. Many children started admiring the fate she has and dreamt about them to be there some day. Its an apt quote that the grass appears greener on the other side of the fence always. As in this case everyone recognized the fame she got but never even thought even once about the trauma of being born with cleft lips. Its common tendency to consider others in a better position which takes one away from accepting the reality.

    This quote holds much importance in today’s highly competitive world. It takes the form of an excuse for being a defaulter, a loser, procrastination and assuming a false satisfaction. When one outperforms others there are hardly few individuals who realize ones acumen, hardships and struggles . When one country grows economically the onus is put to its rich resources and its geographical position commonly. The analysis of this topic would help resolving the cause of failure and help building a strong relationship which grows with understanding , concern and a pure sense of belonging. This holds much importance in the present era of globalization too .

    We are heading towards a more competitive world gradually. Competition to attain a decent standard of living. There is huge pressure of performance and excellence. Education term is getting confined to the brimming coaching institutes these days. There are rare examples who excel without taking any coaching but if they, we often hear the comments about him/her to be god gifted. That comment of god gift itself take that person to be in better position from all others who have not been the God’s favorite.

    But is this geuine? Can any progress be brought without honest efforts?. The answer is complete no. Individuals try to shield their mistakes by uttering such comments. If one keeps eyes on others only for being in a more privileged position he would end up getting nothing. As gradually this comment would become an innate characteristic of the personality. He will escape from working hard and facing the grim realities.

    It is always easier to see the brighter side of the picture. How simply do we enjoy seeing movies in auditorium or homes taking popcorns and beverages. We dream for the silver screen life. As their famed life seems better and convenient. But there is huge difference in what appears and the reality. The long tiring work schedule and spice free foods , working at times of ill health too. Moreover these filmstars are not free to move like us, always surrounded by body guards. They do not even take much time for themselves. They can not afford to skip their hard gym schedules even once. Life is indeed tough.

    It takes an exra mile for getting healthy, wealthy and famous. Ask any business tycoon, civil servant , doctors, engineers that life is not a cup of tea merely. With growing position in the society the responsibility grows. If one is competent enough to hold the responsibility gracefully then he will continue to earn fame and wealth. There is a direct relationship between wealth and fame. Only comes to those who consistently work for that instead of being complacent of their past achievements.

    Abraham linkan US first president and many only know about the powers he hold while remaining to the coveted place but how many of us know about the hardships he went before that?. He lost his wife in an early age, lost the election to the legislature many times, undergone depression and met with so many drastic failures but he could gather strength to fight back and emerge a true winner.

    The tendency to consider others in a better position is dubious and far from the reality. Everyone has to maintain a place in the society by sincere efforts only ,there is no short cut to success because lessons learnt from downfalls and failures are precious for learning and advancing.

    This holds true in the success of any nation too. We may take the examples of Japan and Singapore how successfully these nations build their rapport by judicious use of natural and human resources. Japan was crippled due to explosion of atom bomb in the second world war. Singapore earlier was a part of Malaysia after being excluded from it , it set new parameters of advance economy and success. Success has no set definition and it can never be put to judgement by others.

    Those who are categorizing and are being judgmental are getting biased towards themselves only. As a perfect demarcation of success may never be done. Scathing bad remarks for under performing governance and inflation has become the common trend these days. We think as they have necessary authority they should work for curbing inflation and welfare. Often people comment if I would have been in that position , I would have certainly done so many things but again it is partially true as getting to the top needs perfect balance which is really hard.

    Every time when we see others success and happiness. We must try to realize the very road map filled with troubles and turbulence and also adhere the patience and perseverance shown for getting success. Only then one must get the holistic picture. The grass is not always greener but one must consistently nourish it with water and nutrients to make it greener and lively. There are genius individuals but they too have to put efforts and pass the examinations. All of us may not aspire to become a genius, but there is no reason we should not try to aim for the best that we can produce. We end up comparing our marks with others in the examination of life without giving a thought that each one has a different question paper.

    • Jaya Swatantra

      Please review!!

    • ESWAR

      I think the words like analysis of this topic, quote need not write, it may appear odd to examiner. Life is not easy, which was explained in many paragraphs. Japan egs is repetitive with the same context of hard work. Excellent conclusion. Please review mine.

      • Jaya Swatantra

        Thanks Eswar ji… for review.. please give me some time.. would really review deeply.. 🙂

    • charu

      I am glad you remember that movie
      Good essay nice flow, you have touched various aspects like comparing countries, powerful people.
      Good thing is that your essay is full of positiveness and a sense that hard work can achieve anything.
      Just correct spelling of Abraham Lincoln.

      Have a look at mine if time permits.

      • Jaya Swatantra

        Thanks Charu… would love to review yours.. 🙂

    • Hi Jaya ji 🙂
      Please review my essay when time permits. Need to know your views. I’ll review yours in the evening 🙂

      • Jaya Swatantra

        Sorry for delay.. 🙂

    • Hello Ji
      – topic entails 2 dimensions- perceptional & real. The introduction is heavily tilted in favor of ‘perceptional’ thing i.e. other people have perceptions that grass is greener. However, the later paras suggest that you have brought the mix of perception and reality well. So, some work is needed on introductory paras
      – negative side of the argument i.e. whether the grass is always greener is missing [just a tangential argument in conclusion is given]
      – content is quite good and multiple areas have been touched
      – flow needs improvement [however, in this essay the content is in a position to handle the missing flow], try working on that

      • Jaya Swatantra

        Hi Palash, how are you… thanks for review… would really love to review yours… 🙂

    • yogi

      Hello Jaya 🙂

      my views:-

      Intro : good, chalo ek achhi movie pata chal gayi 😀

      Main body: how the coaching waala para is related to the theme??, I could not relate.

      Movies bahut dekhte ho aap 😛

      Vaise that watching movie and dreaming was a good example. Just a qn–.> Life is indeed tough.—whose life and for whom it is tough?

      It is Lincoln NOT Linkan and he was not the first prez.of USA, he was the 16th prez+ it should be his wife lost him at an early age as it was he who died early not his wife. Example is good, but facts 🙁

      Japan and Singapore –this para is good,

      I could not relate how the pars on inflation and all that is in line with the theme of the essay, ???

      Conclusion is good

      Keep writing

      Om Shanti 🙂

      • Jaya Swatantra

        Points duly noted Yogi ji.. thanks for reviewing.. 🙂

  • Shaktimaan

    “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”

    Being human means having desire for something better from present condition; having contemplation to get that fascination and then starting comparison of that aspiration with those who has already posses that happiness. Such predicaments are nothing but the push toward the state of instability which further engrossed unsatisfactory. In this above stated proverb being “greener”of grass denotes for all such propensities and cravings.

    But why “other side”of the fence seems “greener” when we too have that grass loans? How we judged that grass on our side in not so flourishing and refreshing with greenness? The answer is lies in the way of propounding, in the way of anticipation and in the way of generating perception. In actual, human forget to introspect, its“own”hidden potential and start undermining its capability and capacity to get enliven with its own efforts. And just perceive with his own bounded thought process that whatever the other one achieved is the fact of “luck”, as from far sight we can’t evaluate that hard work, that passionate craving which that “other”carry within itself while his struggle phase. It is one’s own consciousness which become deciding factor to see grass greener either of its own or others.

    Then what one should do to not to jump fence to enjoy greenness of other side and to be happy with its own side? Simple, one has to start pouring its owned present wealth (grass) with maturity, rationality and scientific temperament (water) to convert them as asset and resource (greenness) for life long while simultaneously plucking out of unwanted offerings (weed). Because such indigestible means too seems green on their germination but are not fruit full for longer terms and may possess danger/ threat to longevity.

    The other disadvantage of being jumping fences is getting outcome with no admirable result. Means such jumping create confusion and frustration only, as one fails to decide the path to follow and keep roaming / wandering all other directions which actually do not required. Therefore it is better to take some time for “myself”, as it may seem mean, but one has to remember “we can’t serve others excellently till we satisfied ourselves in best way”therefore to prepare “green” we should not hesitate from becoming “mean”.

    Let’s take a ride toward reality, as india being a developing nation always aspire for becoming developed and prosperous, even though india from past some decades divert her policies in such a way which can push her to “emerge” that’s too rapidly. But here too some ground realities need to encounter first such dreaming will not work till the presence of inequality; poverty; mal-nutrition; corruption and so on in our surroundings. These actualities reveals a bitter truth, so how to become advanced nation? therefore what we actually want is to open up more employment opportunities, availability of cheap credits, accessibility of social infrastructure (school, health), facility of getting three time full plate nutritious food, and recognition to every gender – every caste – every religion a status of parity. These are the very foundation of becoming ripened nation. And current govts efforts like MII, SISI, MUDRA, BBBP, SSA, and SC’s ruling regarding inclusion of transgender, ban on orthodox mentality of stopping women in temples are apploudable. Such efforts “greening” our own gardens, for the demography to take dividend out of it, not for its own individual growth, but for nation building also.

    As above para allure “dreaming will not work”is it true?, does aspire for becoming good like other, will lead to fall? The answer is no!, in fact yearn for positive things instil positivity in you and push you to give your 100% for that desired thing. So one must have big dreams but that dreams should not be overestimated, mean should carry the substantiality and you too have a that courage and faith in yourself to make it true and reality to live in.

    So, to have scenery like greenery in your ambience, first stop looking outside your coverage, be within your own limits, but not bound your imaginations, always solicits for inspirations, and open up yourself as maximum as you can and see just under your foot you are nowhere but in the loan that you ripened and carved looks very very greener than everything else other around. And now to keep that enjoyment, under your own control then don’t forget that periodic watering / nourishment of your efforts and hard work.

    • rajjoo!!

      hi shaktimaan…. again plz review mine 🙂

    • rajjoo!!

      hihii….

      “THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE”

      With the growing population and in turn growing aspirations,needs,demands,experiences which may lead to satisfaction or unsatisfaction this proverb is well applicable. It proverb is used to say that ‘what other people have or their situations are better than ours, maybe what is not true or really so.’ Every aspects or side of anything is not always perfect to just outweigh other. Its just how one feels and comprehends depending upon their own intellect, persperctive, or mental level.

      What seems good for ourselves may turn bad for others or vice-versa. And taking this for granted for one & every situation and comparing with others in turn keeping ourselves at the loser or unlucky side is a wrong judgement. For example – if someone is suffering from some ailment and he/she says that other people are so fortunate that they suffer with no problem may always not come out as a right thinking. Because may be we are not at that person’s place where we can know what actually is going out there. May be the person must be suffering from major other ailment which is undisclosed and we tend to accept that the other person is happy and healthy. It depends on how much transparent is everyone’s life to others. The one who is actually facing a situation only can better describe it.

      All these mismatch and discrepancies come out due to unsatifaction, complacent attitude and under-reported or lack of genuine information. This can be sited with examples where the proverb is well fitted :-

      1. India being a multi-cultural country has its pros and cons at the same time. If we hear of any news about the rape cases, we say india is like this only, people have wrong mindset or the laws are not stringent to set a precedent from deterring others from committing such crimes in future. Out of this we say foreign countries are better, girls are more safe there, people there are more broad-minded, laws are good, etc. But if we have a look at the survey we found that india just comes at the 5th position for rape cases and not even it is in the first third. Countries like south africa, sweden,US, etc are well above us . Here it goes like we feel only India is not safe and other countries are better but the truth is it is actually not so.

      2. With the recent news, India is becoming the most favoured and wanted destination for sex-change surgery. We have always believed that foreign countries serve better , have better infrastructure and equipment but we under-estimate our own capabilities and donot give it a chance and are reluctant to take the initiative which automatically leads to praising the counterpart. Thailand which has always been considered the largest destination for sex change related surgeries is now being replaced by India because of its best after treatment, satisfactory results and that to at the lowest cost compared to other famous destinations. Here having confidence in one capabilities and with fruitful results will not give a feeling of ‘the grass is greener on the other side’ and will lead to ultimate satisfaction in turn setting benchmarks.

      3. There are many cases of human rights violation in our country and we again tend to compare with others and become worrisome that may be with better government and laws may be our greivances will be addressed better. But if we actually go around the world cases of human rights violations iraq,syria,srilanka, etc are well above us in that respect. They have gruesome cases and demand international intervention.

      4. Undoubtedly women in India are also looked down as lower in status then men in every aspect and respect. Reasons being the pre-established norms, mindset, male-dominating society which is linked to cultural teachings too. Wide agitations though have given a lot of ground and we are difinitely seeing a change compared to what the scenario of women was decades ago. But maybe the change is slow but it is surely visible with too many women being employed, educated, in leadership roles, etc. But still due to lack ofspeedily and immediate results we become dissatisfied and again say women are more empowered in bigger developed countries and have more freedom. But the case is at many cases similar or more serious than ours. Like pakistan, other islamic countries, china, and many more.

      5. There are other aspects like political,administrative, social,religious, etc where we always think of as if the system or situation is better than ours and become judgemental.

      There is always two faces of a coin. There can be many aspects of the same thing which may be taken up differently by different people on the level comprehending and enduring. No situation is big or small rather is taken up differently and raised to various levels of judgements. The proverb ” the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” is well applicable in today’s scenario where we or the society due to their own perceptions and experiences land up to wrong notions and undermine ourselves and raise our problems to a level which is actually maybe minimal in a real sense. This happens out of unsatisfaction, illusions, wrongly informed or conceived information, etc about anything or anyone’s life and out of this comparison we become disheartened, unsatisfied, complacent, complaining the fate, thus making ourselves only weak to fight and motivate for present and future sufferings.

      The proverb can well be compared with the phenomena ie; “Mirage” we encounter during summers days which gives an illusion of water on the roads which is actually not be real. The best way is to fathom, solve, contribute, check out for the realities of every problem or situation considering it the problem of the whole society thus building up a great future and a nation to live in .

      • Shaktimaan

        hi rajooo!!
        very well done fm lst tym:)
        note:- dont write eassy in point form:)
        – examples are good but yeh philo wal aeassy h na! toh examples ko back karo thodi austerity bharr gyaan k sath:)
        – most of the eg> allure one meaning >> try to add other perspectives too like u try to do in ur 2nd last para>> which is well explained:)
        -ur conclusion addinh one more dimension better to include it in inner part of ur eassy bcoz it is awsomly written:)
        – just summerise ur eassy in concl>> bt no repetion with content>> jst only essence of ur whole eassy:)
        if u find cents of no use>> jst throw dm out:)
        thank u:)
        keep writing>> even m too very poor in eassy writing:)

        • kisi ki itni aukaaat nahi jo mere bhai ko poor essay writer kah de..not even u ;D..u write welll…but i dont want to tell positives as we are here to improve…cheers

        • rajjoo!!

          my first essay was the best no negative comments i got.. 😛
          but after dat i am loosing interest to write every sunday and hence the results ….will write next time with same zeal 🙂 thankyou so much 🙂

    • HappyIAS

      Hey Shaktimaan,
      Intro is okay.
      Other side k flaws zyada de diye aapne.. apna potential thoda clearly aa ni ra..
      “As above para allure “dreaming will not work”is it true?, does aspire for becoming good like other, will lead to fall? The answer is no!, ” – grammatically incorrect. Rephrase it.

      Conclusion bhi clear ni lag raha..
      aaj utna maza ni aaya aapka essay padhke.. pehleki tarah..
      Sorry, I could be wrong.
      Please review mine bhai. Thanks. 🙂

      • Shaktimaan

        han bhai meko khud kuch jyada acha ni laga… thanks buddy sahi bol re aap:)

    • hello mere sher..kaise ho?
      1.decent start but can be simplified…try to make it attractive
      2. apne wealth ki value karo aur use banao….well explained ….but comparison part was short…we can’t be coopmanduk na….see others greenary..if something is worth,strive and achieve…so balance is needed
      3.too much use of environment..fence, greenary ,other side ,water etc may backfire as they make essay irritating
      4.the message which u wanted to convey in conclusion was awesome….just change the wordings
      thank you

      • Shaktimaan

        thank u bhai:):)
        aapka sher bilkul fine:) bha… ahem ahem ko charn vandna kehna !! 😀
        han sahii bol re o aap >> balance, wordings>> jaruri h engaging bnane k liye:)
        han aise hi mistakes nikalte rehna bhai….:):)

        • dhero ashirvaad for prelims bhai ahem ahem ki taraf se : D
          ha bhai till mains mistakes hi nikalni hai ek dusre ki
          gud nyt

          • Kon hai bhai, mujhe b bta 😉 😀

            • bhai vahi hai jo aap samajh rahe hai…LBSNAA mein milwa b denge..D
              lets gear up for achieving dream at 22…when i came on insights u were the most admired person by me…following insights since jan 2015 and writing all answers silently ..keep inspiring me guru ji…wish to be with u..jyada tarif nahi karunga varna tu upar udne lagega…keep moving and inspiring 🙂

              • Haha thanks bhai for your kind words
                Han milna to hai yar 😛
                Hopefully, we’ll meet at LBSNAA 😀

    • minaxi

      Hello Shaktimaan…

      Sorry Friend.. It will be a critical review…

      Introduction gives a wrong connotation of desire to achieve more. and first line.. Human being means to desire achieve something better? I think, I may be one aspect of human nature, but human being is more than that.

      You could explain the meaning of given quota in better way, so that you did not have to clarify the words in bracket in respect of words of quota.

      Fourth paragraph has beautiful meaning, but it is demanding lot of attention to comprehend it effectively, and if not read with caution can create confusion( I got confused at first read).

      Let’s take a ride of reality? I am not experienced essay writer, but with my limited knowledge, I feel, writer must apply philosophy mixed with reality from start, even we must search the philosophy behind reality. So, this line can be avoided.

      writing so much schemes and solution without proper explanation can give a feel to reviewer that, now you are fulfilling the quota for example in hurry and without consideration.

      Sorry Friend for being critical..
      By the way.. I have to learn good English and language skills from you.

      P.s- I have bunked lot of classes in school just to see Shaktiman at 11.30 am . 🙂

      Thanks..

      • Shaktimaan

        hey no no >> vry happy to c critical rvw>> infact thanks a lot !!
        for intro portion>> actually i v writtn >> being human>> not human being >> wo being human isliye ki it z tendency of human nature naa>> to go for more n more , human ki desire ni khatam hoti na>> wo isliye aisa lika tha >> well thodi clerity ki zarurat h isme:):)
        thanks bud onc again:)

    • yogi

      Hello Shakti Bhai 🙂

      Let me first give u the grammatical mistakes that irritated me as an evaluator to ur essay.

      has already posses—already possess.

      Such predicaments are nothing but the push toward the state of instability which further engrossed unsatisfactory.—bhai why so complicated, be simple

      The answer is lies—the answer lies

      human forget—human forgets

      write his instead of “its” for human

      india being a developing nation always aspire—aspires

      india from past some decades divert—diverted

      which can push her to “emerge” that’s too rapidly.—-check this out “emerge as a global leader and that’s too early

      These actualities reveals a bitter —reveal

      As above para allure—allures

      100% —write 100 percent

      There are many more, do something for it, it could cost you a lot, dara nahi raha huin, galti bata raha huin, some English teachers are so damn serious about such mistakes that they will burst their answer in form of marks.

      Then what one should do to not to jump fence to enjoy greenness of other side and to be happy with its own side? Simple, one has to start pouring its owned present wealth (grass) with maturity, rationality and scientific temperament (water) to convert them as asset and resource (greenness) for life long while simultaneously plucking out of unwanted offerings (weed)—-phoda hein bhai, gazzab 🙂

      MII, SISI, MUDRA, BBBP, SSA, and SC’s ruling –I don’t think it is needed, even if u are writing right their full form,

      Conclusion : superb !

      Content is good, philo is dominating add some examples to make convincing arguments

      Could have written more ,it ended very soon, so not many things to point out.

      Thanks 🙂

      • Shaktimaan

        thank u bhaii!!
        han yeh bahut behuda mistakes h>> sahi bol re aap teacher will deduct my marks 4 sure 🙁
        han chota h eassy 🙁
        nxt tym definitely errors supresss krne ki puri kosish hogi by heart:):)
        thanks bhai aise galti nikalte rehna>>>wl improve:)
        thank u:)

    • Hello Shakti, my views-
      – you have written less with grammatical errors
      – too few dimensions have been touched. Bring some ‘real’ context of how we make comparisons with others and the associated pitfalls
      – write full form of schemes
      – para on India has been stretched and it should have encompassed both the side of arguments. You could have first talked about the way people compare India with China and then you could have written all that you quoted
      – dreams should not be overestimated ? Doesn’t go well with the kind of spirit you have maintained throughout your essay
      – I feel more examples should be added to first justify the meaning of quote. A fine balance of GS and philo is always needed to keep the write engrossed
      Overall, fine but improvement needed and it is high time that you should work for zero grammatical errors.

      • Shaktimaan

        haan improvement… pura effort h… nxt tym km hojaye mistakes!
        thank u batiee:)

    • Eco-friendly

      bro wrote small but wrote well (except for the grammar). Your third para and conclusion is what i liked most.
      For improvements-
      1) You have to give more dimensions and more examples so that things look much simple.
      2) India part can be made little concise.
      3) Write more bhai. Even if it takes little more time. Because it is here when we can practice more and more.

      All the best…..:)

  • ZOOZOO

    please review freinds…

  • charu

    Kindly review.
    3rd image is 1st page
    1st image is 2nd page
    2nd image is 3rd page
    4th image is 4th page
    by mistake I have uploaded in wrong sequence and not able to correct it 🙁

  • minaxi

    “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”

    It is in nature of humankind to strive for better and best. And human being is never content with his present situation. And to do or achieve best, he see toward others for motivation and inspiration. And it is not a bad idea to look toward others to compare between situations. But when a person undermines the quality of environment, things or situation, he possess, and miscalculate the other’s situation and hardship they are going through to maintain their present situation. Then this tendency of first individual land him in a situation, when he find the” Grass is always geen on other side of fence” and first individual never find himself content with his present situation.

    This is not only true for individuals but almost every entity or system is prone to such behaviour either it is social, organisational or national.As an individual, a person want to acheive the things, position and luxary, which are possed and enjoyed by his friend or peers, but he is deprived off, just like a baby who always cry for his cousine’s toy rather than playing with his own.

    Even on national level, A less economically developed country suppose India also strive to achieve the socio-economic standard, technological advancement, individual lifestyle etc of a developed country like United States of America.Therefore, It is clear that, One is prone find situation of others either it is personal, social or economic of others better than oneself.

    But why does one find others better off than oneself? One might grass green on other side of fence because of fear and fantasy, which work in consecutive way. The possibility of fear is many fold and it occurs due to discontent or dissatisfaction from present situation or environment. Fear of boredom, fear of commitment, fear of insecurity due to various reason like competitions, or lack of confidence in personal and professional life.

    And to deal with these fears, one have compromise the desire he crave for. And he always think that these are possibilities and opportunities out there with more freedom of thinking and action and autonomy and better environment for development, And other are enjoying them , just like a person who is trapped in a job with strict boss due to his poor financial situation , this person will always find his friends, who are employed in other companies in better situation. Because, this person has fear to retain his job.

    In such situation, element of fantasy come in light, when one began to anticipate the future course of action and about sweet and desirable result out of it. And it prompt the person or entity to change the present life pattern, job, relationship status etc.

    But, Will changing the life pattern or landing on other side side of fence will make the grass green forever? Or what may be the consequence of it? Generally the external behaviour of a person, or how he see the world is projection of his inner world. If he is discontent with outerworld, there must be a destratification in his inner- world too. At first, crossing the fence to get greener portion may bring satisfaction or joy but gradually, this side of fence too began to turn grey.And previous side looks greener and better.

    Therefore internal dissatisfaction or discontent resulted into discontent for present situation in outer world. And this internal dissatisfaction never let one to experience stability, security and satisfaction in any environment for longer time.And such tendency can proved disastrous for personal relationship, better prospects for professional life and possibility for improvement and evolution.

    Therefore it wll not wrong to say that, by seeing other side of fence greener, One is taking the present situation in granted and he is more interested in other’s achievement rather than his own improvement and enjoyment. And this resulted into discontent.

    Then How can one become content as well improve himself? To content and improve oneself require the improvement in the way one see the outer world and oneself. First of all, one have to realize that, Though other may appear in better condition than oneself, Yet there are many hidden facts are not visible at first or oversight.USA might be looked financially better to any Indian, Yet real situation of inequality and weakness of social relations come in light when someone analyse it more closely.

    Another thing is the psychological and physical cost another person or entity pay to achieve and retain the environment, for which one strive for.we may envious of our friends for their financial well-being, But they have worked hard and invested their resources and time to achieve what they have today, and If one may assume easily, they also faced the spell of discontent and dissatisfaction during whole process of success but never lose their effort to improve the present situation rather than change it straight forward.In same way, USA has also acheived present status due to it’s continous effots and hardship it went through.

    At personal level, For being content, One have to sure about his desires and destination after analysing it’s potential ,possibilities and also weakness. In this way,person can give right direction to his thoughts and action for achieving the right goal and objective of his life. A person must strive for improvement in present condition by improving his own skills and being persistent and determined to achieve the desired level of outcome.Rather taking things in granted, One must be able to evaluate the just value of things and relationship he have.

    Our country India, might not able to use machines and robotics in every field of economy, But do we need machines and robots in every field? when we have such a vast workforce. Here our potential lie, and by providing skills and training to this workforce we can convert this potential into performance. Machines might not provide content or improvement to India or Indians, But economic progress will definitely do this task.

    Thus ”The grass is always greener on the other side” indicates the situation of grey side area of field more rather than greener side. It might be right that grass is greener on other side or it might worng too. But If one is feeling that grass is greener on other side, than definetly grass is not green this side and it need nourishment and better care to make it and retain it green.

    Plz review…

    • xyz

      Good essay Minaxi. Learned so much from ur essay.
      But view from my side: . “It might be right that grass is greener on other side or it might worng too”- is a weak statement. and you are concluding ur essay by saying this. I guess conclusion should be a strong statement where u should take a stand.
      I might be wrong . Please review mine if u find time.

      • minaxi

        Hello Deepak..
        Thanks Friend.. Yes.. conclusion is very weak… just tiresome essay. 🙁
        Well I have read two essay and are providing my review on them.
        I will review your at eve with peaceful mind(right now my brain is full of info)
        Sorry in advance for delay and Thanks for review. 🙂

    • Hi Minaxi 🙂
      Please find time to review my essay. Would like to know your views. I’ll check yours in the evening 🙂

    • rajjoo!!

      “THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE”

      With the growing population and in turn growing aspirations,needs,demands,experiences which may lead to satisfaction or unsatisfaction this proverb is well applicable. It proverb is used to say that ‘what other people have or their situations are better than ours, maybe what is not true or really so.’ Every aspects or side of anything is not always perfect to just outweigh other. Its just how one feels and comprehends depending upon their own intellect, persperctive, or mental level.

      What seems good for ourselves may turn bad for others or vice-versa. And taking this for granted for one & every situation and comparing with others in turn keeping ourselves at the loser or unlucky side is a wrong judgement. For example – if someone is suffering from some ailment and he/she says that other people are so fortunate that they suffer with no problem may always not come out as a right thinking. Because may be we are not at that person’s place where we can know what actually is going out there. May be the person must be suffering from major other ailment which is undisclosed and we tend to accept that the other person is happy and healthy. It depends on how much transparent is everyone’s life to others. The one who is actually facing a situation only can better describe it.

      All these mismatch and discrepancies come out due to unsatifaction, complacent attitude and under-reported or lack of genuine information. This can be sited with examples where the proverb is well fitted :-

      1. India being a multi-cultural country has its pros and cons at the same time. If we hear of any news about the rape cases, we say india is like this only, people have wrong mindset or the laws are not stringent to set a precedent from deterring others from committing such crimes in future. Out of this we say foreign countries are better, girls are more safe there, people there are more broad-minded, laws are good, etc. But if we have a look at the survey we found that india just comes at the 5th position for rape cases and not even it is in the first third. Countries like south africa, sweden,US, etc are well above us . Here it goes like we feel only India is not safe and other countries are better but the truth is it is actually not so.

      2. With the recent news, India is becoming the most favoured and wanted destination for sex-change surgery. We have always believed that foreign countries serve better , have better infrastructure and equipment but we under-estimate our own capabilities and donot give it a chance and are reluctant to take the initiative which automatically leads to praising the counterpart. Thailand which has always been considered the largest destination for sex change related surgeries is now being replaced by India because of its best after treatment, satisfactory results and that to at the lowest cost compared to other famous destinations. Here having confidence in one capabilities and with fruitful results will not give a feeling of ‘the grass is greener on the other side’ and will lead to ultimate satisfaction in turn setting benchmarks.

      3. There are many cases of human rights violation in our country and we again tend to compare with others and become worrisome that may be with better government and laws may be our greivances will be addressed better. But if we actually go around the world cases of human rights violations iraq,syria,srilanka, etc are well above us in that respect. They have gruesome cases and demand international intervention.

      4. Undoubtedly women in India are also looked down as lower in status then men in every aspect and respect. Reasons being the pre-established norms, mindset, male-dominating society which is linked to cultural teachings too. Wide agitations though have given a lot of ground and we are difinitely seeing a change compared to what the scenario of women was decades ago. But maybe the change is slow but it is surely visible with too many women being employed, educated, in leadership roles, etc. But still due to lack ofspeedily and immediate results we become dissatisfied and again say women are more empowered in bigger developed countries and have more freedom. But the case is at many cases similar or more serious than ours. Like pakistan, other islamic countries, china, and many more.

      5. There are other aspects like political,administrative, social,religious, etc where we always think of as if the system or situation is better than ours and become judgemental.

      There is always two faces of a coin. There can be many aspects of the same thing which may be taken up differently by different people on the level comprehending and enduring. No situation is big or small rather is taken up differently and raised to various levels of judgements. The proverb ” the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” is well applicable in today’s scenario where we or the society due to their own perceptions and experiences land up to wrong notions and undermine ourselves and raise our problems to a level which is actually maybe minimal in a real sense. This happens out of unsatisfaction, illusions, wrongly informed or conceived information, etc about anything or anyone’s life and out of this comparison we become disheartened, unsatisfied, complacent, complaining the fate, thus making ourselves only weak to fight and motivate for present and future sufferings.

      The proverb can well be compared with the phenomena ie; “Mirage” we encounter during summers days which gives an illusion of water on the roads which is actually not be real. The best way is to fathom, solve, contribute, check out for the realities of every problem or situation considering it the problem of the whole society thus building up a great future and a nation to live in .

      • ESWAR

        Intro ok.
        2. Para ok.
        3 Good u have connected human rights angle
        4. Para diverted from topic
        5. If u want to compare the aspects as written by u compare them society or country like how Indian think American life in America and vice versa.
        6. If paragraphs are numbered then continue upto last paragraph.
        Conclusion need more elaboration and stick to small paragraph. U could have written an example. Nice attempt. All the best dost

        • rajjoo!!

          ty so much 🙂 🙂

    • ALOK KUMAR

      A good engaging essay.

    • HappyIAS

      Hey Minaxi,

      Intro is very good. u have maintained the flow very nicely throughout with incorporation of ample no. of examples.
      The best one that I have read today. Keep it up. 🙂
      Please review mine. Thanks. 🙂

      • minaxi

        Thanks Friend.. 🙂

        • HappyIAS

          Please review mine… Thanks. 🙂

    • Rashmirathi

      hey minaxi , you have comprehensively covered lots of dimensions . very good examples. the flow and structure have been well maintained.
      just avoid so many grammatical errors, and conclusion needs improvement

      rest all is good:)

      thanks,

      please review mine whenever you can

      • minaxi

        Thanks Dear…
        Yes. Dear… when I read my essay.. I realized about grammatical mistakes.. Thanks for bearing it. I will review at night.:)
        Thanks..

        • Just remember the name !

          If you could figure out later.
          From the next time start figuring out errors while writing

          • minaxi

            Thanks Danish..
            Though I am not James Joyce.. But I am okey in basic grammar. Will be more cautious in future.

            • Just remember the name !

              You have a good vocabulary dear…..but sometimes you do mistakes here and there… That’s OK as long as you are MINAXI…
              WHO IS IMPROVING SO MUCH DAY BY DAY

        • Rashmirathi
    • Shaktimaan

      hi minaxi!
      very diverse n explained in a very well way:)
      simple n vry smooth in flow:)
      sorry didnt get any flaw in it:)
      infact abi tak ka best eassy pdha mene:)
      thank u n sorry for nt being critical:)
      excellent buddy:)
      plz review mine also:)

      • minaxi

        Thank You Shaktiman…

    • hi minaxi…u dont need any philosophical class…ur fundeybaji is ok here but some problems:
      1.avoid grammatical mistakes in intro….bad impression
      2.fear and fantasy part was awesome
      3. but after that part a little boredom came…make it engaging with examples…also when u are writing philosophical part then try to make it simple read so that reader does not have to take stress to read ur point(eg..how can one be content…improvement in perspective…)
      4.”Another thing is the psychological and physical cost another person or entity pay to achieve and retain the environment, for which one strive”… a complete deviation without connectivity
      5.u said at personal level we must anlalyse our potentials and possibilities but u were giving the example of India which is not prsonal actually…so i think this point is justified at all level..analyse the situation no matter at what level u are
      6.conclusion-can improve

      • minaxi

        Hiii Vivaan..
        I asked about structure point because of grammatical mistake. Got nervous about philosophical; topic, that’s why bad language command become worse. 🙁
        I took, ndia as a single system and write about it, for US of America, it is our personal level. But Yes, I should adhere to general meaning of personal.
        Thanks Friend.. will be more cautious about grammar in future essays. 🙂

    • Eco-friendly

      I really liked ur work. It has many things-
      1) you analysed the statement well and give reasons, consequences and solutions
      2) loved this sentence-‘ just like a baby who always cry for his cousine’s toy rather than playing with his own.’
      3) India US example is good and what i observed is u built on that. But it will be better if u give diverse examples. As it is a common problem that most of us have examples but less theory urs has a plus point of having theory which can be easily connected with examples.

      Conclusion can be improved.
      Overall a nice read
      All the best

      • minaxi

        Thank You Eco.. 🙂

    • Just remember the name !

      Basically the conclusion sucked big tym !!

    • yogi

      Hello Minaxi Ma’am 😀
      my views :-
      beginning is good

      In after intro, u jumped too early from personal to national level, put some more examples in favour of the quote though not in monotonous way as done by me in my essay.

      Posing Qns in between makes ur essay an engaging one , keep it up : )

      You have tried to cover most of the aspect of the theme, by looking at it from different angles, again good.

      which are possed and enjoyed —possessed

      One might ___?____ grass green on other side of fence because of fear and fantasy

      Therefore it will not *BE*wrong to say that

      But do we need machines and robots in every field? when we have such a vast workforce. Here our potential lie, and by providing skills and training to this workforce we can convert this potential into performance. Machines might not provide content or improvement to India or Indians, But economic progress will definitely do this task.—this is giving a pessimisitic view about the machines and robots, you could have chosen a different comparison other than machines vs workforce. (IMO)

      or it might BE WRONG too.

      Read ur essay before posting to edit the grammatical mistakes, there are lots as shown above.

      That part How can one become content as well improve himself? —is dealt very well, good job 🙂

      Conclusion is good, but —-But If one is feeling that grass is greener on other side, thEn definetly grass is not green this side—-How ????

      Overall a nice read

      keep going, glad to see that you have improved a lot in a short span of time, feeling inspired : )

      Thanks : )

      • minaxi

        Thank You Yogi aka Sir.. 🙂
        About grammatical mistakes.. I have no excuse.. But some time, I am unaware about right grammar rule, Sometime, I made mistake by chance and some time grammatical mistakes can be attributed to faulty keyboard.

        Yes… I will read essay twice before posting.
        -But If one is feeling that grass is greener on other side, thEn definitely grass is not green this side—-How ????

        example- let I see my friend a happy aspirant who is preparing for according to time table and updated with all the development all around the world.
        Ok, I may be envious to her. ANd it is possible that She is not well prepared or not confident about her preparation. Or she may be confident about her preparation. But in both situation it is not going to help me to improve my preparation level.
        At first situation- I am miscalculating the scenario, But here, I have to see that, what is wrong in my preparation becoz of that I am feeling so.
        In second situation- I am rightly calculating the scenario, But still, I am not confident about my preparation therefore, problem is in my side not of my friends. Thus, It will be better, I work on my improvement rather than envoying my friend.

        Thanks Friend… credit goes to my friends on Insight including you.. 🙂 Thanks 🙂

        • Just remember the name !

          MAI BHI to TUMHARA KHOL BEIZZATI KARTA tha TUMHARE APNE blog pe…
          I will take a greater share in the credit
          :p ….
          Keep going you are doing an excellent job in improving …

    • Nupur

      Hey Minaxi.
      Very nice dear and in my opinion it is your best till now. few suggestions;

      1:the social and psychological effects of this kind of thinking can be mentioned in short term and long term.

      2: Intro is not that catchy. i think it might be better if you can give a hint what you are going to write in the essay, like this statement motivates and has positive effect on nations, individual and as well as it might be only a illusion or a negative approach which can be solved through his own efforts and if not solve what will be the consequences etc.(IMO).

      Keep it up:))

      • minaxi

        Thanks Dear..:)

    • Dear Minaxi 🙂
      Intro is good 🙂
      Just work upon grammar , you’ll be near perfect.
      You know when a ‘quote’ type essay comes, it gets difficult to incorporate the quote and link with the previous para and the paras following it, yours was smooth. Liked how you brought in the quote. 🙂 🙂

      Paras following th intro are good 🙂
      You gave broad perspective to it. 🙂 from individual to national! 🙂 Just a pointer.. One is prone..doesn’t sound good there. Use ‘devoid of’ 🙂

      Fear and fantasy part is real good 🙂 the best part of your write up! 🙂

      Then the paragraphs about greener grass. It came abruptly. Had no proper links with the previous para. Though its explanation was pretty good 🙂 🙂 but link needs to be improved 🙂

      Couldn’t link with psychological and physical part 🙁

      The penultimate paragraph is really good. 🙂 Conclusion needs a bit of improvement. It should be appealing. 🙂
      Overall, you’re improving my friend 🙂 this one is the best from your side.

      Your positives- broader perspective, multiple dimensions, shorter paras.

      Your negatives -grammar and flow need improvement.
      Suggestions-when you bring philosophy, use simple language and sentences so the reader straight away links himself with what is said.
      Include more examples and questions, so that essay looks more interesting 🙂

      THANK YOU.

    • Aravind Varier

      Dear Minakshi ,

      I will review your essay as per the ROUGH WORK that you have mailed me. This will help you to get a better clarity on the areas that can help you improve in future essays 🙂

      ROUGH WORK send by you 🙂

      1) Introduction – Decoding given quote within 125 words .

      Now given example ( I forget how much words I used in this part )

      2) Why we always find grass is greener on the other side of fence ?

      3) What might be the consequence of this tendency ?

      4) How can we become content and improve ourself ?

      5) conclusion ( this part is still tough for me )

      MY REVIEW 🙂

      1) But when a person undermines the quality of environment, things or situation, he possess, and miscalculate the other’s situation and hardship they are going through to maintain their present situation.????? PLEASE BE CLEAR !!! while writing such statements . Introduction should be simple and lucid and don’t try to complicate by giving a philosophical touch OR writing statements that requires 2 to 3 readings for the reader to understand . I personally read 2 to 3 times to understand your first paragraph and try to write an introduction that is straightforward .

      2) second paragraph is GOOD 🙂

      3) third paragraph is also good and you are still in the INTRODUCTORY STAGE as per your ROUGH WORK 🙂

      4) From this paragraph onward , i see you have started describing the reasons ” why we find grass greener on the other side ”

      5) And to deal with these fears, one have compromise the desire he crave for……??? please try to write simple sentences in this paragraph . I find lack of clarity while reading this paragraph . PLEASE WORK ON ENGLISH GRAMMAR . I am able to identity many grammatical errors and don’t want to point each and every mistake .

      6) But, Will changing the life pattern or landing on other side side of fence will make the grass green forever? …….. from this paragragh i see you are entering the third point of the ROUGH WORK you have created .

      the two paragraphs are well explanied 🙂

      7) Then How can one become content as well improve himself? To content and improve oneself require the improvement in the way one see the outer world and oneself. ……… I can see you have entered into the fourth point of the ROUGH WORK you have created .

      Yet there are many hidden facts are not visible at first or oversight.USA might be looked financially better to any Indian, Yet real situation of inequality and weakness of social relations come in light when someone analyse it more closely……….this point is good but you haven’t SUBSTANTIATED this point properly .

      8) Our country India, might not able to use machines and robotics in every field of economy, But do we need machines and robots in every field? I find this point unnecessary as you have written that just before the conclusion and it is out of context .
      you ccould have clubbed ” our country India ” paragraph with the ” At personal level, For being content,” and could have tried to bring a flow from personal level to National level . The reason why i am suggesting this because , i did see you mentioning a changeover from personal level to National level in the introductory paragraphs of the essay .

      9) Conclusion should be improved and you have to work on that aspect .

      MY SUGGESTIONS :

      1) This essay is much better than the ones that you have written in the last few weeks . ( A good sign of improvement )

      2) spelling mistakes should be avoided .

      3) support your arguments with valid examples or events .

      4) conclusion can be improved by thinking on the possible dimensions that you have framed in your rough work and the best opinion or view you would suggest which should have an OPTIMISTIC TONE OR POSITIVE NOTE .

      ALL THE BEST MY DEAR FRIEND 🙂

      • minaxi

        Thanks Aravind…

        Glad to know.. It is improvment. since I was quite worried about essay part( never took it so seriously). Spelling mistakes.. yes area of concern.:(
        . In conclusion part–Yes.. will apply more thinking.

        Thanks Again. 🙂

  • yogi

    The Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence (1220 words)

    Ramesh is a teenager belonging to a middle class family. He is playing with his friends in the street. While waiting for his turn to bat, he gets lost in the thoughts of life of Vicky . Vicky is a boy belonging to very rich family living in the posh colony just opposite to the roadside. Vicky has all the materialistic things that a child of his age like Ramesh would want to have. For this reason, Ramesh thinks that Vicky is very fortunate. Vicky on the other hand is bored with his life. He is fed up by playing with toys and wants to play outside in street with other children. But, as he belongs to a super rich family, there are chances of him getting kidnapped, so he is not allowed to play outside. He thinks that how fortunate Ramesh is that he has the chance of playing outside with his friends.

    This simple story shows that how people think others as more fortunate in comparison to themselves. They are not satisfied with what they have and feel sad about what they don’t have. Sometimes the yearning for more and more becomes the reason for adopting wrong paths to quench the thirst of the inherent greed. To a lesser degree the tendency of comparison of the grass on both sides of the fence gets reflected in our life in different form.

    Beginning from personal level, we always want to achieve more and more in our life. When we achieve something and the joy of the achievement is over, a new wish for more is born. The grass of past and future is separated by the fence of present moment. When we visualize the success we want in future, that future appears as greener than the past. But, when we get less than what we wished for the past successes appear as greener than the present level. For a school topper wishing to enter the best college of the country, her future would appear as greener, but when the same school topper does not get it, her past becomes greener than the imagined future.

    With the same corollary, when some youngsters see an old rich businessman travelling in a costly car, they think him as fortunate to have that luxurious life. On the other hand the old rich businessman finds these youngsters as fortunate as they are having the joys of young and healthy age. Each side (youngsters or old rich businessman) is focusing on opposite one’s happy side, while ignoring what that side is lacking in or what they themselves have. This tendency explains the lack of understanding of each other’s concerns. The best example in this regard is that of caste based division in Indian society.

    A lower caste person thinks that how unfortunate s/he is that s/he was born in a lower caste family, whereby s/he is forced to face the caste based discrimination on part of few insensitive people. S/he thinks the life of people belonging to an upper caste as a dignified life about which s/he can just dream of if the caste based discrimination continues in future as well. An upper caste person, on the other hand thinks that how fortunate a lower caste person is who is blessed with the benefits of reservation. For, this upper caste person the benefits of the reservation has shadowed the wishes of a dignified life of a lower caste person.

    Extending the same point to rural versus urban life, a rural family wishes to have access to the health and education facilities, electricity , etc. that a urban family have. While an urban family wishes to have the kind of peace, environmental purity and socially cohesion in life that a rural family has. The aspirations on both sides neglect the challenges that the opposite side faces.

    The challenges that a developing country have are overlooked by a developed country. For developed countries the developing countries such as India, China having high population are fortunate as they have a big customer base and market which a developed country is not generally blessed with due to production outpacing the demand and market base. The developing countries on the other hand find the developed ones as fortunate due to high economic growth and high levels of technological advancements which a developing country generally lacks in. Similarly, If Japan finds Brazil as fortunate because of Brazil’s abundance in natural resources then Brazil finds Japan as fortunate because of the heights of technological advancement that Japan has scaled. Again, both sides are focusing on what one is lacking in that the other side has.

    Having seen the forms that the grass and the fence can assume, it becomes important to discuss the reason why the persons on either side of the fence thinks that grass is greener on other side of the fence?

    The foremost important reason for this kind of thinking is the growing discontentment among people due to increasing competition and treating life as a race. Rather than being content with and utilising what they have, they get attracted towards the things that others have. The reason for this attraction is this false perception –“the person on opposite side is happy because s/he has the things which would make me happy”. And the person on other side thinks the same way. But, both are unaware of the reality. The reality is that both want to top their exam (life) without knowing that they are trying to solve the “wrong question paper”. Lack of one’s ability to observe the thinks from multiple perspective can be attributed to this one sided view of the things.

    The one sided view of the things brings us to the question whether the grass is always greener on other side of the fence or there are some exceptions as well ?.

    In this dynamic complex world exceptions are inevitable. A person enjoying his/her freedom would not find anything attractive in the life of bonded labour. For the bonded labour the other side (freedom )is greener but for the free person the life of that labour is no less that a land devoid of greenery. For a young healthy rich person, the life of a beggar is not a greener side, while the reverse is true from the perspective of the beggar. Even a person who is fed up with his/her life would not find anything green in the life of a paralyzed person.

    Thus, whether is grass is greener on other side or not is a matter of pure perception as the saying goes “yatha drishti thatha shrirti”(As is one’s vision, so does the world appear to him/her ). The need is to have this kind attitude-“grass is greener on both sides, I am content with the greenery of the grass on my side”. The attitude of seeking happiness according to the parameters set by someone else’s life would make us more greedy, discontent and hence unhappy. Everyone in this world is blessed with the life as the green grass. So, the real question is not whether the grass on other side is greener or not, rather the real question is how are we maintaining the greenery of the grass on our side?

    • minaxi

      Hello Yogi…
      Long time Sir? Plz review my essay if time permits?

      • yogi

        2 hafte mein Sir bana diya, achha hein Ma’am 😀
        just a doubt, why so many “?” ? 😛

    • ESWAR

      How do we say a greed is inherent? It is not to every one.

      Old Man and young ones compared well. Well explained with the examples of developed, developing countries what is the impression of discontent. Even reason of discontent mentioning was superb.

      What I concluded regarding u r essay is you understood the concept and interlinked paragraphs very well. Nice write up. Thanks.

      • yogi

        thanks for review 🙂

    • Hi Yogi bhai 🙂
      Please review my essay. 🙂 would like to know your views.
      I’ll review yours in the evening pakka 😛

      • minaxi

        Hello Simi.. if find time.. then review my essay too. 🙂

    • Cybertron Ninja

      Abundance of examples and comparisons make the essay great. Conclusion is super solid. Well done. Keep it up 🙂
      Please review mine friend.

      • yogi

        unable to see the essay, ur are private

    • Shaktimaan

      hi yoooo!!
      upvote for ur 2nd half portion!!
      intro >>well written:)
      first half me b aap question answer type se diversity laa sakte the .. toh mzza aata waise monotonous sa lg ra tha 🙂
      examples >>good one:)
      concl>> nice:)
      overall above very good wala performance:)
      thank u:)
      PREM:D

      • yogi

        thanks Shakti Chacha 😛
        sure

    • Hello Yogi bhai, my views-
      – you have focused more on comparison and the discontentment but what about the real greener grass, you can talk about efforts of governments in reaching the greener patch e.g. reduction in IMR, MMR
      – another thing on philosophical level that I want to share that it is good to be satisfied but not complacent. Aspiration for more should always be there e.g. you are studying for 8 hours but you are satisfied- that is good for mental peace but shouldn’t you strive for more?
      – content is well-drafted and flow has been maintained
      Have a look at mine as well 🙂

      • Sheetal

        Can u review mine?

      • yogi

        thanks bhai
        agree on philo part, i was thinking of writing that as a cautious note in between, forgot to put that
        sure

    • vijay- the ray of hope

      Please review mine yogi

    • rajjoo!!

      can u review mine 🙂 🙂 hi yogi..!!

    • rajjoo!!

      i am trying to post my essay but not posting in ur reply….so u have to review mine in comments 🙂

    • rajjoo!!

      this is it…

      “THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE”

      With the growing population and in turn growing aspirations,needs,demands,experiences which may lead to satisfaction or unsatisfaction this proverb is well applicable. It proverb is used to say that ‘what other people have or their situations are better than ours, maybe what is not true or really so.’ Every aspects or side of anything is not always perfect to just outweigh other. Its just how one feels and comprehends depending upon their own intellect, persperctive, or mental level.

      What seems good for ourselves may turn bad for others or vice-versa. And taking this for granted for one & every situation and comparing with others in turn keeping ourselves at the loser or unlucky side is a wrong judgement. For example – if someone is suffering from some ailment and he/she says that other people are so fortunate that they suffer with no problem may always not come out as a right thinking. Because may be we are not at that person’s place where we can know what actually is going out there. May be the person must be suffering from major other ailment which is undisclosed and we tend to accept that the other person is happy and healthy. It depends on how much transparent is everyone’s life to others. The one who is actually facing a situation only can better describe it.

      All these mismatch and discrepancies come out due to unsatifaction, complacent attitude and under-reported or lack of genuine information. This can be sited with examples where the proverb is well fitted :-

      1. India being a multi-cultural country has its pros and cons at the same time. If we hear of any news about the rape cases, we say india is like this only, people have wrong mindset or the laws are not stringent to set a precedent from deterring others from committing such crimes in future. Out of this we say foreign countries are better, girls are more safe there, people there are more broad-minded, laws are good, etc. But if we have a look at the survey we found that india just comes at the 5th position for rape cases and not even it is in the first third. Countries like south africa, sweden,US, etc are well above us . Here it goes like we feel only India is not safe and other countries are better but the truth is it is actually not so.

      2. With the recent news, India is becoming the most favoured and wanted destination for sex-change surgery. We have always believed that foreign countries serve better , have better infrastructure and equipment but we under-estimate our own capabilities and donot give it a chance and are reluctant to take the initiative which automatically leads to praising the counterpart. Thailand which has always been considered the largest destination for sex change related surgeries is now being replaced by India because of its best after treatment, satisfactory results and that to at the lowest cost compared to other famous destinations. Here having confidence in one capabilities and with fruitful results will not give a feeling of ‘the grass is greener on the other side’ and will lead to ultimate satisfaction in turn setting benchmarks.

      3. There are many cases of human rights violation in our country and we again tend to compare with others and become worrisome that may be with better government and laws may be our greivances will be addressed better. But if we actually go around the world cases of human rights violations iraq,syria,srilanka, etc are well above us in that respect. They have gruesome cases and demand international intervention.

      4. Undoubtedly women in India are also looked down as lower in status then men in every aspect and respect. Reasons being the pre-established norms, mindset, male-dominating society which is linked to cultural teachings too. Wide agitations though have given a lot of ground and we are difinitely seeing a change compared to what the scenario of women was decades ago. But maybe the change is slow but it is surely visible with too many women being employed, educated, in leadership roles, etc. But still due to lack ofspeedily and immediate results we become dissatisfied and again say women are more empowered in bigger developed countries and have more freedom. But the case is at many cases similar or more serious than ours. Like pakistan, other islamic countries, china, and many more.

      5. There are other aspects like political,administrative, social,religious, etc where we always think of as if the system or situation is better than ours and become judgemental.

      There is always two faces of a coin. There can be many aspects of the same thing which may be taken up differently by different people on the level comprehending and enduring. No situation is big or small rather is taken up differently and raised to various levels of judgements. The proverb ” the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” is well applicable in today’s scenario where we or the society due to their own perceptions and experiences land up to wrong notions and undermine ourselves and raise our problems to a level which is actually maybe minimal in a real sense. This happens out of unsatisfaction, illusions, wrongly informed or conceived information, etc about anything or anyone’s life and out of this comparison we become disheartened, unsatisfied, complacent, complaining the fate, thus making ourselves only weak to fight and motivate for present and future sufferings.

      The proverb can well be compared with the phenomena ie; “Mirage” we encounter during summers days which gives an illusion of water on the roads which is actually not be real. The best way is to fathom, solve, contribute, check out for the realities of every problem or situation considering it the problem of the whole society thus building up a great future and a nation to live in .

      • Ravi Tripathi

        1. You have used fantastic examples and that calls for an applause.
        2. However, you need to work a bit on your language. Many sentence-formation mistakes creep in making it difficult to comprehend your ideas at times.
        3. Example no 2 is not properly communicated.
        4. Example no 3 is actually antithesis of what you wanted to write. while mentioning better governance you gave examples of the likes of Syria, you should have given examples of developed or better governed countries facing the same issue.
        Tips: You could add some popular quotations or views of somebody prominent.
        You should try to diversify your ideas trying to relate Human psyche better with the proverb.

        All the best 🙂

    • HappyIAS

      Hey Yogi,

      Inroduction is okay.
      Flow is very good. ur essay is well interconnected.
      Developed-developing wala example is vry good.

      but exceptions wala cheez could have come earlier.. ekdum end mein new cheez introduce karke, u have abruptly given the conclusion.
      Although, ur conclusion is good.

      Overall, a very good essay.
      Sorry if u dint like my review. This is what I think. Could be wrong.
      Please review mine. Thanks bhai. 🙂

      • yogi

        No one like the reviews of the form-” good essay pls review mine”. I m sure urs is not of this category, 😀
        so thanks for review, i agree with all what u have said, conclusion should be brought smoothly,
        sure 🙂

    • Isha

      Hi Yogi, my views-
      Your essay had a proper structure and flow. But the examples you put forward for supporting the statement seem to be repetitiv in their tone. Since the intro till the 4th last para of example- they were on same lines and were weighed towards personal aspect/philosophical in tone.
      Your 3rd last para was nice.
      “whether the grass is always greener on other side”- i dont think we need to introduce this idea explicitly. I mean people generally compare the other side and declare them as happy relatively only when the other side is genuinely/significantly so. Why would one compare oneself to a beggar? Though in reality, for being contended with what material things one have, one should always look upon those who are living in even lesser resources than oneself.
      “The need is to have this kind attitude-“grass is greener on both sides, I am content with the greenery of the grass on my side”- conclusion wali lines- then in the last lines you said ki how are we maintaining that greenery. Point is contentment is subject to conditions. We should strive to do our best, set our priorities and as they differ from person to person so we need to understand that life of everyone is different. Happiness isn’t measured in relative- its within you.
      Feel free to differ. KEAE 🙂
      Please read mine as and when you get time.

      • yogi

        Thanks Isha 🙂
        agree beginning paras are repetitive
        whether the grass is always greener on other side”— i m just trying to counter the word “always” is i go by the literal meaning of the words of the quote.Duniya mein har tarah ke log hota hein, koi na koi to compare rte hi hoga aise logo se.
        Happiness isn’t measured in relative- its within you.–very true philosophar sahiba 😀
        KEAE 🙂

        • Isha

          😀 maje lo meri philosophy ke tum
          badi badi batein likhne me kya jata hai :p

    • Rashmirathi

      it was just awesome yogi !! loved the opening story, the structure,
      great examples. you have covered a wide range of aspects of the topic.
      no pointers from my side.

      keep it up 🙂

      please review mine

    • word limit cross krne ki habit hai kya tumhari 😀
      1.very wide coverage which will definitely give u an edge over others..u have this ability…keep it up
      2.monotonous….use creativity when u are exploring the dimensions…
      3.conclusion not ok….”grass is greener on both sides, I am content with the greenery of the grass on my side”….na bhaya aisa na hai..kuch greenary udhar hai to kuch humri taraf b hai…isliye apne se pyar karo lekin strive to achieve best…sirf life ko best nahi kah sakte hai…this would lead to stagnation if u are content…when u will read mine u will come to know
      thank you for am awesome read…humra b review kar dena
      dhanyawad ji

      • yogi

        agree bhai
        thanks for review 🙂

    • Eco-friendly

      second part except for the conclusion is too good.
      First part looks somewhat monotonous. U gave multiple examples that will fetch u good marks.
      Whereas i do not agree to the conclusion. Can be modified
      All the best

      • please review mine…will also do the same

      • yogi

        thanks for review
        yes it was montonous in the starting paras
        will work on conclusion
        ATB 🙂

    • minaxi

      Hello Yogi…

      My view on your essay( though now, ideas ki khichdi ban gayi aaj to mere dimag me. 🙁 )

      1_ First para of introduction is good. But, I think, you can use mature person, who are able to think more rationally, and bring this tendency of discontent in them.

      2- second paragraph story do not reveal that yearning for more and more forced us on wrong path. so writing this line after explaining the examples in it’s favour would have been a better idea.

      3- Third paragraph- USP, simply marvelous, I do not think, anybody think in this direction. Fourth paragraph is itself the repetition of story only dialogues and character are change.

      4- I do not know, if I am right or wrong, But to explain the issue of caste in such a simple way do not look relevant. Though You have done quite deep analysis of this quota at different level. But according to me, It can be summarized in easily two paragraph.

      5- The foremost important reason for this kind of thinking is the growing discontentment among people due to increasing competition and treating life as a race. – this paragraph is good .. and it needed analysis from different perspective and I think, It will help to bring diversity in your essay.
      Plz do not undermine the importance of desire.. and who have desires and ambitions, they are mostly discontent with present situation. And it is rule of nature, and ambition is important for development at every level.

      Gist of my review- Essay is quite analytical, but multi-dimensional analysis is missing. You from the start tried to prove given quota. But why, when, how, but and if type dimension can be added.

      Thanks Friend.. And salute to very reviews especially Aravind, who give analytical and detailed revie.. quite exhausting task.:)

      • yogi

        i can sense the Aravind effect in the review 😀
        it is a good review, it helps us to improve ourselve as well, so keep it up 🙂
        1-4 i agree , it looks saying the same thing in different ways,
        5 i thought of putting that as a cautious note in my essay, but forgot to put 🙁
        thanks for review, exhaust is must for the push, so keep going, would love to get more exhaustive reviews, 😀

    • Hello Yogi bhai 🙂
      Your introductions are always good 😛 this one was also good 🙂 🙂

      Three paragraphs following the introduction say the same thing. Just the characters and situations are different. But yes, liked caste based division in the society very nicely written and appealing 🙂 This happens everytime when we find the grass on the other side of the fence greener. COMPLETE JUSTIFICATION OF THE QUOTE HERE 🙂 🙂

      Loved the comparison between developed and developing country. I wanted to bring something like this in my essay too, but aalfaz hi nahi mile. LOL
      Brilliantly written part!

      The paragraphs following it are also good 🙂 why do we find the grass greener. naaicee!

      ‘In this dynamic world’ wala paragraph, couldn’t get what you were trying to convey 🙁 my bad I guess.

      Conclusion is okay.

      Your positives – flow was amazing 🙂 🙂 mere write up ke baad apke essay ka flow hi acha lagta mujhe to! 😛 LOL (just kidding) language was simple. The reader for sure does not need to scratch his head reading the essay.

      Your negatives – Conclusion was fine, but no appealing. More dimensions can ne added.

      Suggestions – reason why the grass is greener on the other side? What can be done to make the grass greener on this side as well? What if a person does not care whose grass is greener? Ye bhi Ho sakte the.

      Keep up buddy! 🙂

      • yogi

        Thanks for review ,
        will me multidimensional now onwards and will reduce redundancy
        tada 🙂

    • Jaya Swatantra

      Very good write up Yogi ji… your examples are really superb and contemplative like introductory story, reservation vala example.. 🙂
      Just one point to add if the given quote is taken as motivation for learning and improvement rather than being disappointed by seeing the opportunities present at the other end,this may indeed work as wonders…
      Kya baat – ekdam satya .. yatha drishti thatha shristi…
      Keep it up.. and well done for this write up…. 🙂

      • yogi

        thanks for review,
        seeing the opportunities present at the other end,—very true– this should the basis of motivation that we get after reading about the great people. this part should be added in this essay to make it holistic
        thanks for this wonderful dimension
        Om Shanti : )

    • Aravind Varier

      Dear Yogi 🙂

      Let me create a ROUGH WORK for the essay that you have written before reviewing it 🙂

      ROUGH WORK :

      1) Introduction

      a) story of Ramesh and Vicky to give the examiner a basic idea of the essay that the candidate is going to write .

      2) Different examples or events mentioned to tell the VALIDITY of the statement ” grass is always greener on the other side of the fence ”

      a) school topper example given as well trying to correlate ” fence as present ”

      b) example of old rich businessman and youngsters

      c) example of lower caste and the upper caste person .

      d) example of rural and urban life

      e) example of developing countries and the developed countries .

      3) citing the REASONS for the persons to believe grass is always on the greener side .

      a) gave the example of life ( exam )

      4) telling that grass is always greener in certain scenarios .

      a) example of bonded labour and a person enjoying freedom

      b) life of a rich man and beggar .

      5) conclusion ( you are telling about the how a person is maintaining grass green on his/her side )

      MY REVIEW :

      1) Introduction is good 🙂 you have aptly molded the story to suit to bring the examiner into the essay .

      2) second paragraph is a connector to the essay but you are citing the REASON in the second paragraph to substantiate the first paragraph ( the story of vicky and ramesh )

      you should only give a reference to this aspect because in the following paragraphs you are explaining the REASONS by dedicating a paragraph on it . I can understand, this is unintentional mistake but the example in the first paragraph is forcing you to write REASONS separately at different positions of the essay .

      Try to work on that area to make sure you intelligently write the introduction without actually citing the REASON in the second paragraph .

      3) I did not find much flaws in the contents of 5 paragraphs that you dedicated for VALIDATING the statement . but my question to you here is ” Why are you writing 5 different areas from personal level to countries in explaining the VALIDITY of the statement or the quote of the essay .

      Writing too much on a particular area itself is a BIG FLAW which you have committed in your essay . Those 5 areas have consumed lot of your words which you could have used appropriately for the subsequent passages in the essay or dimensions .

      4) The REASON why grass is always green is explained well but as i already mentioned , you have repeated this in the second paragraph also . Please try to be careful in this particular aspect .

      5) You could have avoided writing this paragraph ( why grass is always greener in exceptional cases ) because if gives a feeling to the examiner that the candidate so far have discussed that ” grass is NOT always greener on the other side of the fence ” and you were doing the same . Think on this aspect and i am sure you can understand the flaw for yourself .

      6) conclusion is GOOD 🙂

      ALL THE BEST MY DEAR FRIEND !!!

      • yogi

        thanks for the review 🙂
        the rough work gave me the the hint about how to structre the essay to reduce the redundancy that i have created by writing same thing in 5 examples
        a request:- the link is not working for today’s secure question. is this the problem with me or for everyone?, if not then plz send me today’s (10th may)secure 2016 link.
        thanks again 🙂

    • aditi

      loved ur essay ..the saying could go like this :- “I am too busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener”. New to this platform , just started preparing for civil services 🙂

      • yogi

        welcome to the insights 🙂
        to be optimistic the saying can also go like this” whatever i can learn from the greener side, learn it, so that the greenary spreads to others as well”
        thanks for the review, 🙂

  • Have you ever thought that why Gandhi ji always used to say “Mother earth has enough to satisfy everyone’s need but less to satisfy everyone’s greed” or why Butler emphasizes upon love for one self?
    Both have them had the same message to convey that we should be satisfied with what we have. But perhaps it is the human nature to have desire for more.
    But from where does this desire/greed for more comes? It comes from seeing the prosperity and contentment of the others. Things which we do not possess have more value for us. For example, a person working in a firm and earning a decent salary may still yearn for becoming civil servant when he sees his friend clearing this exam or seeing Mrs Mehta wearing silk sari Mrs Malhotra may also have the greed to achieve it.
    In such desires when we don’t have the things which we yearn for, we tend to envy our fellow beings without appreciating the fact that what we are looking may not be always true. In the above example the gentleman through rose colored glasses could clearly see his friend clearing exam and having prosperous life but he may have forgot to appreciate the fact that he had to struggle a lot before or even after he may not be satisfied as he has to work under many politicians and ministers.
    So perception may deceive sometimes. There may be huge difference between what we see and what actually is true. Not only at individual level, but at community and village level too it holds true. In many northern Indian communities, patriarchal parents prefer to marry their daughters to single child of other family as such sons have more chances of having whole property and there are very less quarrels but they fail to notice that such sons have a huge responsibility of taking care of even minutest problem of the family. Further, problems become small when we have support and love of many siblings and a quarantined life is not desirable per se as we are human beings.
    Coming to broader horizon, at national level also grass may look greener from other side of the fence. America is a global superpower which India aims at but India must also look at the fact that how America is entangled with various issues of world, how it has the self declared responsibility of maintaining global peace and how in that attempt its economy is suffering and how in recent times its economy is unable to create jobs.
    Exploration of three dimensions of national, community and individual level make it obvious that it is fallacious to assume that there is complete perfection in other’s life. Buddha had made it very clear many centuries ago that “Life is full of suffering” i.e the moment we take birth our cycle of pleasure and pain starts. Nobody can have a complete bliss. Does this mean we should stop aspiring and having desires?
    If that is the case then we would be content always. When we stop comparing and desiring then we would be satisfied. But it is against the principle of being human which asks us to be continuing our journey forever and avoid stagnation. So how to avoid this dilemma? Stop desiring by seeing others as there are problems in everyone’s life or keep moving and developing to avoid stagnation?
    There is no dilemma if we try to delve deeper. It is always good to aspire for something which we don’t have but at the same time we should appreciate the things which we possess. For example, it is good to aspire to make your city clean as other city is but at the same time do not forget that your city has better infrastructure as people are cooperative. You cannot keep on blaming the things which you have. Worthiness of each and every thing, place and people should be appreciated and respected.
    Further, other than loving one’s possessions and striving for better, one should not forget the level and needs as per one’s strength and weakness. This aspect is very important to be taken care of. It can be clarified by taking few examples.
    People very often say that even after 70 years of independence India could not become developed country inspite of having democracy while America is. Can we make such people realize some facts?
    Firstly, India is a diverse country having many communities and religions where goal differs from person to person while America is homogenous. Secondly, America got independence more or less before industrialization so it could easily reap the benefits of industrialization but India got independence during war period, more precisely after Second World War. Lastly, India chose Non-alignment and mixed economy while America chose development at any cost. So for India means also matter while for America only ends matter which implies that India is ethically stronger. But that does not mean that India does not aspire to be developed. It does but after noticing its negatives and positives.
    Similarly, In the above analogy, that gentleman with decent salary also should have taken care before repenting that whether he wants to serve administration or marketing or whether he possess those qualities of becoming civil servant or not.
    Thus, if it is clear that all that glitters is not gold, so our task remains to search for gold which calls for removal of rose colored glasses. Aspire and achieve what you lack but not without evaluating your needs than greed. Develop and move but without hating and blaming your own things. There are people which may not have the things which you have. The moment you realize this principle all dilemma will be gone and so called suffering full life will become happier. World will be better place then to live for, as it would be replete with your love, compassion, sympathy and over all your rationality.
    For blogger friends:
    https://v2761.wordpress.com/2016/05/08/the-grass-is-always-greener-from-other-side-of-the-fence/

    • minaxi

      Hello Vivan… 🙂
      I used to thought about Gandhi Ji quota.. But never in same way.. I thought that he wanted to convey the reasonable share of resources for everyone. But you give it new direction. Thanks for it…
      Frankly speaking,, I do not know.. where introduction and body parts separated in this essay.. But i like the start of it very much.
      Using civil service or servant as example- we can substitute it with more relevant example. But it is personal choice.
      Flow is marvelous… and present content is also good,, But dimensions can be added.

      Plz , can you share. How you prepare structure of philosophical essay.. since I find them quite tough.
      Thanks… Plz if find it possible review my essay. 🙂

      • vijay- the ray of hope

        Please review mine

      • ok minaxi…suggestions well taken
        now ur structure part que…practise is the key…take only those ideas which are related and move step by step that is one implies other..execute one idea per para with example…make sure that reader is able to connect with ur line of thought..for that connectivity must be taken care utmost…no need to add that dimension which can take away ur connectivity….lastly dont worry after few essays u will be able to manage ur structure too…intro and conclusion-still i dont know what is ideal as i myself is struggling….so cant say anything
        thank you

    • ESWAR

      Super memory that u have written the Gandhi quotation.

      Write why joint families are not preferred to marry daughters. It shall be more clear why preference is skewed for single male child families.

      America as a country is destiny for many, so they go for jobs despite sacrificing the compassion, freedom what one get in their home country. But your analysis not well articulated in today’s topic context.

      America’s population is not homogenous -afro American is their president, migrations changed their demography but less variations of people compared to INDIA.

      Rest is fine. Thanks

      • thanks eswar
        joint families and single son are different case…single son with parents and chacha-chachi is joint but at the end father’s property will go to son…hope u get it
        yeah people go to America for jobs but few days back i read in Hindu that America is not creating jobs and its 40% people will be employed this year..wrote in that context..my bad could not convey properly
        yeah afro-American but still American
        Thank you eswar for pointing out such mistakes

    • Cybertron Ninja

      Good thoughts given. Well written, Keep it up. Instead of generalization more day to day examples can be added 🙂
      Please review mine friend.

      • vijay- the ray of hope

        Please review mine too

      • point well taken ninja ji….such essays can have very lively examples but i failed..will try to improve..thank you friend

    • ALOK KUMAR

      Good attempt.You could have improved more with better and day to day life examples.Nontheless engaging and readable, a good essay.

      • thank you bhai….yeah i agree..my examples could have been better..thank you for review

    • rajjoo!!

      “THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE”

      With the growing population and in turn growing aspirations,needs,demands,experiences which may lead to satisfaction or unsatisfaction this proverb is well applicable. It proverb is used to say that ‘what other people have or their situations are better than ours, maybe what is not true or really so.’ Every aspects or side of anything is not always perfect to just outweigh other. Its just how one feels and comprehends depending upon their own intellect, persperctive, or mental level.

      What seems good for ourselves may turn bad for others or vice-versa. And taking this for granted for one & every situation and comparing with others in turn keeping ourselves at the loser or unlucky side is a wrong judgement. For example – if someone is suffering from some ailment and he/she says that other people are so fortunate that they suffer with no problem may always not come out as a right thinking. Because may be we are not at that person’s place where we can know what actually is going out there. May be the person must be suffering from major other ailment which is undisclosed and we tend to accept that the other person is happy and healthy. It depends on how much transparent is everyone’s life to others. The one who is actually facing a situation only can better describe it.

      All these mismatch and discrepancies come out due to unsatifaction, complacent attitude and under-reported or lack of genuine information. This can be sited with examples where the proverb is well fitted :-

      1. India being a multi-cultural country has its pros and cons at the same time. If we hear of any news about the rape cases, we say india is like this only, people have wrong mindset or the laws are not stringent to set a precedent from deterring others from committing such crimes in future. Out of this we say foreign countries are better, girls are more safe there, people there are more broad-minded, laws are good, etc. But if we have a look at the survey we found that india just comes at the 5th position for rape cases and not even it is in the first third. Countries like south africa, sweden,US, etc are well above us . Here it goes like we feel only India is not safe and other countries are better but the truth is it is actually not so.

      2. With the recent news, India is becoming the most favoured and wanted destination for sex-change surgery. We have always believed that foreign countries serve better , have better infrastructure and equipment but we under-estimate our own capabilities and donot give it a chance and are reluctant to take the initiative which automatically leads to praising the counterpart. Thailand which has always been considered the largest destination for sex change related surgeries is now being replaced by India because of its best after treatment, satisfactory results and that to at the lowest cost compared to other famous destinations. Here having confidence in one capabilities and with fruitful results will not give a feeling of ‘the grass is greener on the other side’ and will lead to ultimate satisfaction in turn setting benchmarks.

      3. There are many cases of human rights violation in our country and we again tend to compare with others and become worrisome that may be with better government and laws may be our greivances will be addressed better. But if we actually go around the world cases of human rights violations iraq,syria,srilanka, etc are well above us in that respect. They have gruesome cases and demand international intervention.

      4. Undoubtedly women in India are also looked down as lower in status then men in every aspect and respect. Reasons being the pre-established norms, mindset, male-dominating society which is linked to cultural teachings too. Wide agitations though have given a lot of ground and we are difinitely seeing a change compared to what the scenario of women was decades ago. But maybe the change is slow but it is surely visible with too many women being employed, educated, in leadership roles, etc. But still due to lack ofspeedily and immediate results we become dissatisfied and again say women are more empowered in bigger developed countries and have more freedom. But the case is at many cases similar or more serious than ours. Like pakistan, other islamic countries, china, and many more.

      5. There are other aspects like political,administrative, social,religious, etc where we always think of as if the system or situation is better than ours and become judgemental.

      There is always two faces of a coin. There can be many aspects of the same thing which may be taken up differently by different people on the level comprehending and enduring. No situation is big or small rather is taken up differently and raised to various levels of judgements. The proverb ” the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” is well applicable in today’s scenario where we or the society due to their own perceptions and experiences land up to wrong notions and undermine ourselves and raise our problems to a level which is actually maybe minimal in a real sense. This happens out of unsatisfaction, illusions, wrongly informed or conceived information, etc about anything or anyone’s life and out of this comparison we become disheartened, unsatisfied, complacent, complaining the fate, thus making ourselves only weak to fight and motivate for present and future sufferings.

      The proverb can well be compared with the phenomena ie; “Mirage” we encounter during summers days which gives an illusion of water on the roads which is actually not be real. The best way is to fathom, solve, contribute, check out for the realities of every problem or situation considering it the problem of the whole society thus building up a great future and a nation to live in .

      • bhai apka essay dekh ke main dar gaya tha..ek pal k liye laga itna bada review kyu diya…kya ek ek line mein problem thi 😀
        1.intro ok
        2.exploration of various Indian facets was also ok..but dont write them in points…use connectors…also apart from sex change surgery other examples were not apt…reason- giving impression that thoda bahut chalta hai..thk hai 5th position pe hai pahle pe to nahi….violate kar rahe human rights par jyada nahi…but they should not be done at any cost actually..women empowerment…dont compare with China or Pak..acchi acchi countries lo bhai
        3.topic also means love ur own things..give proper space to this theme tooo
        4.conclusion ok but can be improved
        please review mine too

        • rajjoo!!

          hehehe…
          thankyou so much 🙂

    • HappyIAS

      Hey Vivaan,

      Introduction is impressive.
      Flow breaks at times..
      Too much use of India-America..
      Please write in short paragraphs as it increases the readability of ur essay.
      u have a good command over language.
      Overall, a nice read with plenty of examples.

      Please review mine. Thanks bhai. 🙂

      • thank you happy ji…point well taken…will increase readability next time

    • Shaktimaan

      hi sachin bhaiya:):)
      very goooood:)
      -comparision>> dn perception para>> nice!! but uske bad national wala e.g hmmmm utna sahi sa ni laga>> kuch better produce kia ja sakta tha >> infact yeh flow me jerk jaisa sa tha:)
      -but in america wala e.g >> hm phir se comparison hi toh kr rahe h>> toh wt i mean ki >> “comparison” wala portion thoda jyada ho gya:)
      -baki aapka intro plus conclusion brilliant h (amazed with usage of gandhi ji ‘s quote here with diff context>> gooood )
      thank u bhai:):)
      PREM:)

      • oh america ne gadbad kar rakhi hai ai..chalo koi nahi kuch aur tey marenge
        yani sahi timing hai meri..aa raha tha tumhare pe
        thank you for review

    • Eco-friendly

      Wonderful opening bro…..philosophical part is impressing.
      It seems like u have developed essay by taking India-America example, and it is good too but more diversity in examples is appreciated. Flow sometimes breaks too, but no worry u can overcome that.

      Conclusion was really a nice one.
      All the best and I do learned philo part from it

      • thank you dost..yeah flow and america backfired today

    • Hello Khanna Saab,
      Introduction is brilliant! 🙂 Gandhi’s quote, Mrs. Malhotra Ki saree all good bhai 🙂
      Then came ministers/struggle and single son family wala part. Good 🙂 perfectly fits in the theme of the essay. 🙂 you didn’t stretch much and explained well. Good job!

      Indo-America example was good. 🙂 Buddha’s part was nicely put in between. 🙂 asking questions in between makes the essay engaging and interesting! Good job bro! 🙂

      City wala example doesn’t look good there and appears as if you have forced it unnecessarily there. 🙁

      Return of Indo-America again looks forced. Salary wala point came from nowhere. I know you tried linking it with the intro but that link looked weak. Conclusion is fine. 🙂

      My suggestion to you would be to read once after you’ve written, so that flow link structure can be checked. A few things are missing.. Factors that make someone’s grass greener. How can you make your grass greener as well?
      I hope you got my point 🙂
      THANK YOU

      • ok simran ji
        city ko hata denge…my bad for my examples…
        suggestions well taken..dhanyawad ji

    • yogi

      Hello Bhai 🙂
      my views:
      1. intro is good
      2. examples in the beginning clearly brings out the context , short examples with the same impact, good, this helped to reduce the monotounous nature that my essay had in the beginning
      3. some questions like — is grass always greener or the other side? how to maintain the grass on our side (though mentioned that we should do it, but did not talk much on how part ?)
      4. two grammatical mistakes : Both have them had the same—-both OF them had the same
      it should be INTERNATIONAL instead of national in —>Coming to broader horizon, at national level also grass .
      5. flow is good this time
      7. conclusion again good, glad to see the results of the efforts
      overall a nice essay
      keep it up
      thanks 🙂

      • 3.agree
        4.my bad for first..second serious blunder..thanks
        thank you for rest…apko kuch accha lage essay mein mere..i m blessed 🙂

  • sandeep goyal

    There is an adage in Hindi,” Ghar ki Chini Dal Barabar” ( a person’s belonging doesn’t have any value). Human life is driven by this simple preposition where he never remains contend with the things and achievement which he has and always craves for the other’s achievements. Most of the human on earth passes their life in despair and tension when they want to achieve is happiness. It is human desire to achieve everything without taking into account the cost attached with it. Poor craves for the material wellbeing, big house, big car, security staff, good clothes while the rich craves about the freedom, time in solitude, less burden of responsibility.

    Individual always want to have the maximum out of his life. He intends to have maximum experience, fulfillment of all his desires and maximum happiness in his life. Poor individual always are jealous of the housing, clothing and etiquettes of the rich people. They want to become rich and behave like rich people. They think that once you are rich ,everything will be settled in life.They think that rich can get any work done because of his contacts. Since they attend parties, they are having maximum fun in their life. On the other hand, Rich people are envious of the freedom of poor people. Rich think that poor can talk to anybody they want, they have leisure time to feel the life, they live their every moment, relationships are built not on the foundation of money but rather on trust. Both section are jealous of what others have without appreciating what do they have.

    This psychology extends to family level and even to the society and country level. At family level, families compare the status and aspiration of own family to other neighbours family. Children are given examples of the performances of other children without considering the passion and interest of the own children. It is common that local sellers use the comparison nature of the families to sell their product. One can hear the argument that since this family owns freeze, tv, AC, a good house and eats out on regular basis then it must be doing something good. families argue that their son earns higher amount of money , is in abroad so the family must be happy. No family takes into account of the hardships the other family might be going. They do not consider the emotional setbacks faced by the family, or they are not able to celebrate festivals together. Joint families consider that individual families are good since their the female would have higher freedom, less work and more money to enjoy. But as son & daughter grows up in the individual , they consider joint family to be good to take care of the children. Children will be raised under the umbrella of grandmother.

    At societal level, one can see the desire of the developing society to become the developed society. Wearing western clothes, wearing short skirts by the women, smoking and drinking are considered tool of empowerment. Developing society consider that these activities make them look cool and worthy of a developed society. This way they progress towards the developed society. Relationship are being reduced to few months and few years. Having a life long companionship is considered an old idea. All these changes are being driven from the thinking that these elements make a society developed. While on the other hand, developed society despite accepting material advances considers developing more happy. They are moving towards Yoga and meditation. They think the mystical nature of the religion in developing countries make them happy. They believe developing countries have relationship based on trust and meaning rather than always searching for a partner.

    All this activity of comparison culminates at the national level. Since in a democratic society , legislature act as per the wishes of the people developing countries are following the path of the developed countries without considering the cost attached with it. Developing countries focus is on achieving the higher growth rate, higher saving rate leading to higher industrialization. despite having multidimensional, development has become unidimensional. It is coming with its cost of higher inequality in a society, creation of the wealth rather than reduction of the poverty. Rural -urban gap is increasing leading to more dissatisfaction among its individuauls. islands of prosperity are being built amidst the sea of poverty. It is generating capital than generating the employment.

    This attitude of finding other life more worthy than one’s is a symbol of despair in the life. This despair is the reason of many violence emerging in the society. Sexual violence are on rise due to preceived notion that rich people sex life is always great and one must have such life. Theft in the society is increasing for the material advances. People are cheating on each other because it is considered normal in developed society. Rather than living a life based on the notion of need, people are chasing the greed. This greed fulfillment can occur by hook & crook. Reason of increasing corruption in the society can be attributed to greed.

    Human will always continue to compare his own fortunes, his own life with others. there is not wrong with it. But it is required that human must also consider the cost attached with the fortunes he is seeking. As aristotle said, ” happiness is the goal of life and golden mean is the way to achieve it.” Golden mean in case of human desire will ask human to appreciate the life which he is having while continuing on the path of his desires. He must always seek to become more self -aware and prioritize his own life. Then only he wil be able to compare the cost and rewards properly and put his step in the right direction.

  • xyz

    Plz Review:
    There are two sides to every coin, It depends upon our perspective and viewpoint which side we chose to see. In the materialistic world everyone wants to become rich and wealthy. In quest of wealth , some times, freedom and enjoyment are at stake. Those who have wealth dont have enough time to enjoy with friends faimily and Those who have time dont have basic amenities of life like clean water, healthy fodd, medical facilities etc. Poor wish if i would have money i would be happy, rich have quest of freedom and healthy time to spent with friends and faimily. We love western lifestyle and they love to spend some time on the streets of india. These facts says , yes! GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE.

    “The other side” in the given quote refers to the “Time “. Time keeps us away from our past and future. When someone has desire and wants to fulfill those desires he becomes passionate towards it , and the forgets the rest of the world. Friends, relative and other important relationship , which was once utmost important, now becomes secondary. The process of disillusionment starts after reaching the other side of the fence. It takes lots of time and chances of recovery is minimal.

    “The Fence ” in the given idiom is Happiness. Everybody is in search of happiness . But it illusive and its definition varies from person to person. For some living in adverse condition and serving poor and needy may be happiness and for others living in luxury house and enjoying all the means of life may be happiness. But , lack of conviction towards goal leads to illusion and grass looks even more greener on other side.

    There was a boy ,Ram, in a small village. He was ambitious and wanted to work hard and lift their parents out of poverty. He didnt know how to do it. Education facilities and future prospects in the village was not sufficient . To get proper education he went nearby town and completed his pre-graduation there. He got selected in the prestigious engineering college of india and later a excellent job offer and beautiful girlfriend and settled in USA. His bond with his village was broken in the given time gap. His lifestyle changed so did the definition of happiness. His parents were alone in the village , no one was to take care of him. He could not visit india to serve his old parent because of his working commitment , new faimily and new friend . He was very disturb and the whole purpose of his journey was defeated. NOW GRASS WAS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE.

    There are many Ram in this world who got trapped in the illusion of life. Non-uniform regional growth in india led to huge problem of labour migration. Poor from backward region shift to developed part in quest of better job prospects and lifestyle. But, later they return with chronic diseases and a lot of emotional pain is involved in that. At two different point of time they find the grass greener at opposite side.

    The present problem of environmental degradation and climate change and economic inequality is also the result of lack of vision and illusion. The industrial revolution, lust of becoming superpower led countries to use resources indiscriminately. This resulted in the present problem of climate change and in some cities the pollution level have reached to climax level.

    Thus , it would be inappropriate to say that THE GRASS IS “ALWAYS” GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE. For a visionary, rational and logcal person the GRASS IS ALWAYS GREEN. Though the extent of its Greenish nature varies at different point of life. Mahatma Gandhi gave his entire life for the welfare of poor and independence of nation. He lived a extremly simple life and saw adverse conditions in the life. But he enjoyed the process and knew that the greener part of the fence is yet to come. For him greener side the fence was 15 Aug 1947. It doesnt mean that other time of his life was lack of greenery .

    • minaxi

      Hello Deepak..
      I will say.. you gave good start to this essay and left it in mid way..
      Flow is good… But content are not clear.
      well as a friend I can suggest you to prepare a rough structure of essay. so that you can decide, on which level, what kind of information, you need to write. Try o bring diversity in essay by asking different question or searching different aspect about given quota.( It is my strategy to write essay. and I am not expert, but atleast it is helping to write content on paper).
      By the conclusion is beautiful,,, 🙂
      Thanks…

      • xyz

        Thanks Minaxi for ur time and valuable comment. Will try to improve it by following ur guidance. By the way My name is Deepak , not Rohit 🙂

        • minaxi

          Sorry Deepak.. 🙂
          Hangover of essay.. 🙂

    • ajay

      time wala part took me 2 times to read to understand its a very gud and in-depth point..fence=idiom=happiness is the crux well articulated..eg is gud but not that appealing but the argument grass is greener on other side is itself so complex that it will demand unconventional egs..from that angle though eg is not appealing it adheres to a dimension of the essay and from my perspective it is nice…connectivity and relation to migration in next para seems gud..the 2nd last para seems a bit out of context u can improve here.last para is gud..overall its a nice attempt deepak and its got some very nice understanding within it..thnx:)

      • xyz

        Thax Ajay bhai .

    • Hello Deepak bhai, my views-
      – Intro is great, you made the idea clear in the beginning
      – second para begins with the theme of ‘time’ but the subseuqent explanation depicts something else. It is more about the problems of comparison
      – I guess equalizing fence with happiness didn’t go well. In fact, the happiness is about the greener patch and even your explanation says the same
      – ending was abrupt. Apart from the introductory lines of conclusion, the whole body could have been very well framed for another para
      Your interpretations are somewhat similar to me but I would like you to delve deeper while writing essays.
      PS- You are competent enough to review my essays 🙂

      • xyz

        Thanks Batman for your valuable remarks. Will try my best to improve it. Keep writing and keep guiding 🙂

  • vishnu

    This proverb correctly notes the nature of human beeing. Ever since humans as a species as set foot on the planet he has yerned for more this has resulted in his evolution from beeing an ape to a modern day man.
    Eventhough this proverb has been used in a negative sense through our daily life it has a positive conotation as well.
    Humans strive for excellence has made him the most sophisticated and well equiped species in the world. He has used d scarce resources available in the planet to dominate the planet and other species who are physicaly more well equiped than him naturaly.
    In the modern era his pursuit for excellence has made his life as well as the others around him more comfortable in the nature of modern civilization. His yerning for more which has become a necessity has made him innovate move beyond the envelope of limitations. Industrial revolution and evolution of modern gadgets and machines are good examples of his wanting more. This has made the great civilizations and comforts which we are enjoying today.
    Eventhough his yearning for more has done good for the world it has devestating effect on him as well as the world. His wanting more has resulted in a constant state of unhappiness. He can not appreciate the things he has and look for happiness in achieving more. This has come to define the modern day society and breeded jealous angry contempt and other negative feelings towards himself as well as others around him. This feeling of wanting more has made him neglect his duties as an individual to the society as well as to his family. This selfish attitude has led to greed which can be seen as him exploiting the nature from which he has achieved his excellence which has resulted in dangerous phenomenas like drought, global warming which will have a disastrous effects on this planet as well as his life. This feeling has resulted in stress and many modern day diseases due to the life style which he leads. It has resulted in breaking of family as an institution and importance of personel relationship.
    Eventhoug the quote “Grass is greener on the other side” has both positive and negative conotations but it is of no doubt that this has led to much better life for us. But if this attitude is not understood in its limitations it will breed hatred greed and other negative feelings which has the potential to destroy the world itself,so it is important to find a balence between the both for a better life as well as a better world. Happiness may lie in the past, present and the future but it is important to appreciate that hapiness which is in the past, respect which is at the present and strive for which will be in the future

  • ashish

    “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”

    Ancient dictums when contemplated upon give more insights into the ancient wisdoms, found across the cultures- sometimes same piece of wisdom across different societies and cultures…for instance ‘door ke dhol suhaavne’ or ‘The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence’ has its versions in different cultures; which is to insinuate at the human tendency which appreciates more what is distant and criticizes more what they have.

    Human mind is constantly busy in conceiving desires- something which is like ever burning flame. And the flame incessantly awaits the fuel in from of objects of desire. Once the object is achieved, desire for achieving other object has already arisen in mind. However, human desire is also responsible for lot of human advancement and for the good of society but this needs a check from intellect and wisdom- for instance the wisdom “grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” serves agreat purpose by keeping one’s perception balanced or preventing oneself from being unduly inclined to one idea.

    we want a shift from our position; easily get attracted by life of others and somehow can observe only the greener portion of a much bigger picture…..when we see celebrities- we ignore the alienation they suffer from the society and which is many a times and oft turns out to be a reason for committing suicide. This is also the reason that many youngsters get infatuated about the glamorous lives of celebrities without having true determination for crafting a career as an actor only to get disillusioned eventually ….

    Looking at sports icons…we ignore the much hardships, conflagrations and pains they have gone through. None of this is to say that hardships and pains are not needed for achievements but only the fact that one needs to well-analyse what he truly aspires for and then he will be able to deliver his best in the field and will not have to be disappointed due to his initial infatuation.

    Similarly the life of a business icon may seem enviable to many and perhaps the reason is lack of clear examination of situation. Perhaps one might feel thankful to God for not being in place of that business-icon when one gets an opportunity to peep into that business icon’s daily routine like no time for self and family, lot of hardship and the frequent stress etc.

    Long freedom struggle to achieve self govt. ending up with the painful experience of partition has also to do with the dictum “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”. Muslim league leaders showed the greener pastures to few educated north Indian Muslims and elites and along with other factors like socio-religious movements, this ensued partition. Even after the partition, the country could never prove its creation right- and continued military rule, rising terrorism, poverty, unemployment, lack of education, pitiabl;e women plight in Pakistan- all substantiate the authority of the same dictum.

    The lesson from the dictum has an application virtually in all spheres of life for instance our complete surrender to western medical system and utter neglect of our traditional knowledge in medical field ends up with the struggling health care system of our nation plagued with lot of corruption, insensitivity of doctors, inaccessible and expnensive medical system. Having taken the note of this reality govt. has stepped up with the schemes like AYUSH- truly inspired by our own heritage.

    Similarly we are gaining our lessons in field of agriculture where having acquired an unexamined belief in the repercussion of fertilizers, pesticides and slavery of seed MNCs who have all the intent of keeping the seed regime of India as their captive by making our farmers completely dependent upon their Genetically-Modified breeds. Had we clearly analysed we would have maintained strategic autonomy and sustainability of our agriculture, water resources and environment protection.

    Along the same line, many times our patent authorities have prevented few American companies from getting the patents some endemic plants of India for medicinal purposes. This became possible due to reckless-negligence of our own wealth of traditional knowledge and our natural resources.

    ISIS online propaganda and thousands of youngsters being attracted from round the globe only to discover in the end of the malign intent of terrorist organization which seem to have no moral or religious ground and no mercy for even the child, woman and even their own men. They have reportedly been found trading the biological organs of their own injured men instead of providing them medical help and care.Although this majorly affects those sections of societies who have no means of education, no employment and prosperous lives and so they easily get victimized by the terrorist ideologies without much deliberation of reality and consequences.

    Similarly the very strong and pressing idea of industrialization for growth and development of our nation can also be misleading evaluating the plight of the world like environmental deterioration, our own state of education, skilled resources etc. Keeping all these in mind, India might devise its own ways, methods and tools to propel growth by first targeting low hanging fruits- sustainable and organic agriculture, by promoting tourism, the much needed structural reforms like in tax regime, labor domain etc. This is particularly significant seeing the autocratic and rigid China for its own people like wages in state control, no freedom of speech and expression. So the questions to be asked are- CAN WE NOT LIVE WITH SUSTAINABLE MEANS? DO WE NECESSARILY HAVE TO HYPER-INDUSTRIALIZE TO THE EXTENT OF POLLUTION LEVELS ALARMINGLY HIGH? IS THIS THE ONLY WAY TO GROWTH AND HAPPINESS? Considering the geographic, social and cultural and socio-economic factors, India may have its own ways to happiness which reaches the maximum if not all.

    Thus one needs very careful examination before finally adopting the so-imagined greener pastures. One should not be easily strayed away by the mere fraction of the situation or unwittingly-fascinated initially to only get disillusioned eventually.

    • rajjoo!!

      E GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE”

      With the growing population and in turn growing aspirations,needs,demands,experiences which may lead to satisfaction or unsatisfaction this proverb is well applicable. It proverb is used to say that ‘what other people have or their situations are better than ours, maybe what is not true or really so.’ Every aspects or side of anything is not always perfect to just outweigh other. Its just how one feels and comprehends depending upon their own intellect, persperctive, or mental level.

      What seems good for ourselves may turn bad for others or vice-versa. And taking this for granted for one & every situation and comparing with others in turn keeping ourselves at the loser or unlucky side is a wrong judgement. For example – if someone is suffering from some ailment and he/she says that other people are so fortunate that they suffer with no problem may always not come out as a right thinking. Because may be we are not at that person’s place where we can know what actually is going out there. May be the person must be suffering from major other ailment which is undisclosed and we tend to accept that the other person is happy and healthy. It depends on how much transparent is everyone’s life to others. The one who is actually facing a situation only can better describe it.

      All these mismatch and discrepancies come out due to unsatifaction, complacent attitude and under-reported or lack of genuine information. This can be sited with examples where the proverb is well fitted :-

      1. India being a multi-cultural country has its pros and cons at the same time. If we hear of any news about the rape cases, we say india is like this only, people have wrong mindset or the laws are not stringent to set a precedent from deterring others from committing such crimes in future. Out of this we say foreign countries are better, girls are more safe there, people there are more broad-minded, laws are good, etc. But if we have a look at the survey we found that india just comes at the 5th position for rape cases and not even it is in the first third. Countries like south africa, sweden,US, etc are well above us . Here it goes like we feel only India is not safe and other countries are better but the truth is it is actually not so.

      2. With the recent news, India is becoming the most favoured and wanted destination for sex-change surgery. We have always believed that foreign countries serve better , have better infrastructure and equipment but we under-estimate our own capabilities and donot give it a chance and are reluctant to take the initiative which automatically leads to praising the counterpart. Thailand which has always been considered the largest destination for sex change related surgeries is now being replaced by India because of its best after treatment, satisfactory results and that to at the lowest cost compared to other famous destinations. Here having confidence in one capabilities and with fruitful results will not give a feeling of ‘the grass is greener on the other side’ and will lead to ultimate satisfaction in turn setting benchmarks.

      3. There are many cases of human rights violation in our country and we again tend to compare with others and become worrisome that may be with better government and laws may be our greivances will be addressed better. But if we actually go around the world cases of human rights violations iraq,syria,srilanka, etc are well above us in that respect. They have gruesome cases and demand international intervention.

      4. Undoubtedly women in India are also looked down as lower in status then men in every aspect and respect. Reasons being the pre-established norms, mindset, male-dominating society which is linked to cultural teachings too. Wide agitations though have given a lot of ground and we are difinitely seeing a change compared to what the scenario of women was decades ago. But maybe the change is slow but it is surely visible with too many women being employed, educated, in leadership roles, etc. But still due to lack ofspeedily and immediate results we become dissatisfied and again say women are more empowered in bigger developed countries and have more freedom. But the case is at many cases similar or more serious than ours. Like pakistan, other islamic countries, china, and many more.

      5. There are other aspects like political,administrative, social,religious, etc where we always think of as if the system or situation is better than ours and become judgemental.

      There is always two faces of a coin. There can be many aspects of the same thing which may be taken up differently by different people on the level comprehending and enduring. No situation is big or small rather is taken up differently and raised to various levels of judgements. The proverb ” the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” is well applicable in today’s scenario where we or the society due to their own perceptions and experiences land up to wrong notions and undermine ourselves and raise our problems to a level which is actually maybe minimal in a real sense. This happens out of unsatisfaction, illusions, wrongly informed or conceived information, etc about anything or anyone’s life and out of this comparison we become disheartened, unsatisfied, complacent, complaining the fate, thus making ourselves only weak to fight and motivate for present and future sufferings.

      The proverb can well be compared with the phenomena ie; “Mirage” we encounter during summers days which gives an illusion of water on the roads which is actually not be real. The best way is to fathom, solve, contribute, check out for the realities of every problem or situation considering it the problem of the whole society thus building up a great future and a nation to live in .

  • Present day world seems to be caught by a quagmire of problems. The problems of political instability, malnutrition, burden of diseases, high infant and mother mortality rates, environmental degradation and others- all seems to bog down the human beings. However, another look at this world reveals that it has progressed too. Comparing the 20th and 21st century brings out the fact that there has been an improvement in quality of life, an increase in overall economic status and literacy and acquisition of similar other golden feathers in our cap.

    All this suggests that the world is on a path of ‘betterment’. There is an inner will to improve and to cross the fence to reach the greener side of the grass. This quest for greener side of the grass sprouts from the seed of making our lives better.

    But getting ourselves on the greener side doesn’t seem to be an easy task. The path is not smooth; there are stones and ditches and finally a barbed fence waiting to scar us. In order to sidestep all these adversaries, there is need of patience, perseverance, continuous efforts, smart work of using the stones to fill out the ditches, a never say die attitude and the ability to face all the bouncers bowled by the life and even lofting some of them outside the ground.

    An analysis of the events and processes from past and the present reveals that those with the above said quality have been able to achieve the greener side or are in the way to achieve the same. In the historical context, India’s independence was an outcome of repeated efforts of Indian leaders. They continued to press British through different movements- Non Cooperation Movement, Civil Disobedience Movement, Quit India movement- and playing tactics to destabilize the British administration in order to reach the greener side called independence to realize the vision of ‘Free India’.

    Similar efforts in the present context have been laid against the social adversaries facing India. The high infant and mother mortality rates, social abuse and rapes, increasing incidents of intolerance, and honor killings have halted the progress of society and kept them in the less green side of the grass. But this has not deterred the Indian government which has been taking steps through interventions in the form of schemes like Janani Suraksha Karyakaram, laws like domestic violence act and ensuring better implementation of the same to achieve desired results- the greener side of quality life.

    Even the commerce sector has not remained behind in putting out its efforts for achieving its greener side of increased economic growth. Businesses take risks; indulge in costly research [that may not produce any kind of result] just to find ways of improving their business prospects. The task of producing the car ‘Tata Nano’ and sending the Mars Orbiter Mission at such low costs would not have been possible without the smart work that company Tata and Indian Space Research Organization put out respectively.

    Such perseverance has not remained confined just to the national sphere. In fact, similar examples can be seen in the international sphere too. The recently concluded Paris Agreement on Climate Change to limit the temperature rise to 2°C above the pre industrial levels is a testimony to the fact that nations have been coming forward to achieve the vision of sustainable development even when there are chances that pace of economic growth may slow down a bit. This is indeed a realization of the fact that one has to cross the fence of self centred national economic growth to reach the greener side of international welfare.

    But does that mean that crossing the fence always lend someone in the greener side of the grass? Perhaps not. Above analysis has shown that the meaning of ‘grass’ is different for different people. There can be people that may choose the wrong grass for them. Presently, in India, a herd-mentality has developed about engineering as a course to achieve the greener side of better and reputable life. This has resulted in situation where people have got stuck with the ‘fence’ and finding them in a dilemma about where to go. For such people, the grass cannot be greener even if they are somehow able to cross the fence too.

    Apart from choosing the wrong patch of ‘grass’, there can be a mistake of choosing the wrong method to reach the greener side. People want to make money with the vision to live a comfortable life but somewhere corruption has crept in. Even if they have reached the greener side, it is not sure whether their ground is stable or not. Their ground can subside at any moment of time [read it as being caught through investigation agencies] and hence the fast progress of reaching the greener patch through unethical means may be lost soon.

    In wake of such outliers of the norm that grass is always greener on other side of the fence, there is need to choose the correct patch of grass. It can be done through increasing the knowledge base to ensure that one is well versed with different meaning of ‘grass’ and their relevance to him/her. One must not blindly follow other footsteps without checking that if the ‘grass’ holds same meaning to them. Similarly, one has to realize that adversaries will come and go but brave is one who is able to knock of adversaries in the path of life. This kind of mentality can be developed by meditation in order to develop perseverance, by reading inspiring books and success stories to come up with confidence that ‘when others can do, why can’t me?’

    Thus, it can be said that the efforts should be directed to reach the greener side of the grass. The greener part is there, it is waiting for us but the only thing that is required is efforts from us. The path may be difficult but the traveler has to keep up the spirits high and keep moving forward. Successful examples around us are testimony to the fact that the ‘mind that dreads and dares is never at loss’ and effort should be able to imbibe the same into our personalities.

    • xyz

      Batman bhai . reviewing ur essay is beyond my ambit. Looks beautiful.:)
      Have a look at mine and give a detailed suggestion . U can point out grammatical error as well.

    • Shaktimaan

      hi batiee!!
      -bilkullll different hai >> gr is aspect se likha h toh phir yeh b bta sakte the ki jaruri ni ki grass hmesa “green” hi ho fencing k paar >>> thoda critical tone b aa jata phir eassy me:)
      -Their ground can subside at any moment of time>> mujhe laga ki earthquake aa jayega toh stable ni hoga ground … hahahahahaha 😛 wo phir age read ki line ki >> [read it as being caught through investigation agencies]… hahahahah cant stop laughing … meri bezti:D:D
      – mostly coverage uper ki >> we hv to do this n that to reach greener part >> good one>> but THERO u can add more questions here to bring diversity >> qki aise wo ek jaisa sa hi lagi ja rah a tha qki 3-4 para me yeh hi h:)
      – baki u r genius in giving EXAMPLES>> goooood one hai:)
      thank u batiee:)
      baki u knw ur nxt step:D:D

      • Thanks Shakti 😀 Yea I have misinterpreted the topic to some extent 🙂

    • yogi

      Hello Batman Bhai : )
      kya haal chaal?
      my views :-

      Batman Bhai, u got the true essence of the theme. The best thing in ur essay is that in the beginning itself u have given the thesis around which ur essay would be centred, yahi krna hota hein, good bhai 🙂

      Before discussing on the aspects of crossing the fence, u could have given a brief discussion of the meaning of the quote, then shift to the other aspects. Suddenly crossing the road, looks a rough.

      But getting ourselves on the greener side doesn’t seem to be an easy task. The path is not smooth; there are stones and ditches and finally a barbed fence waiting to scar us. In order to sidestep all these adversaries, there is need of patience, perseverance, continuous efforts, smart work of using the stones to fill out the ditches, a never say die attitude and the ability to face all the bouncers bowled by the life and even lofting some of them outside the ground.—–simply brilliant what a thrilling analogy, Great job 🙂

      limit the temperature rise to 2°C above the pre industrial levels—-is it not below 2 °C (1. 5 °C )

      suggestions also provided, again good,

      overall in my opinion it is the best essay for this theme, just a little bit discussion on the quote’s meaning using daily life examples, then it would be comprehensive piece.

      Thanks : )

      • Thanks Yogi bhai, though I googled this quote and found that it was more related to ‘comparison’ part, so may not fit well in that context. Thanks for the suggestion about example about daily life, I completely missed it 🙂
        The first priority is to get that 2 degree, 1.5 is there but it is secondary goal.
        To quote the exact words “To hold the increase in global average temperature well below 2°C above pre-industrial level and on driving efforts to limit it even further to 1.5°C”

        • yogi

          UPSC ke point of view se implication matters more, that caught my attention and hence liked ur essay, well true meaning to comparison ka hein hein but jo imolocation apne sochi hein vo aaam log nahi soch paate, i really liked that
          noted edited, thanks for googling 😀

    • Jaya Swatantra

      What a positive approach Batman…really empowering..
      ground being stable or not.. matters .. ultimate one
      Flow is smooth any your philo part is really great
      Nothing to point out
      Well done!!

  • Cybertron Ninja

    “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”

    Keshav and Gaurav – two best friends grew up together. They studied in same school, same college. Keshav after graduation took civil services examination and got through it with top rank. While Gaurav took Google Summer Code project and was awarded a job to work for Google. Both jobs were prestigious and provided opportunities for working with it to serve millions of people daily. Whosoever gets job at these institutions is likely getting all that one desires in his career aspects. Yet there was sense of dissatisfaction among both Gaurav and Keshav.

    Gaurav saw Keshav getting huge respect, power along with the job security for his life and felt Keshav had all the stars going for him and chose the right career. While Keshav felt Gaurav’s decision to choose Private sector had worked tremendously as he has more exposure to international work, client, latest technologies and higher pay package. They both were seeing the greener grass on the other side of the fence. Because, it is a common human tendency to see a hot gulab jamun in other’s place to be more yummy and relishing. It’s only when you step in other’s shoes – you see the complete picture.

    We humans have evolved to present our best selves to people. However, the same we people will try to work under cover when things do not work in favor for us. We try to hide our true self – the one that we naturally are. Instead we present and project the more successful and the more powerful self to others for multiple reasons like to be found attractive, powerful, confident, likable, lovable and acceptable in the society. That is also how we get trained to see the successful lives of other people and not their day to day struggles that made them who they are. Of course, there are few people who truly are themselves among people as they are when they are alone.

    Can looking at the greener side grass at the other side of the fence cause you to have low self esteem trouble? Let’s see how it happens and the remedy for it!

    There are certain things we like to search, receive and feel externally from other people for example love, happiness, power and respect. These qualities which people seek from others are generally not guaranteed. Sense of self worth and self-esteem should always come from self-understanding of our good innate qualities like working hard on time, loving and helping others. One should not depend on judgement of others because most of the people cannot judge themselves properly. Be aware of the greenery of our own consciousness and greenery of our position which is very rich and fertile. In this fertile soil, plant the good crops of achievement, fame, happiness, esteem, power and respect.

    Human DNA and its uniqueness.

    We are unfortunately or fortunately in the habit of comparing our lives, work, achievements, failures, creations and inventions with others. We fail to understand that there cannot be a single measure to compare different aspects of different human beings. Because, each human being is gifted with unique DNA. No two persons have same DNA structure nor they face the same set of circumstances and situations. There is variation and uniqueness that is the beauty of life. However, this comparison helps human race to excel in various fields of endeavor than the already existing one. Think of all the technological advancements and inventions, think of the updated products we see every other day. Even business houses are competing and evolving for the betterment of the economic state and activities and helping progress of the country and human civilization.

    Looking at greener grass on the other side of the fence can also be positive, if you are willing!

    The common example is clash of ideologies where people choose to become blind while following their ideology and then try to suppress and criticize the other. For example: ABC political party criticizing XYZ political party’s ideology and vice versa where both parties have a common goal of serving the people and development of the country. Another example The Left Wing Vs The Right Wing or The Capitalist ideology Vs The Communist Ideology. The best policy should be to be Inclusive in spirit by looking at all the positive aspects of every ideology and move with liberated inclusiveness and get the best out of all.

    In the end, I would like to conclude with the small yet important example.

    While driving his old hatchback car Rahul saw a magnificent Mercedes car drove past him and he wished alas he could also possess that car. But he was surprised on seeing a happy man moving on the side footpath near him in a wheelchair who had no legs. At that very moment, Rahul realized that what he had was more than any of the world’s greatest riches. The importance of living with contentment is within himself. He also understood that the greatest satisfaction and source of happiness lies within us and thanked God for this blessing.

    • Cybertron Ninja

      Please review friends.

    • 1.nice intro ninja…something different among stories too
      2.wonderful thoughts…DNA point was something unique….
      3.try to maintain the flow of essay using connectors our putting thoughts in an ordered manner…use of heads can’t fill the gap of flow as per me
      4.conclusion ok….but satisfaction was not the theme throughout the essay…striving for best but cherishing own things was focused upon….so try to summarize the things
      just connectivity in ideas can do wonders for u.
      thank you

      • Cybertron Ninja

        Thank you for your support and review.

        • Neelotpal

          CN, a lot has already been said by @Vi@vivaankhanna:disqus. That makes my job easier. Overall, it is a good crisp essay. The introductory example is good and slightly different from the lot seen today. But the question you raise in the first few lines, you do not come back to it for a long time, and when you do, you again deviate despite going in the right direction.
          There was just no need to head the DNA example. It looks an abrupt interruption in an otherwise well-flowing essay.
          Nevertheless, you try hard in giving a balanced view and succeed in it too. Overall, you have written the kind of an essay where you can hardly go wrong, but on the flipside, it mayn’t fetch you extra marks.
          I would rate it somewhere better than average (45-50/100)…..

          • Cybertron Ninja

            Thank you Neelotpal for pointing out the requirement of the essay. It is very good review which guides me.

  • Neelotpal

    ~THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE~
    One fine day, a fat Dog passing through the jungle, met his cousin, the gaunt Wolf. The wolf was envious to see his corpulent cousin, accoutred as the dog was in shiny, clean fur. So, weaning himself away from the idea of making a quarry of the dog, the wolf asked the dog, “Dear cousin Dog, how is that you have put all the happiness of this world on your feeble frame, while your poor cousin is dying for lack of merriment”. The dog understood what his feral cousin meant. He replied “Beloved cousin Wolf, it is the milieu of the village out there on the boundary of the forest. Every day, I am served milk, bread, leftover food, and a menu fit for a king. Once in a while, my master, the Villagehead goes on a hunt. There, I too enjoy what my kind master leaves to me after skinning and deboning the quarry”. The wolf began to dream of a dog’s paradise out there in the village. He thought to himself, what is the difference between a dog and a wolf. Do not they say, ‘what is good for Peter; is good for Paul too’. He begged the dog to take him along to the village, to which the dog agreed. After walking a few miles, the wolf saw that hair on a band on the dog’s neck had thinned. The wolf asked the dog its reason. To which the dog replied that it was because of the band that his master put to chain him. Now the wolf understood everything. He said, “Cousin Dog even if I am to be put in chain for ‘a menu worthy of kings’, I am a slave nevertheless. You keep the bounties of your slavery to yourself; I will rather have my freedom”.

    This story told by AESOP is an apt comment on those who see a greener grass on the other side of the fence. Envy blinds us to see what price others are paying for their better life. We do not accept that true fulfilment and contentment are in performing to the best of our strength in the station in which we have chosen to be.

    But, why do we feel that the grass is greener on the other side? Perhaps it is because we think that persons in those situations we deem better than ours are getting more than requited for the effort they are making. Or, we think that we are getting less than what we deserve. These two phenomena have come to be associated with OVERCONFIDENCE EFFECT, where, we OVERESTIMATE OUR OWN PERFORMANCE, OVERPLACE OUR PERFORMANCE RELATIVE TO OTHERS and to top these, we think that that THE ACCURACY OF OUR BELIEFS HAS OVERPRECISION.

    The effect of such thinking on our lives is not always salutary. One example is in matters of relationship. Countless rifts have arisen when one has compared the situation of others’ relationships with one’s own. Another example is where we join the BANDWAGON. We choose colleges, jobs and investments based on what benefits others have derived, rather than thinking of their suitability for our aspirations, skills and needs.

    That’s not to say that we should not try to improve our lots. We must! Anything otherwise is not worthy of credit. But at some point, we have to understand that we may be short of time or have different sorts of responsibilities and have to accept things. American theologian REINHOLD NIEBUHR’s lines are widely known-

    GIVE ME GRACE TO ACCEPT WITH SERENITY THE THINGS THAT CANNOT BE CHANGED
    COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS WHICH SHOULD BE CHANGED,
    AND THE WISDOM TO DISTINGUISH THE ONE FROM THE OTHER.

    This acceptance is necessary for us to focus on, so to say, manicuring the lawn on our side. If I am to be enchanted by the verdancy of my neighbour’s lawn, I will not give attention to my lawn and weeds will overtake the grass and smother it. If at all, we find that others are in a better station than us, we should buckle up to match them sweatdrop by sweatdrop in labour. Rather than envy my neighbour for his profligate garden, I should learn from him what seed has he sown and how he has cared for the saplings and how he waters his grass. This receptiveness, and not envy, will ensure that the grass on my side be equally verdant.

    To sum up, I find it apt to quote ROBERT FULGHUM, American author, musician and motivational speaker, who wrote in the bestseller ALL I NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN (1988)-

    “The grass is not, in fact, always greener on the other side of the fence. No, not at all. Fences have nothing to do with it. THE GRASS IS GREENEST WHERE IT IS WATERED. WHEN CROSSING OVER FENCES CARRY WATER WITH YOU AND TEND THE GRASS WHEREVER YOU ARE.”
    ~820 words

    • Neelotpal

      Please review.
      Your views and suggestions are of immense value to me.
      Thanks in advance….

    • Cybertron Ninja

      Keep it up. Well written essay. Great paragraphs like third last, conclusion, third paragraph and the quotes. Well done.
      Please review mine friend.

      • Neelotpal

        Revert to you after some time.
        For the interim, keep the spirits high…..

  • I4anI

    Nikita lives in Noida with her family. She is a cute little girl. She doesn’t plays with dolls like children of our times but as these generation kids want play stations, smart phones, electronic toys, etc she also wants the same. These days she is demanding for a remote controlled car which she has seen in her neighbor’s house. It is barely some weeks when her mother brought her a video game on her demand. And now she is demanding for another one. She don’t even know whether she really likes to run a remote car or just got fascinated by her neighbor. Every children around us went through all these fascinations. It’s the way we humans are made. We always desires what others have. Children are innocent and we can say more vulnerable to fall to these desires.

    Human tendency is always to strive for better. There is not anything wrong about wanting more. But when desires develops solely on comparison basis or seeing someone else, it can be proved harmful. It is often cited that humans criticize for what they have and desires for what they don’t. There is no end for desires and there cannot be any limit a man can ask for. If some time back people were happy with radio voice then today they are not even satisfied with LED screen playing in their drawing room. Someone’s necessity can be someone else’s luxury.

    In our daily life we often find saying that he/she is so lucky to have a life like this, he is such a famous man. We Indians are so much fascinated with our bollywood that many are following almost their stars lifestyle. Recent movie Fan of Shahrukh Khan fits to above sayings. In this movie a fan named Gaurav is a die hard fan of Aryan Khanna(a famous film star). All his life he spends in coping Aryan Khanna. In following his star Gaurav got so much involved that he want to meet Aryan anyhow. According to him however big his star is, but he exists only if his fan Gaurav exist. In following the celebrity what Gaurav forgets about how much difficulty Aryan would went through before becoming a star. A famous saying of our great former President Dr. A P J abdul kalam-“If you want to shine like sun. First burn like a sun” and that is the gist of this story. We should blindfoldedly follow something or someone by looking his present, but actually look his pain and sufferings before coming to this stage of life.

    If the other side of the fence that grass looks greener don’t our neighbors put water regularly over them. Don’t we avoid the watering of our neighbors and just looking the better part. Instead we can learn from it and make ourselves capable too to make people follow us.

    We humans need to be satisfied for what we have and stop looking towards other. As said by Mahatma Gandhi, “This earth has enough to satisfy everyone’s need but less to satisfy everyone’s greed.”

  • Radhi aspirant

    Happiness is the ultimate goal of almost each person living on earth. Now where is this happiness come from ? The answer is simple, the essence of happiness is the feel of “satisfaction”. Now how this satisfaction come from? The answer is now not simple. We are living in a society which is full of different desires, competitions and envy. Is it easy to see only the green grass of our side of the fence and remain satisfied and happy?

    The point is we always assume that the things contain by others are more attractive. We always under estimate our things over others. What is the reason behind it? May be whatever we have, we gone through each and every aspect of it from positive to negative. But what we see from far, we overlook its positive points, nearer we move towards it, the negative points come to us step by step.

    Kenya is two hours ahead of Nigeria,India is four hours thirty minutes ahead of Nigeria, but it does not mean that Nigeria is slow, and it does not mean that Kenya, India is faster than Nigeria. Both countries are working based on their own “Time Zone.”

    Some one is still single..Someone got married and ‘waited’ ten years before having a child, there is another who had a baby within one year after marriage. Everyone is working in their “Time Zone ”

    Someone graduated at the age of 22, yet waited 5 years before securing a job; and there is another who graduated at the age of 27 and secured employment just after national service. Everyone is working in their “Time Zone ”

    Joyce Meyer started her own ministry at age 41 and still alive today at 71 years old. She is working in her “Time Zone ”

    Someone became CEO at the age of 25 and died at the age of 50 while another became a CEO at the age of 50 and lived to 90 years. Everyone works based on their ‘Time Zone’.

    Some people have everything that work fast for them. Work in your “Time Zone” and pray for God’s direction. God has designed us for a particular purpose that is different from the other person. God allows things to happen at His own time. Your Time Will Come. Colleagues, friends, associates, younger one(s) might “seem” to go ahead of you. Don’t envy them, it’s their ‘Time Zone.’.

    Yes, we are also in right time and in right place, just we have to concentrate in our time zone only, If we will concentrate in others we will find it more interesting and waste our time in envying it. Similar goes for other things also. The more we will concentrate in our own grass the more greener we can make it.

  • vijay- the ray of hope

    Please review friends. ……

    • ESWAR

      Not rid off, but rid of. Work on gammar and paymattention while msking sentences.

      Dost u have tried to write essay but some paragraphs diverting from the topic. Please write in lucid way, reduce gap between lines.

      U can also cover entire essay in maximum 3 pages. Merely pages filling will not fetch good marks.

      All the best

  • Sheetal

    Topic = we disregard our possession, and regard other’s.
    Centrality of Essay: Why?
    Because they lack following things:
    1. Knowledge
    2. Patience to Explore
    3. Understanding to Appreciate
    4. Clouded with Main Stream Ideas.
    5. Failing to Question and Renaissance.
    International:
    1. Brain Drain: Many intellectuals and highly competent people of our country believe to live in USA, with an expectation of having better career growth. They are failing to giving the due regard to India’s true potential. The rising boom in Start Up is the real game changer. Now, these High Worth Individuals are again returning back with the Big Business Plans to India. Earlier,
    2. International Tourism over Domestic Tourism: India is a country which is not only culturally and ethnically diverse. This is the country with utmost geography and natural diversity. But still, the high income group people prefer an international destination over a domestic destination for spending their holidays.
    Political:
    1. Switching States: with a belief of better, secure, and prosperous life. Which is a freedom indeed accorded to everyone, but not at the cost of demeaning their own state. People from few not so developing States are feeling shy in sharing their birth place.
    2. Heterogeneous Development and Demands for creation of separate State: Demand western UP of bifurcation from Eastern Up, with a belief that they are carrying a undeserving tag of undeveloped because of Easter part. This tag of Development, which they are deprived of, unlike other well to do states, is it that greener?
    Religious:
    1. Religious Conversion: A well established practice in our country with a belief to change the Social Order, to accrue certain benefits and disown the disabilities. With all these vision and aspiration many people in our country migrated from one religion to another, without realising the basic tenets of religion. But, they are still facing the same problems.
    Ideologies and Value System:
    1. While sitting in the metropolitan State of India, having a western life style, and availing all the high class facilities. Many of us will tend to believe in western value system. The value system of individuality, the value system of independence, freedom, liberty. And that’s how, disrespecting our parents for caring for us, disrespecting our society for protecting us, disrespecting the State for doing welfare.
    Economic:
    1. Growing preference for Globalisation and Capitalism: Indian with a mixed economy is trying to accommodate the need of poor with efficiency of rich. We are trying to accommodate the demands of each and every section. But still, a well to do section, known to us a Business Class, is still demanding more liberalisation. Liberalisation, a completely western concept, which developed there, enriched there, and prospering there. Why are we failing to give the due regard to our Mixed Economic Model? Why are we not respecting the role of Government as a Regulator?
    Social:
    1. Social Capital: Many of us are really worried about the degrading value system of our society. This degeneration which is loosing the high Social Capital of our society. And, unfortunately many gets frustrated with it and desire to leave this country. This is again with a belief that other societies are completely homogenous and ideal. Without knowing the level of racialism and crime prevailing in the most developed and civilised society of this world.
    Family:
    1. Familialism, is an integral value system of our Society. We tend to respect our family and thus it holds a very important role in our life. This is not the same with many other developed countries of this world. The countries, who strongly believe in individuality and gives a much higher preference to it. Thus, many in our country started emulating their behaviour, which is completely just and valid. But, creating a prejudice against our own society without realising it’s value and importance, would be wrong.
    Individual in Professional Life:
    1. Career of a young child is one of the most priced possession in his life. This priced possession offers him plethora of opportunity to work and prosper. Opportunities to showcase his grey matter, but rather working on his skills, many times he suffers from relative deprivation. The deprivation with a belief that, his opportunity is inferior to others. This is consuming his energy and precious time, which otherwise he could have invested in building the core skills.
    In Private Life:
    1. We tend to compare our relationship with others, and what we get in the end, disappointment. We force are loved ones to imitate a behaviour of someone else, which they are not. And on that basis we judge the seriousness of our relationship. We are failing to recognise the individuality of a person. We are ignoring the diversity of people. We are folding our eyes towards hundred of ways in which he/she is expressing her love towards us.
    All these problems are showing a distinct nature. We are lackign certain values. These value system has to be upgrade as soon as possible.
    Values need to be upgraded:
    1. Understanding: We have to understand our nation, our country, our society, our economy, our people, our family, our parents, and our loved ones.
    2. We have to embrace patience to realise this understanding. TO patiently observe and notice.
    3. Thus, we have to open our selves for the knowledge coming from any direction. We have to be more democratic in nature, to accept the diverse and different view points. We have to be more empathetic in nature to appreciate the stand of other. We have to be more compassionate, to work towards a better harmony. Whether it is with our nation, society, or family.
    4. But, before that, we have to get rid of all the shackles of prejudices. We have to develop a tendency to question things and understand their true nature, rather living in a highly prejudiced world.
    So, let’s understand our possession, our country, our people, our family first, before drawing any conclusion on them,

    • Are tum to wahi ho jo shortcut way me answers likhte 😀

      My views-
      – this type of format is not well suited for essays. Essays are about flow structure and content and this way you’ll be able to focus only on the content part. So, try writing it like a proper essay instead of bullet form
      – in brain drain, tourism, switching states, the arguments can be extended to point to the problems of other side too as you have done with ‘heterogeneous development’
      – the explanation in ‘growing preference for globalization & capitalism’ was well short to explain its relevance
      – idea of social capital and familialism looked a bit repetitive as you have talked about western culture earlier too
      – can talk about the cases where looking at greener side can be healthy e.g. inspiration and success stories can be a boost
      – in value upgradation, try to cover how do we actually ‘upgrade’ these value i.e. through meditation, yoga and motivational books

      It is mutlidimensional in nature but doesn’t go well the way an essay should be written. So, try working on that 🙂
      PS- If you can please remove privacy of your profile, it would be easy for me to access your essays in future

      • Sheetal

        Thanks B.
        It is not an essay, it is just the content. Thanks for your detailed review. I have read yours, which is really nice.

  • Isha

    “Never let the things you want to make you forget the things you have..”

    Looking through the two lenses of discontentment and ‘taken-for-granted attitude’ towards the things we have, the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence to the human beings. That’s quite obvious, of course.

    Being ungrateful towards for what we have, we always long for other set of totally different opportunities and life situations. Many troubles of the mind involve turning away from reality by being preoccupied with the search for another life, a different life, perhaps a better life somewhere else. Troubles in life come when we are taken over by envy, believing that other people have the good stuff and then feeling depressed, anxious, and persecuted by the belief that we have so little. We are taken over by greed, wanting more and more, feeling that what we have cannot ever be enough.

    In longing for the so called happier life of others or imagining the life had that ‘one decision’ wasn’t taken or may be switching sides from one option to the other we fail to take into context the varying pedestals we are standing on or may be the varying context we are comparing. For example, while looking at that studious topper child of their neighbors or relatives and comparing him/her to their own child, parents fail to take into account (most of the times) the fact that each child is different on his/her own. Each one is born
    with a different ability and its not justified to force each one of them to be a scoring lad only. The grass (neighbors child) surely seems greener on the other side but the grass on our side isn’t in a hopeless condition as well.

    Similarly, many of us complain about the quality of school we completed our education from, the college, the city, the electricity, and in fact few people don’t even spare their parents for that matter. They just wish they were lucky enough to have the parents of that rich friend who has ‘all the luxuries of life’ at his request. Even adults and younger generation fail to take into consideration the ground realities while self pitying, often.

    What we fail to consider is, we take the things we have with us for granted and long for the grass on the other side that seems greener, in addition to what we have. We never want to lose the good set of combo we have. And we never care enough to delve deeper into the reality and cross the fence to have a look at the hardships we might face by switching the sides. We just look at superficial things and happiness.

    Talking about the economic context, there is always a war between classicists and Keynesian policy set instruments and ideology. Here in India, people always cited the example of Hongkong (a complete laissez faire economy- without any government intervention) and China to blame the government about the late reform initiatives, about the timing of 1991 reforms or the red tapism problem due to corruption. Few people also suggest that a country of the size of India must not have a democratic government as it slows down the decision making process. The distant drums sound pleasant to them, of course.

    True that, there are structural and administrative reforms needed in many contexts but one size fits for all approach isn’t good. Keeping in mind the context of 1947 and the peculiar circumstances of our country, democratic government was the best option among the available set. Also, just having a one-party system or monarchial/ autocratic government doesn’t ensure fast paced reforms. It depends more or less on the will of the government in power. Even in china, people are deprived of Freedom of speech and many other basic amenities like unhindered access to internet which we are blessed with. The grass certainly looks greener but it isn’t always so on the other side.

    There are people who have problem with each and every strategy of Indian National movement; some have problem with the Indian constitution and its being a copy of other constitutions; few have problems with the education system, rape culture, disrespect of women and their commoditization. Criticism on a positive note is always good but criticizing every time without efforts to make a change isn’t beneficial.

    Here, we need to be very clear and honest with ourselves what we want from our life and what our priorities are. Each one of us is different and so do our goals. Each one of us is having his/her external factors to lift us up or pull back down. We are at different pedestals in the cycle of life. So we need to set our priorities and strive to achieve them. The fact of the matter is even if you are a billionaire; there will be a person on earth who will be much happier than you. The quantity of happiness is subjective. One cant say the other person is happier than the oneself or vice versa.

    Grass may seem to be always greener on the other side. But we need to look carefully the pedestal on which the other person is standing; to truly appreciate the hardships he/she must have gone or take into consideration the privileges they were born which made their way a bit easier. Sometimes people do rise from the ashes and sometimes people do face hardships even though they were born with a silver spoon in their mouths. Placing yourself in their shoes will clear the whole picture behind the all smiles. Cursing yourself or self pitying would deprive you with what you are having at present as well.

    The fact is that grass can be made greener at any place; we just need to provide it with water. In reality, the key to a happy life is being content with what we have. That is not to say that we should settle for average. We can and should work hard to achieve our goals and dreams. But we should not lose the present moment for some future happiness by copying someone.

    There is an old saying- “If everyone in this world is asked to make a bundle of their set of problem and throw it in a large well and later asked to pick up the bundle of their choice, everyone would prefer to go home taking their own lot.” It’s very easy to look at the shiny surface of the mirror or admire the beauty of the moon. But it’s harder to accept the luxuries of having it with all the sets of hardships it took to achieve the same. So we should appreciate what we have, set our priorities, & strive to achieve the same throughout the life- in short, continuously watering the grass on our side instead of taking a sneak peak into the other half of the fence.

  • Titan

    Guys, please review and encourage answers and essays written on paper and attached. The quality of the writing and presentation only then can be evaluated.

    Thank you.

  • rajjoo!!

    “THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE”

    With the growing population and in turn growing aspirations,needs,demands,experiences which may lead to satisfaction or unsatisfaction this proverb is well applicable. It proverb is used to say that ‘what other people have or their situations are better than ours, maybe what is not true or really so.’ Every aspects or side of anything is not always perfect to just outweigh other. Its just how one feels and comprehends depending upon their own intellect, persperctive, or mental level.

    What seems good for ourselves may turn bad for others or vice-versa. And taking this for granted for one & every situation and comparing with others in turn keeping ourselves at the loser or unlucky side is a wrong judgement. For example – if someone is suffering from some ailment and he/she says that other people are so fortunate that they suffer with no problem may always not come out as a right thinking. Because may be we are not at that person’s place where we can know what actually is going out there. May be the person must be suffering from major other ailment which is undisclosed and we tend to accept that the other person is happy and healthy. It depends on how much transparent is everyone’s life to others. The one who is actually facing a situation only can better describe it.

    All these mismatch and discrepancies come out due to unsatifaction, complacent attitude and under-reported or lack of genuine information. This can be sited with examples where the proverb is well fitted :-

    1. India being a multi-cultural country has its pros and cons at the same time. If we hear of any news about the rape cases, we say india is like this only, people have wrong mindset or the laws are not stringent to set a precedent from deterring others from committing such crimes in future. Out of this we say foreign countries are better, girls are more safe there, people there are more broad-minded, laws are good, etc. But if we have a look at the survey we found that india just comes at the 5th position for rape cases and not even it is in the first third. Countries like south africa, sweden,US, etc are well above us . Here it goes like we feel only India is not safe and other countries are better but the truth is it is actually not so.

    2. With the recent news, India is becoming the most favoured and wanted destination for sex-change surgery. We have always believed that foreign countries serve better , have better infrastructure and equipment but we under-estimate our own capabilities and donot give it a chance and are reluctant to take the initiative which automatically leads to praising the counterpart. Thailand which has always been considered the largest destination for sex change related surgeries is now being replaced by India because of its best after treatment, satisfactory results and that to at the lowest cost compared to other famous destinations. Here having confidence in one capabilities and with fruitful results will not give a feeling of ‘the grass is greener on the other side’ and will lead to ultimate satisfaction in turn setting benchmarks.

    3. There are many cases of human rights violation in our country and we again tend to compare with others and become worrisome that may be with better government and laws may be our greivances will be addressed better. But if we actually go around the world cases of human rights violations iraq,syria,srilanka, etc are well above us in that respect. They have gruesome cases and demand international intervention.

    4. Undoubtedly women in India are also looked down as lower in status then men in every aspect and respect. Reasons being the pre-established norms, mindset, male-dominating society which is linked to cultural teachings too. Wide agitations though have given a lot of ground and we are difinitely seeing a change compared to what the scenario of women was decades ago. But maybe the change is slow but it is surely visible with too many women being employed, educated, in leadership roles, etc. But still due to lack ofspeedily and immediate results we become dissatisfied and again say women are more empowered in bigger developed countries and have more freedom. But the case is at many cases similar or more serious than ours. Like pakistan, other islamic countries, china, and many more.

    5. There are other aspects like political,administrative, social,religious, etc where we always think of as if the system or situation is better than ours and become judgemental.

    There is always two faces of a coin. There can be many aspects of the same thing which may be taken up differently by different people on the level comprehending and enduring. No situation is big or small rather is taken up differently and raised to various levels of judgements. The proverb ” the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence” is well applicable in today’s scenario where we or the society due to their own perceptions and experiences land up to wrong notions and undermine ourselves and raise our problems to a level which is actually maybe minimal in a real sense. This happens out of unsatisfaction, illusions, wrongly informed or conceived information, etc about anything or anyone’s life and out of this comparison we become disheartened, unsatisfied, complacent, complaining the fate, thus making ourselves only weak to fight and motivate for present and future sufferings.

    The proverb can well be compared with the phenomena ie; “Mirage” we encounter during summers days which gives an illusion of water on the roads which is actually not be real. The best way is to fathom, solve, contribute, check out for the realities of every problem or situation considering it the problem of the whole society thus building up a great future and a nation to live in .

  • rajjoo!!

    plz review friends…. in between i got bored while writing 😛 still plz review… 😛

  • Rashmirathi

    As the school bus jolted to a halt in front of her house, Radha ran inside to show her report card to her mother. She had stood third in the class. But all her happiness melted away when her mother , with a cold expression on her face replied – “ Mrs. Gupta’s daughter stood first !”. Radha silently walked back to her room with a broken heart.

    The above story reflects the age old human tendency of looking at others’ life and thinking of it as better than their own. the phrase grass is greener on the other side of the fence refers to his comparative nature of humankind , the way we look at other people’s life and the things we do not possess.

    This attitude can be seen in simple day to day thought process of individuals as well as matters of national and international importance. for example, people many a times can be seen thinking how the 9 to 5 job of their friend with so much scope for work-life balance is better than theirs at the same time, the other person might wonder how great would it be to have a fat salary paying job in a MNC despite the long working hours.

    A high caste individual envies dalits due to reservations in jobs while a dalit feels he same way with regard to the high social status the other individual enjoys.

    A working woman aspires to be able to spend more time with her children while a house- wife wishes she too had a career and economic independence.

    A developed nation aspires for the natural resources of developing nations while less developed nations wants their technological prowess.

    Thus this mentality exists everywhere.The basic reason for this lies in our dissatisfaction with our own life and tendency to focus more on what we do not have instead of counting our blessings.

    This attitude leads to envy. We suffer a little when misfortune befalls us, but envy makes us suffer the fortunes of everyone we know. It brings bitterness in our life and ruins mental peace.

    Happiness matters the most in life and mental peace is a must for it. But the comparative tendency disrupts mental peace by taking away the most important task in life- making the most of what we have.

    Many a times we compare ourselves with others and start feeling inferior to them. For example, most people in the world feel insecure about their physical appearance. This leads to loss of self confidence.

    tendency to find the life of others better than ours , makes us run away from the reality and breeds escapism. We start thinking we would be happier in a different set of circumstances. But turning away from reality is nothing short of a recipe for disaster.

    For example, in the introductory story, had Radha’s mother focused more on her achievement instead of comparing her, it would have set them both on the path of happiness and progress. But instead her wishing for a different reality, like Mrs. Gupta’s lead to stress between her and her daughter.

    By diverting our entire attention to the lawn of the neighbor , we end up forgetting to water ours. Meaning, focusing entirely on others deprives us of the chance to hone our own strengths and become the best version of ourself

    This further amplifies dissatisfaction with life and results in depression, anxiety and inferiority complex making us want to escape reality all the more.

    For example Shyam , a farmer always felt how his brother Ram , a rickshaw puller in the city , was so much better off than him. His life did not lay at the mercy of the Rain Gods. His envy pushed him into such despair that he lost the will to better his own situation. He could have instead focus on rain water harvesting, drip irrigation and the many schemes government was running to assist farmers. but his envy destroyed him.

    When you look at something from far, it seems beautiful and flawless. The rugged topography of the moon , when seen from earth is considered to be the epitome of beauty. Similarly when you blindly follow someone considering them perfect, you often end up in trouble. Instead one must look within and do what suits them the most.

    Many Indians have the mentality of looking at western nations as the cornerstones of development. So blinded do they get that mindless westernization is done in the name of modernization. They fail to see the error in their ways, the unsustainable paths of development, the unhealthy lifestyles, junk food, etc. Instead of this, one must develop the rationality to look at things objectively, know your socio cultural situation, weaknesses and strengths well and do what suits you the most, instead of following someone.

    However, this does not mean that we get so engrossed in our life that we shut our eyes to the world. Sometimes grass is actually greener on the other side and having a glance across the fence reminds us that we have been neglecting our own garden. it helps us identify our flaws and make them better.
    Isolationism leads us to become a “Kupmanduk”- a frog in a well ,which is not a wise thing to do. Staying informed about what is going on around us helps us choose the best options for us. Knowledge is power. Thus there is a need to strike balance between focusing on our own life , strengths and weaknesses and keeping an eye open to the world as well.

    A wise man once said, “past is history, future is mystery, but present is a gift”. Thus it is important to embrace the present moment and learn to deal with it instead of trying to hide behind escapism and denial. If we accept the reality for what it is, there is a chance to develop it. We must remember tat the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence, it is greener where it is watered. So don’t forget to water your own lawn staring at your neighbour’s!

    https://soulsurfer13.wordpress.com/2016/05/08/the-grass-is-always-greener-on-the-other-side-of-the-fence/

    • ajay

      gud intro and flow…moon wala eg aur westernization blindly follow karne wala part is very nice…arguments to green your garden and become better can be elaborated because if u have introduced that dimension in ur essay u need to do justice with it…conclusion mein to water to get green grass unique sa conclusion hai…thnx:)

      • Rashmirathi

        thank you Ajay 🙂 pointers taken .

  • HappyIAS

    Please find some time to review friends. Philosophical essays scare me. Please give your critical feedback and help me improve. 🙂

    “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” – It is an ancient proverb that refers to the way we tend to look at other people’s lives and things that we don’t possess through rose colored glasses.

    It comes from the idea of looking at your neighbour’s lawn and seeing it as a better looking, healthier, and overall greener than your own when in reality you are just ignoring anything negative about it and at the same time, downplaying everything positive about your own.

    Is it true? That the grass is always greener on the other side? Well, let us explore this with the help of a short story.

    Two childhood friends, Vineet and Arpit, were talking over a cup of coffee at the age of 25. Suddenly, Vineet said, “You are so lucky. You were always the topper, went to a great college and got a big-fat-paying-job in the US. You will probably accomplish more by the time you are 30 than I will in my entire life.” To this, Arpit replied, “Are you serious? I’ve always envied you. People expect so much out of me. I’ve never been able to have a life because of studying and other schoolwork. If I get less than an A, people freak out like I got an F. I may accomplish that much, but with all the pressure on me I’ll probably be insane by the time I’m 30. In so many ways, I wish I could just be a regular guy with normal expectations and a normal life.

    “Wow, I honestly never looked at it that way. I guess it’s true that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence,” said Vineet.

    This story is not alienated from anyone of us. We all have gone through a similar situation many times in our lives. The habit of constant comparison is found almost in everyone, small or big, a kid or an adult, rich or poor. I remember when I was a kid, I always used to envy adults because they had all the freedom they wanted. They could buy things without taking permission from anyone and come home anytime they wanted. At that age, I wished for just one thing every Christmas – Please God, help me grow up quickly so that I can have the same authority like my big brother and parents to take my life’s small and big decisions.

    And here I am, an adult, now wanting to go back to my childhood, where my only job was to EAT-PLAY-STUDY-REPEAT. Now that I’m on the other side, I know the problems and challenges faced by adults, their huge responsibilities. One decision, if gone wrong, could affect the lives of the entire family. How I wish I could get back my childhood when I was allowed to make as many mistakes as I wanted to because everyone would ignore them only because of one central theme – “Bachcha hai, koi baat nahi.” (It’s okay. You are just a kid.)

    This habit is not only engrained in kids but in the parents too. Some parents have this bad habit of comparing their kids with their siblings, and in worst cases, with their neighbours and friends’ kids. At such a tender age, a small kids doesn’t have the maturity to understand what ‘expectations’ of his parents mean and it unnecessarily creates mental pressure for them. In some cases, kids develop INFERIORITY COMPLEX i.e. they think that they are the less smart and confident ones as compared to the ‘star kid’ of their neighbour.

    These same kids grow up to be low-confident teenagers and then adults, who always doubt their own abilities and continue living with the sole myth that they have had about themselves – that they are ‘under-performers’. This decreases the quality of life because comparison not only gives rise to inferiority complex but JEALOUSY too. This keeps us away from enjoying our lives and we miss out on opportune moments because we always want something else that we don’t have. We get jealous of our own friends’ achievements which ruins our friendships too.

    A common man is always jealous of the lavish lifestyle and the fan following of filmstars, cricketers and other famous people. Little does he think that these famous people yearn to have at least one day of life as a common man – away from the cameras, forever chasing paparazzi. Recently, Amitabh Bachchan was in Delhi in disguise because he wanted to enjoy alone without being followed by his fans everywhere he goes. This shows us what an important gift all of us have in the form of Privacy. Famous people, as can be seeing saying in many interviews, envy this aspect of our lives the most. We, as common people, can talk, go out, fight and love anytime we want without being afraid of getting published in the next day’s tabloids.

    People are forever comparing things – big city vs. small city, urban vs. poor, govt. job vs. corporate job, small house or a big bungalow, rich vs. poor, slim bride or a fat bride, and so on and so forth. But this isn’t good for we miss out on the opportunity to savour the small happy moments and things that life gives us.

    Psychoanalysts say that people should “accept the reality” – for it is the cornerstone of mental health, inner peace and contentment. Buddha once said that the “way to happiness is actually quite simple – the secret is to learn to want what you have and not want what you don’t have.”

    This means that you can only be happy when you are at peace with whatever you own. Troubles in life come when we believe the myth that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. We are taken over by envy, believing that other people have the good stuff and then feeling depressed, anxious, and persecuted by the belief that we have so little. We are taken over by greed, wanting more and more and more, feeling that what we have cannot ever be enough.

    The reason why this attitude undermines mental health is that it leads us to turn away from the main task of life which is to make the most of what we have. By denying the goodness of our very own lives, we believe that we neither have anything good to work with nor the capacity to work with it. We lose focus, self-confidence, and hope.

    The proverb is not asking us to stop dreaming for better, but it wants us to be happy and satisfied with our life and not compare or feel jealous of the things others have. It just asks us maintain stability in life and respect our own decisions and our lives as they are.

    The grass is not, in fact, always greener on the other side of the fence, not at all. Fences have nothing to do with it. The grass is greenest where it is watered. When crossing over fences, carry water with you and tend the grass wherever you are.

    The answer to bust the myth that grass is always greener on the other side of the fence lies in this famous quote by Hal Elrod – “Live the life you have while you create the life of your dreams.”

    • Shaktimaan

      hi happy bhaiya!!
      aaj thodi achi philo daali h>> not bad:)
      critic:-
      – maximum coverage to life oriented examples>> better to include ol perspectives from different spheres:)
      – better u write story at intro>> coz dat one or two liner isnt “appealing” dat much:)
      – u used qoutes>> brilliant>> gr by heart lern h to>> otherwise better to write in your wordings:)> aise gr examiner ne ni pdha hoga wo quote to unko lagega >> “wow!!” bache ki kya soch h!!
      – conc , though due to quote luk better>> bt IMO it will be awsone if u summerised ur whole eassy in it>> qki jo end k baad direct xamnr hme marks dega na!
      because of ur simple approach i upvote:)
      thank u brother:)
      hallelujah!!

      • HappyIAS

        haan yaar wo different spheres wali cheez dusron k essays padhke missing lagi mujhe..
        Mujhe laga tha ki philosophical mein zyada examples ni de sakte.. bas philosophy jhaadte.. 😛 Galat the hum.. 😀
        Regarding quotes, please clarify. I’ve read in toppers’ tips that writing quotes is good. We should memorize them.. shouldn’t we?
        maine conclusion k pehle paras mein kind of gist diya hai.. will try better..
        Thanks for the review 🙂

        • Shaktimaan

          han han wo hi na>>> gr by heart yaad h or same wording main reproduce kr pao toh “BRILLIANT” gr ni toh phir apne wording pe likh do !!:):)

          • HappyIAS

            ok! 🙂

    • hello happy ji
      1.no need of repeating the topic..simply say given adage or topic..but its not appealing..also we dont know if its ancient or contemporary
      2.story copy ki hai na net se :D…apni bana lete koi
      3.comparison part was stretched…give proper space to the reality and self part too
      4.”Buddha once said that the “way to happiness is actually quite simple – the secret is to learn to want what you have and not want what you don’t have.”..this quote may convey message abt that stop striving…so modify immediately when u use it by relating to self love and cherishing ur things than reserving it for later…
      5.awesome concluding quote but prepare background for it in penultimate para before u can use it otherwise its abrupt ending
      thank you 🙂

      • HappyIAS

        ji bolne ki zarurat nai dost.. khaali happy chalega.. 🙂
        haha.. haan yaar achchi lagi.. aalas mein yun hi chep di.. 😛

        all odr pointswell taken. Thanks for ur review. 🙂

    • minaxi

      Hello Happy IAS…

      First line is not adding any value to essay.. I do not think, it is relevant to write this, second paragraph is good. But stry- I know, many of us like to write story in essay, but in opinion, it must be written in a way, so that, It can bring out more than one aspect or dimension of given quota. if not, we can easily explain the meaning and can provide example( IMO)

      Most of essay convey only comparison, more dimensions can be added.The best part of essay is summarized in last two paragraph.:)
      Language is simple and flow is good.

      Thanks.. 🙂

      • HappyIAS

        thanks minaxi..points well taken 🙂

    • yogi

      Hello Happy IAS 🙂

      Yaar tera naam bada mast hein, padhke ek muskaan aa jaati hein something like this 🙂

      My views:

      1. Intro: “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” – It is an ancient proverb that refers to the way we tend to look at other people’s lives and things that we don’t possess through rose colored glasses.—it is not advisable to directly begin with the quote , use some innovation, some indirect way to make a transition to the theme of the essay, some ways, begin with a quote OR begin with a short story, OR begin with general content and then shift to the specific content of the theme.

      2. Main body:u have given different dimensions of the quote. But I have I doubt, when u wrote that people compare two children etc etc. I don’t think it is as per the actual meaning of the quote as it would be in line of the quote if the children compare each others life and then say “teri ghas zyada hari hein”. If any third person is saying “ A’s grass is more green than that of B’s “, then it is not what the quotes says. Hope u got the point.

      3. If I get less than an A, people freak out like I got an F. I may accomplish that much, but with all the pressure on me I’ll probably be insane by the time I’m 30. In so many ways, I wish I could just be a regular guy with normal expectations and a normal life—topper log aise hi bolte hein 😛

      4. Could not relate Big B example,

      5. Last 4-5 paras, are good but flow is missing,

      Overall a nice read,

      Keep writing

      Thanks : )

      • HappyIAS

        achcha laga sun k bhaai.. 😛 ek kaam kar.. meri fotu dekh.. hansi bhi aa jayegi.. 😀

        1. good feedback on intro.. will not experiment this anymore.. completly agree with u.
        2. doubt clear karo.. agar mere parent mujhe tumse compare karnege toh bhi toh keh sakte hain na ki inki grass unki grass se zyada hari hai.. 😉
        3. lol
        4. Big B was roaming around freely in Delhi only because he was in disguise.. had he looked like Big B, he would have been followed by his fans everywhere, thereby totally ruining his outing..
        5. ok.

        Thanks for such a nice review yogi bhai.. Yoga karte raho.. 🙂

        • yogi

          2—-yes i got it now, u r right did not think that way
          sure 🙂

  • saran

    http://edwitty.in/polity-quiz-1/

    Friends try these questions..

  • Aj

    The Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

    Homo Sapiens, the species that is dominating this planet did not come about doing it due to mere fortune. It was an intense struggle to survive and excel that made them take the journey from ape to modern man. This desire to be better is the indelible mark that evolution has left on us. And for the good, since it is the reason for societies progress. We all want to be better than others, be more appreciated, more popular, surpass our friends and enemies in competitive exams etc. It is natural. But then after we do all that, unfortunately or fortunately we will find someone always ahead of us. There will be that person more richer than us, more popular, and definitely someone with a better rank than us. Some may get their home cadre, some may get their first preference. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Certainly there is no denying that some areas will always be greener than us. But then in this journey of ours of having a greener grass than others, we somehow forget how green our grass is and more importantly how green we want it to be. It is this idea, this essay intends to remind the people of.

    Modern society is a race. You perform or perish. It is not the heredity of the ancient society or the caste or class you are born into that determines your fate but rather probably for the first time in human history, your fate is determined by your own hands. The ideals of merit and equality assume centre stage in capitalist societies. In this context, the limit to excellence has been removed. If you come up with the idea of an automatic transmission, very soon you’ll have an electric car and surpassing it would be autopilots. This rat race leaves out many of them depressed and despaired of not achieving their goals. For all those individuals, the grass on the winners fence is always much greener. Moreover, even for the winners, they cannot be content with what they have achieved. You don’t come up with something new tomorrow, you are outdated. This makes life stressful because you are constantly on the run and there is no sense of satisfaction. How much ever you climb, there is always a bigger peak. Despite winning the World Cup for India, Sachin Tendulkar has to go through immense criticism to reach his 100th 100.

    There is another issue at stake here. Excellence in one domain of life may make you want the goods of other domains. A politician may have popularity but he may miss the personal life other professions have. A businessman may have all the money he needs but he may desire the respect and popularity of a public servant. Resultantly, what we observe in today’s society is that people are not content with what they have, they are dissatisfied. People are desiring the greener grasses on the other side of the fence but unfortunately in this process, they are missing out on the beautiful orchard inside themselves.

    The reason for this comparative approach to life is the deformed enculturation process. It all begins when your mother says your aunts son behaves well than you do. When your father compares your mark sheet with the neighbours daughter. When your parents decide your career profession before they decide your name. This phsyce of doing better than others, competition is reinforced in our schools which is more concerned with your rank than your ability to reason. In this process, sadly, the individuality of the child is lost. His personality becomes outward looking. He becomes concerned with what others think of him rather than what his heart and soul think about anything. Satisfaction is defined for him as being better than others or excelling in the race. A race he never chose to run in the first place. The race decided by external forces – parents, teachers and the market. Most Indians join engineering before they decide what to do in life. And finally once you are in the race, there will always be greener pastures and resultantly creep in feelings of dejection, depression, worthlessness and slide down ones confidence. There is no denying the islands of excellence in every domain of life but how many we have is left to the opinion of the reader.

    Another interesting aspect is that when we start looking for greener grasses outside our fence, sadly we miss the even worse ones. That is, like in any race, we are concerned with the ones ahead of us rather than the ones behind us. We don’t even look at them. This approach to life, reinforced in every domain of life, might probably be the reason for the growing indifference to the rising inequality in the world. The effort to uplift the lower ones is minimal among a large section of the world, a consequence of our personality.

    Moreover, when we see a person with greener grass according to us continuously succeeding in life, we assume that it was the fertility of his soil rather than his effort that is propelling him. That is, we assume it is his fortune, luck or “fathers business” or “ancestral property” that is the cause for his success. In this process, we loose out a chance to critically evaluate our actions, decisions and efforts. Instead of taking the other as an inspiration, motivation we fall back on our fortune and continue with our life. We believe Mukesh ambani is the richest because of his fathers business but don’t appreciate his efforts, ideas which could be a motivation for us to perform and be like him.

    What then should be the approach to life? Vedas and ancient texts such as dharmashastras propound an “ideal” way of life. According to them, every individual is born to perform certain duties – his dharma. Dharma is the responsibilities of the individual, fulfilling them only gives individual opportunity to attain moksha. Every stage of life has certain different duties. The duties are so designed to fulfill the four purushardhas or aims of life – Artha, Kama, Dharma and Moksha. In a nutshell, what this organisation of society and human life means that every individual has a unique role in this life and more importantly ultimate aim of life is to attain self realisation which has to be done individually. The takeaway is that doing ones duty or dharma gives self satisfaction and one has to perform it without attachment whereas in the present society we see people comparing themselves with others and in this process abdicating their duties and also in order to compete with others are increasingly attached to their activities which probably is the reason for the growing discontent and dissatisfaction.

    To paraphrase the above paragraph in the modern context is to live life our own way. Bhutan in contrast to the global herd of having GDP made its own Gross happiness index. When all nations are increasing their military budget, Ivory Coast has abolished its military to spend that money in protecting its forests. We have had freedom fighters who have given up their lucrative professional careers to fight for the nation. Definitely, the grass was greener on the side of their fellow professionals who kept minting money but then the difference lay in how they saw the world around them. The grass is greener if we believe it to be and not if we don’t. It all comes down to how we see it. But what is important is not how the grass in on the other side of the fence but how it is on our side, how we want it to be and more importantly how how happy our soul is. That ultimately will give us satisfaction and a purpose and happiness to life.

  • Tanu Singhal

    The grass is greener on the otehr side of the fence.

    It’s a human truth, we always look upto something which we don’t have.we are by nature, AMBITIOUS, and look forward to better opportunities. This nature, is by default which itself made the human kind the most intelligent one on the arth, amongst many species. But with this view comes a fact that we always tend desire for more and bulid up a notion of other having better than us.

    If we look in a broader perspective, obviously it a boon for the human kind, since it leads them to develop a quest for more, to achieve more and better, to grow everyday. But at the same time, at micro levels, this quest sometimes becomes driven by mere desire and not motivation , an honest intention, but the malice comes in between, developed due the feeling of jealousy, enviousness and hence hatred towards the one , vested with that one thing which we desire for.
    This jealousy, is becomes so,because seldom do we get into the dynamics of how that person achieved what we couldn’t. We tend to believe that other person never actually deserved it and hnece we start developing a felling that, since the struggle is absent, his success is easier than ours, or his success is bigger than ours.

    This happens regularly to us, in our daily life.
    A watchman tends to believe that his master is blessed, with such wealth, he iwas just lucky. What he forgets Ois his part of determination and efforts he put in building that empire.
    A star’s child is regarded to be better off naturally, forgetting the fact that he is born with a pressure to perform better, ANS somewhere the fact that, anyhow he has to be better in the same profession only.
    A politicians ‘ hier is similarly driven into politics, assuming he will be better off.

    Even in the economical scenarios, we always look upto big share holders, thier constant money making shares, but rarely does we consider that there is a continuous risk associated with the same, with no assurance, no surity, they are always in a doubt.
    Similarly a businesses man tends to think that the service class is better off with a constant monthly salary at hand, while the service man tends to believe the business man is his own boss.
    While booth forget each other’s struggles and risks.

    An achiever is the one who is ready to take risks, who thinks beyond boundaries and keep thinking so,bit while we calculate the costs of his success we rarely include the actual efforts out in, the sleepless nights, the slef doubts, the family and social pressure, the fear of losing .we believe he goit it easily or he as always better off.

    If we closely at the war scenarios, always the winning side is the one, which calculates all possible strong and weak points of enemy. While the one who has clouded thoughts, either of thinking that he is bat advantageous position losses because of over confidence or the one assuming that his enemy is always at par, tends to lose because of lack of confidence.
    Hence the balance the proper calucative analysis that how is that our side is less fresh and other side is greener , is reqd to bring about that success on our side.
    On the international front, the country endowed with enough resources say African countries, are still not so developed , while the countries like Japan with not enough resoucres made it to developed list so fast. This difference is nothing but the perspective that if one country can be ahead of us why can’t we.
    Obviously we can’t deny the long painful history and even preset of African continent, but the spirit of getting ahead is missing,and somewhere the lack of acceptance of this fact that we can so to is missing.
    The Fact that today African countries are willing to give away their resources rights to countries like India and China shows how they have given up, they do want to be ahead, they do want to be oin greener side , but are so bilneded that, are ready to giuev upn sovereignty.

    There is always cost to some benefit, its good to look upto something better and try to achieve more, but with jealousy or foolish analysis comes nothing but remorses.if we become honest to ourslef and analyse properly as to why is that we are seeing the other side better, is it because we believe so, because we feel we can’t do that, or is it because we are envious, we believe that other person didn’t desrve it or is it simply our helplessness, or for once better, we do believe that we can be there too.
    This introspection will give us the insights as to why we differentiate between the green or the brown grass, ie.. Whether we shall see the diffrence between the results or the very efforts, we will be able to desire for greener side, with a great motivation.

    • Aj

      The introduction is refreshing. The following paragraphs express your point and the examples that follow substantiate them. But then suddenly once we finish with the examples, we find that the essay comes to a conclusion. I felt it was an abrupt ending. Some more dimensions could have been explored.
      Certainly examples are important but you have given too many of them and missed the theoretical aspect or philosophical dimension.
      Instead of clubbing all examples one by one, you could have put forward an argument in one para followed by an example. That could have added more dimensions and given a better structure.

      Any ways, take the criticism on a positive note and keep writing. Review mine if possible.

    • Isha

      Hello Tanu,
      Intro- nice, but could be better.
      Till the middle half- that business shares example- it was good. You substantiated your line of argument well.
      U should have closed that line of argument with the fact that- grass seem to be greener on both sides; it depends more on the person who is standing on which side.

      After that, u began with ” an achiever is one…”- seems like you are telling the essentials for making your grass greener or may be qualities of those whose side of grass is actually more green. I think its more of a perspective. We can look at our side as well and think about how to make our side greener. Not necessarily is the other side is green; it just seems to because we ignore the ground realities and harsh conditions.

      Examples can be diversified- restricted urself to Africa.
      Conclusion was nice.
      Overall, thoda structure aur flow pe work kar. Analysis sahi hai teri, examples diversify kar.
      Mera bhi dekh liyo :p

  • IAV

    The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence
    It seems the ideas of some of the strategic analysts on international relations concerning the merit of the policies being followed by various countries is as volatile as the stock market indices. In the initial decades since India’s independence, it was the USSR which was idolized. This was followed by accepting the policies of the US being termed “correct”. Lately, with the rise of the Chinese economy, some of the pundits have started praising the Chinese one party system to be the most efficient form of governance.
    In all comparisons, Indian policies are critiqued severely. China’s one party system is said to epitomize efficiency and effectiveness, bringing huge development to the Chinese people. On the other hand, India’s democracy is blamed for India’s poor population, which is more than that of China’s in both absolute and percentage terms.
    As the examples above demonstrate, the grass is always greener on the other side. Yet, it is also worth considering that it is India’s democracy that has never made it see a famine unlike the Chinese one party system which fudged numbers to hide the rampant famine that the country was facing.
    The essay builds on the phenomenon of “comparison” and explores the reasons behind it. It then mentions the various detrimental effects comparison entails. Further, it tries to answer if comparison per say is bad and goes onto explore the dimension of anxiety. Finally, the essay lists the correct approach for comparison in relation to India and China and suggests a few ways for India to gain momentum and reach equal status as China.

    Comparison as a Phenomenon
    Comparison is the act of valuing two separate entities on a common scale. It is to determine the position of an entity relative to the other. The motivation for such positioning arises from the innate needs that we as humans have developed through the process of evolution. Such needs correspond to our desire for recognition. Further, we have attached our self-worth and self-esteem based on such comparisons.
    Universally, the common scale for making such comparisons has been accepted as capital. This follows from the triumph of capitalism over communism. In the latter the very idea of such comparison and relativism were shunned. Capitalism is based on the principle of property rights of an individual. Thus, under capitalism, the entities in comparison fragment to the level of an individual. This leads to further comparisons. What follows is that the society gets stuck in a vicious loop of more relative comparisons even though at an absolute level the society may be better-off.
    This is a never-ending process since capitalism does not remove the relative disparities. Rather, it has been observed that disparities fuel furthering of disparities.
    Thus, at an individual level, personal incomes become the measure of comparison while at the international level it is the GDP (gross domestic product) which is used for comparing economic prosperity of nations. In international dynamics, the power to inflict damage to others is also used for comparison which can be measured on the basis of a nation’s weapons, its armed and air-force bases, the number of troops it maintains, the number of ships in the high seas etc. Recently, cyber warfare has also joined the above list.

    Ill-Effects of Comparison
    Comparison-making can have quite harmful effects. The Bible mentions seven sins which can be reasoned to be the consequences of comparisons. For example, if X’s neighbour has huge wealth and this disturbs him, he will become envious of the neighbour. Further, he would have greed for money to do better than my neighbour. This would make X corrupt in his workplace. One major reason for the rampant corruption in our country can be traced to the tendency to compare and get disturbed.
    Such dynamics are experienced in the international domain as well. In light of the admission of Tony Blair that the UK knew that Saddam Hussain did not have weapons of mass destruction, it is obvious that it was the greed of the US and its allies that made them bomb Iraq. The consequences are in the form of the monstrous ISIS.

    Should we stop comparing?
    This leads to the question, should we stop comparing? Mr. Henry Ford, created of the assembly line manufacturing which revolutionized the transport industry had said, “if I was to ask the people, they would have been satisfied with faster horses”. It was the dissatisfaction from the literal slow state of affairs that led to the transport revolution. Thus, for development, it is important to make comparisons and be dissatisfied. It leads humans to exert themselves. This leads to creativity and innovation.
    It is not comparison that is evil. When the disturbance due to it, as has been mentioned above, becomes too much, ill-effects as referred to the seven sins surface.

    Controlling the Ill-Effects
    Firstly, individuals and institutions should develop an ethical temperament. A neighbour is not an enemy. Thus, individuals should practice mind-controlling exercises like meditation. They should lead a life full of positivity as described in Karma Yoga by Swami Vivekananda.
    Secondly, the world institutions have also started to recognize to not view everything as a zero-sum game. Had the US seen the prosperity of Middle East as increasing opportunity for its exports, the world would not have been battling the ISIS. Thus, it is important not to view others as our enemy. Rather, we should follow the principles as entailed in the following mantras from our scriptures:
    • Vasudev Kutumbakam( everyone is kith and kin)
    • Sarve Bhavantu sukhinah( let their be peace everywhere)

    India-China relationship: Strategies for Removing the Fence
    With the perspective mentioned above, few strategies can be identified for India to reach equal status as that of China. We should not be envious of the Chinese. Rather, we should emulate them in their successful strategies. Thus, on the economic front, we should use our demographic dividend to attract businesses to set shop in India. This would provide employment to our youth and increase our GDP further. The government has already set the country on this path through Make in India, Skill India and by improving ease of doing business measures.
    Secondly, India should leverage its existing soft-power competitive advantage on the strategic front. It should further close cooperation by using cultural relations. The recent outreach of India in the Asia Pacific region is synonymous to this.
    Finally, India needs to curb corruption, which has become rampant across the society to increase the efficiency and effectiveness of our policy measures for social and economic development. While ethical education can be a long-term solution, it should be augmented by automation of processes, e-governance mechanisms and single window clearances. The government should enforce the principles of transparency and accountability in all its processes.

    Conclusion
    The essay started by pointing the era of capitalism having strong correlation to rising comparison across society. Further it explored various measures like income and power for comparisons. It then explored the ill-effects of comparison while defending comparison by pointing it to be the reason for innovation and development. It then proposed ethical temperament and changing our view from seeing everything as a zero-sum game to solutions to the ill-effects of comparison. Finally, the essay proposed three solutions to remove the fence of disparity between India and China which was highlighted in the introduction of the essay.

  • Aravind Varier

    THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE

    ROUGH WORK

    1) Introduction (Basic definition of the statement and the events from history which made humans in search of greener grasses on the other side of the fence.

    a) The parsies who migrated to India from Persia

    b) Vasco da gama cruise to Kozhikode

    2) Reasons for Humans to feel grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

    a) For better livings standards (the educated youth from India have preferred to migrate to USA , Canada and other Western European countries )

    b) In search of new Adventure and challenges ( Kamal Hassan performing varied roles in the film screen due to the thrust for taking up challenges which helped him gain more awards and laurels )

    c) In search of treasures and wealth (the exploration undertaken by Government of India to know the hidden mineral wealth it possess in the Indian Ocean )

    3) Grass is NOT always greener on the other side

    a) Labour Problems faced by people migrated from India to Gulf.

    b) Contemporary problems (Refugee crisis in west Asia )

    4) Can we make the grass greener on our side rather than searching for greener grasses on the other side of the fence?

    a) The development model put in by the people of Israel in making their nation a developed one.

    5) FAIR JUDGEMENT on the three aspects (points 2, 3 and 4) by giving an explanation on the mechanisms to have greener grasses for the humans forever by adopting the best strategy in a balanced manner.

    FAIR WORK

    The statement tries to bring out the aspirations and ambitions of Human beings for improving himself/herself which motivates him/her to look and believe the presence of greener grasses always on the other side of the fence.

    History itself is a great pointer to the truthfulness of the quote which can be cited by the migration of Parsies to India from Persia during the ancient period which helped the community to prosper and presently become on the most economically well settled group in our country. A similar case from Medieval times is the arrival of the sailor Vasco Da Gama on the shores in search of the Green grass “ India “ which ultimately led to drastic development of the European continent as a whole .

    When we look at these events in the past as see the present scenario, one could observe, nothing has changed much and we still see people considering grass to be greener always on the other side of the fence. If we check the number of VISAs sanctioned to Thousands of Educated Indian Youth by various countries from USA to the developed western Europeans countries shows the increasing tendency among our youth who considers the developed countries as a place of “greener grasses “compared to their homeland.

    The belief of greener grasses on the other side on the fence doesn’t end with migration of people to certain new areas but it can also be motivated by the challenges the other side possess . The acclaimed actor “ Kamal Hassan “ is a living example for the varied challenges of different characters taken up by the person that helped him win 4 National awards as well as getting the name of being one of the most “ versatile actors “ India have ever produced .

    Kamal Hassan is an example of an individual but there are cases when a organisation or a Government goes in the belief of greener grasses always on the other side and this is evident by the recent exploration programme initiated by the Government of India in the vast surface of the Indian Ocean for extracting minerals that can help make nation wealthier .

    As we saw the belief of the people in the presence of greener grasses on the other their side of the fence , but the question to be asked here is.

    Whether Green grass is always present on the other side of the fence?

    If we see certain events from the cotemporary times, it’s as clear as board day light that. The grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence .

    Many Indian labours migrated to the Gulf region in search of better opportunities have to struggle to eke a livelihood. These Labour camps operate with least concern for the welfare of the migrant workers, have created a difficult situation that is totally different from the one that is heard back in India .

    Likewise the movement of people as refugees to the European nations from west Asia in search for ‘greener opportunities ‘have in fact created a dent on the image of the European Nations as the epitome for Human rights . The Refugees sent to places without lack of basic facilities shows the true ethical picture of Europe that is generally perceived by the people around the world .

    These two scenarios as mentioned in the above paragraphs shows the people looking in search of greener grasses OR better opportunities but just imagine a situation, if we could make the side that we stay a place with greener grasses.

    This is also evident by Israel’s transforming into a developed Nation in the middle of the desert in about 50 years on its formation .The First Prime minister Mr.David Ben Gurion had the vision of developing his nation from scratch by holding together the best people in the fields of science and Technology. This paved the way of the country becoming one of places with sufficient greener grasses or the land of opportunities.

    The Goal of any human being and the society is to have best conditions to live and it is inherent quality for him/her to believe positively on the presence of greener grasses in the unknown spheres which the person haven’t reached .For a Nation to be prosperous , every person should be prosperous and the people and the Nation should work in tandem in evolving a path suitable for every person according to his/her capabilities that can help enjoy greener grasses always in both the sides aspired by the person .

    • ESWAR

      Intro part shall be more impressive.

      Israel eg shows how the country developed from scratch, so conclude in same paragraph that man can also do same at his place.

      A bit more philosophy could have added. I felt u r essay is appeafing as gs paper one and three answer. Sorry, I know I am not competent to review and comment on u r write up. Thanks.

    • yogi

      Hello Guruji 🙂

      my views:-

      1. The statement tries to bring out the aspirations and ambitions of Human beings for improving himself/herself which motivates him/her to look and believe the presence of greener grasses always on the other side of the fence.—as I said elsewhere this is not an impressive way to begin with plz change this to something else .

      2. main body have given a balanaced picture with sufficient depth of the examples, I have no issue in ur main body

      3. Can we make the grass greener on our side rather than searching for greener grasses on the other side of the fence?—u have just given an specific example , that is good, but could have talked some general ways by which a normal human being can do that in his personal life, like what to do when one see his frind buying an expensive mobile phone. I mean u need to add some philosophy here, the general philosophy

      4. conclusion is good, and on optimistic tone

      Overall as u always do , main body is comprehensive, but intro needs improvement like u have shown in ur conclusion

      Thanks and ATB 🙂

    • minaxi

      Hello Aravind….
      My review on your essay….
      I gave you fair upvot for helpful structure..my view on it…
      You have given positive side of given quota.. But.. finding greener grass on other side of fence has negative connotation also.. so you can focus on both side of arguments.

      Second thing-
      psychological reasons or impact can be highlighted, since it is philosophical essay. 🙁

      Now essay Part-
      1)- Though, everything is nice and clean, yet I think, you could not bring the substantial effect of structure in essay. May be because, It is less in words.

      2)- Introduction can be improved, and start of second paragraph an be written in better way.. ( Because, In my view. How much i am able to decode this quote and your essay.. I am comprehending that- you are measuring this quote and human desire to do better and achieve better on same parameter.. But according to me, they are different… SInce- If I am ambitious that also, I will discontent.. But I will find the dissatisfaction and need of betterment in my self.. But In given case- One is dissatisfied and discontent- not because, He think, he lacks anything in better on primary basis, he think others have better think.. If he will not compare himself with anyone.. He will be satisfied with his present situation.. It is not case with ambitious person.. He is always internally motivated.

      Examples are well suited and well explained- in combination they are perfect, but as I have already mentioned, try to bring psychological part too.. it is mostly materialistic examples. And.. give some solutions so that.. grass can be made greener on this side too..

      Thanks .. 🙂

    • Mrinal Mukherjee

      First part : Why grass is always greener on the other side ?
      I liked the way you took examples both from India(VISA) and outside (Vasco De Gama + Parsis).

      Second Part : Why grass is not green on the other side :
      You highlighted the plight of the Indian laborers in the Gulf countries quite well.However you could have added an economic aspect apart from the political dimension you have mentioned (Refugees) One example can be that of the Global Financial Crisis.(Or any Fin Crisis for the matter fact of fact).Talk about how the reckless lending of home loans with a hope of creating a lucrative real estate market (Green grass) led to the collapse that not only affected the US but also the world

      Last part : How can we make the grass greener on our side ?
      Apart from giving the Israel example , you could have also talked about the endeavors our government is making to ‘make the grass green’ on our side.Make In India , Skill India , Stand Up India would be some points in this regard

      Thank You 🙂

  • Sumit

    1. (May 08, 2016) – The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

    Education aim has always been to empower the weak and promoting equality among despite prevailing disparities be it regional, sectional, linguistic, racial etc. Amit, a rural child, having been born among upper class has always have had the privileges of comfortable living, without tensions or pressure regarding outward world. His father being a zamindari has enjoys a magnanimous amount of social reputation among rural folks. Being a high school aspirational student, he has always been in the creamy section of toppers. But one day during normal studies, an incident occur which left deep impression on his perspective towards other children of his village. Teacher scolded a student, a friend of Amit, for asking a legitimate query, but when later on Amit asked the same question, he was gladly received with appropriate answer.

    Puzzled with above situation Amit decided to get to its roots. He narrated this incident to his father to which he replied in a calm tone” Amit this incidence has its roots in Indian social system, deeply entrenched within the psyche of the rural masses.”, and warning him he said” you must not get involve in these matters while solely focusing on your studies so as to get a good education and join service sector in some MNC’s”. However, Amit being a stubborn and decisive child was shaken to the bottom of his soul when he discovered the reasons like chaturvarna shrama system, economic inequality, political corruption, colonial mindset, during his higher education.

    Does Amit really needs to travel this road of exploring the circumstances which were present at the time of independence and past ancient periods which resulted in present situation of social inequalities?? Despite being a zamindar son, high scorer in education, a safe and assured future in service sector, is there a need to pave this path of hardship and struggle??

    Current fence of Amit characterized by hurdle free education, social prestige in village and among colleagues, access to basic services, sufficient financial independence for higher studies can be contrasted with other side of the fence that centers around the spirit of enquiry, burning desire of social reforms, adherence to principle of equality, mass education and empowerment for better living standards are the greener aspect as per Amit new worldview of the environment present around him.

    While delving deep in the cause of anomalies in ancient Indian past, he discovered that India was a united and a homogenous nation which had its roots in social cohesion, spirit of togetherness, but somethings changed India’s course to superpower i.e. colonialization by britishers which aided in various infra developments like railways, radio, communication but also resulted in economic drain of the nation natural resources especially textile sector and de-industrialization.

    He realized that with people awakening and empowerment, a sense of victimhood mindset also developed among the masses which inspired them to strive for freedom struggle, with compromises like Poona pact, partition of territories, and –ve effects a result of above outcomes i.e. communalism, regionalism, climate of hatred and distrust among different religious sections weakened the unified spirit of India’s nationalism during post-independence era.

    Now he was beginning to understand the reasons for inequalities prevalent in his village where people was discriminated as per their caste status depriving them of essential rights in public places, basic services were usually denied, human rights such as equality, liberty were flouted rampantly, nexus with public officials to safeguard themselves in cases involving backward section rights. in addition, on relating with his school experience he got the insight that issue was also with teacher’s education which was basically limited to textbooks, since it didn’t encouraged out of box thinking, scientific temperament inculcation was negligible, interaction was limited to poverty, rights deprivation, state of hopelessness which reinforced further weakening of spirit for a decent living and rights based environment.

    Seeing the other side of fence Amit got more excited and was enthuastic to imagine himself to be a part of the larger ecosystem in which various factors that were responsible for such abysmal conditions of his rural folks .An Idea of becoming a civil servant germinated in his mind after realizing the contribution he can make for the welfare the masses. Dreaming of being on this side of fence was exhilarating since it will endow him to become the change agent by being in direct contact with grassroots level citizens. But such privileges come with enormous amount of responsibilities and interminable sacrifices not yet experienced by Amit.

    The other side of the fence is always greener as portrayed by above story reflects that human beings are in constant struggle for betterment of lives where some strive for personal happiness by accumulation of material goods and services, other derives contentment in the service of others. Amit belonging to the latter category should be an inspiration and a role model to other children with his welfaristic motives for the greater good of the greater number.

    On one hand, such thinking beyond one’s current state, if implemented, by some citizens , will it not bring reforms in terms of economic,social,political development with mass empowerment, striving towards self-reliant demographics?? Or one should diligently and with perseverance should be engaged in assigned social role with no real contribution to the society?? Amit chose the mid-path of continuing his education and using it as a means towards becoming a change agent for helping in realization of “Shrestha Baharat”.

  • Sri Krishna Sarat Chandra Kamb

    The Grass is always greener on the other side of the Fence

    People always look at what they did not possess or what they could not achieve. This is general human psychology. This kind of thinking should not be completely discouraged as it kills the aspiration of humans to achieve higher goals neither it should go overboard as it turns too pessimistic about life.

    When we see a successful person in any field, on the periphery it appears as if his path was a carpet of roses and it tends to go in similar fashion in the future too! This is not true and cannot be true but believing on the face of it shows our immaturity in life. Life is a jigsaw puzzle game and it offers a lot of challenges and those who have put their cards at the right places get a beautiful and meaningful picture. We must also take up the challenges which come in the flow of our lives. Manoeuvring through those challenges also makes us successful. For example, if we consider the most successful sporstman Mr.Sachin Tendulkar, he also faced difficulties to reach great heights. Everyone thought that after his tennis elbow wound, his career might end but he trained hard, came back and performed even better. These examples of lives of persons who we project as icons must be examined keenly to negate this attitude that someone else’s life is better than ours.

    There are also some kind of people who think that by being born in a previous/different era would have made their lives easier and comfortable. This is also a kind of dejected thinking. We must understand that in all eras there were humans and the problems of humans tend to be more or less the same.

    Swami Vivekananda described several times that human life or this world is ”Gymnasium” where people come to make themselves strong. We must derive inspiration from such persons who have surmounted the most insurmountable problems. There is a great need now for the people to go through the biographies of great persons to maintain a positive mindset and hope inspite of the circumstances.

    Comparisons always make our achievements smaller because there will always be a person who is more successful than us. Instead we must try to inculcate the key habits which they have adopted to succeed. The story of India’s struggle for independence itself is a source of inspiration and shows that it fought against the mighty British Empire who never relented to accede freedom.

    What we need is a motivation which cannot be external always but must be internalized as a burning fire to keep us going. Unfortunately, the world has now transformed itself from a healthy competitiveness to ruthlessness in all areas like education, employment, business etc. The moment our minds are gripped by this unhealthy competition, we immediately compare with some benchmark. The moment we start comparing, we lose our focus on the work and we start worrying. But by worrying things doesn’t get better. So, this constant worrying makes us that something or someone are in a comfortable position. This thinking is good as long as it pushes our efforts to a higher level and to make us achieve but if it is bringing our morale down, we stagnate and degenerate. As a result, we lose the current position also. It further pulls us into depression.

    Hence, I would like to conclude that instead of worrying why the grass was greener on the other side, we must start to think how it was made greener which can give a more practical solution to our brown patches.

    Dear Friends/Senior UPSC players/Insightsindia managers

    I am a new entrant. The above essay was about 550-600 words. I could not stretch it further due to knowledge deficiency.

    Please give me suggestions to improve

    Was I monotonous and boring?

    Did I totally deviate from the context?

    Thanks & Regards
    Sarat

    • Shubhangi

      U need to include more examples….don’t end with’I would like to conclude’..it gives a feeling of speech and not essay

      • Sri Krishna Sarat Chandra Kamb

        thank u

  • Shubhangi

    Human nature is full of desires. We keep on desiring for new things in life. No matter how much we get, we always have new wants. Gautam Buddha said that desires are the reason for sufferings in the world. If people control their desire, they will be happy.
    But why do we have so many desires? It is because we are always unsatisfied with the things we have. There are two sides of a coin. Generally,we tend to focus on the negative side of things we possess.That’s why things that we don’t possess are more attractive. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

    Take for example life of a celebrity. Most of us envy their lives, lifestyle, all the glamour and glitter involved. We want that life for ourselves.We want to be rich and famous. But what we tend to ignore is the hard work these celebrities put in in their work. Likewise, celebrities sometimes get tired with all the glamour and lights in their lives and yearn for a common man’s life.

    Generally,we try to compare our lives with others, be it our neighbor, friends or colleagues. But in the process we weigh our negatives with the positives of others. This creates the illusion of greener grass on the other side of the fence. A person belonging to socially backward class might want to remove the humiliations attached with his caste from centuries and live life like an upper caste person. But the upper caste person might want his caste to be included in the backward caste to get the benefits of reservation.

    At times we complain about the system of our country, government, education and employment opportunities. We want to migrate to developed European or North American countries for better life. But once we get there, we might feel lonely, homesick and alienated.We might earn more, but the desire to be around friends and family might make us think that life was greener before.

    The feeling is same throughout the world. Developing countries envy developed countries for their technological and economic advancement, while developed countries feel dissatisfied with the concession that developing countries get regarding environment or trade tariff.

    We want to get the best of both worlds, and in the process we belittle our capabilities while glorify others. We are unable to comprehend the hardship that is present on the other side. Looking at just the positive side makes us feel that life is easy for people on the other side. But if we try to get the whole perspective, we will see that the other side is not all smooth. It also has hardships, maybe in a different form.

    Though this force of desire creates illusion of green grass on the other side, the same desire is the driving force of progress in our life. The desire for things to be better is what keeps the innovation in human mind alive. Thus, having desire is not bad. But it should not make us discontent with the things we have. The desire to progress should be accompanied with the satisfaction of things we already possess.

    The grass on other side may look greener, but that green color is the symbol of efforts being put in the maintenance of grass. If we put those efforts ourselves, the grass on our side will become green too.

    • Sri Krishna Sarat Chandra Kamb

      really nice…how many words is it?

      • Shubhangi

        Thanks..562words

  • Harry Potter

    “THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE”

    In a town lived two boys Dev and Sameer , both intelligent and good friends. Dev belonged to a poor household , living in a small house with 6 siblings and loving parents, while Sameer was the son of a wealthy businessman. Cramped in the little room of his house, Dev would often wish for Sameer’s life , full of luxury and plenty of privacy. One day, he jokingly expressed his wish to Sameer. Soon , he saw Sameer’s eyes on the verge of tearing up. Sameer only said , “I too wish for something that you have – Mother ” .

    Most of us vye for things we don’t have, focus on the negatives of our circumstances , not the positives. It is often said , neighbour’s wife always looks more beautiful than our own. Human psychology is such that we end up making comparisons of how better or worse off we are. Some even start making excuses for not trying or for their failures. It is true that some of us in fact are unfortunate. But, it is extremely important that we appreciate what we have , deal with the challenges and shortcomings as they come and try to improve our circumstances. The quote is true , not only in the personal domain but others as well.

    International/Strategic Domain:

    The desire for more lands to quell the thirst for more resources has led to many a increased conflicts and misery like US war on Iraq , Argentina – Britain war over Falkland islands. But at same time, it is seen that Japan without any significant reserves and with a military moratorium post 1945 , still has been able to reach high levels of economic and social development. The key simply was to look inside and find your strengths and act on them, not just mull over what we don’t have.

    Economic Domain :

    Independence in 1947 brought many challenges for India, but the economic challenge was probably the biggest with soaring poverty levels, poor socio-economic development, low industrialisation levels , lack of finances etc. In order to meet the challenge, Western model of economic development was adopted with increased focus on industrialisation and relative neglect of agriculture esp from the 2nd FYP(Mahalanobis model) . The western approach , however, didn’t suit the requirements of the country which needed a more village centric approach(as Gandhi had suggested). Result was food shortage and PL-480! Thus, merely looking upto the other ‘brighter side, without considering your own and it’s realities may end up in a bigger disaster than present. Any model of development should have taken into account the Indian-ness of the unique realities and challenges of the Country to be more effective.

    Cultural Domain:

    With increase impact of western culture through fast food giants like Macdonalds,glamorous hollywood, etc, youth are turning more and more towards the West. which often leads to an individual cultural and identity crisis ,many a times to substance abuse, crimes , thus hurting the moral fabric of the society. At a time like this, it is important that we look closer home and explore the greatness of the Indian heritage and style of living and embrace it. Finding a balance between western and Indian ways is desirable.

    Political:

    The Political turmoil in terms of inaction and blame games , for example in case of the inability of the Govt to bring the black money or tardy progress in the Pathankot attack case , with the opposition blaming the Govt , ignores certain practical difficulties of diplomacy and disclosures. Political functioning in some cases aren’t as smooth as they seem. In such situations, what is required is increased cooperation between the different parties, all the while staying fully commited to the public welfare.

    Individual level

    Most of us are obsessed with things we don’t have, the choices we didnt make , the material success we haven’t yet achieved. A engineer might envy a businessman, a businessman may envy a politician, a politician may envy a social worker and the chain goes on and on. These unsatisfied desires normally lead to stress and unhappiness in the individuals. A happy life would require us to accept the circumstances as they are, desirable or undesirable , and further to toil hard in order to achieve that something desirable , not merely make excuses and to give up all envy.

    Giving up envy would require a mature, level headed person dedicated to the cause of bettering his position, regardless of what others say. It would bring contentment, peace of mind for the person concerned.

    On the other hand , the other side that we normally crave for, may not be as bright or suitable to us as it would seem. As the short story said, isn’t Sameer unhappy even after having all the wealth? Wouldnt he exchange it for what Dev ‘has’? Isn’t Devs envy thus misplaced?

    Grass may not be greener on the other side. But the grass may become greener as you water it!

    • Harry Potter

      My first essay.
      I think i have taken a rather different approach than others.And probably it’s wrong. please comment and let me know my mistakes. Soooo much to learn!

  • Ayaan

    My First essay…Please review it and please provide your suggestions and valuable critique.

    A lavish bungalow, luxurious car, huge pay package, beautiful persona may seem heavenly to one person; on the other hand a peaceful environment, life close to nature with no pollution, buzzing gadgets and brain heating tensions seems a boon to another or at a different time to the same person. This seems a paradox but most of us might have experienced at one time or the other. A person with a moderate life style may not appreciate his condition but certainly does appraise the lifestyle of a better fared person. This goes with the analogy that the distant grass and trees covering a hill/mountain appears green & lush.

    Despite the riches at home children love to play on the streets, parks or grounds. The children who are very much pampered & showered with all the costly gifts & toys, if not allowed to go out and play with other children might be dismayed for they feel that they are unlucky. On contrary children who do not have the luxury to get to play with such toys or drive to school by car may want to be in the latter’s position. This is because they worry for the things they don’t possess and more over their appreciation for the facilities and resources or the luxuries others enjoy. In such cases the grass on the other side of the fence certainly appears greener.

    Age, sex, physical or mental disability doesn’t stand as a barrier for such a subconscious projection what seems to be an illusion in most cases. There may be many factors leading to such circumstances. Nevertheless those factors if not as inputs can result in either appreciation of something one doesn’t have in possession or reprehension of something one possesses. The former leads in a positive direction as it is the human nature to appraise, value & treasure the better, effective and efficient things in life. This may also lead a person to dream, set goals and achieve them helping not only him/herself but also contributes to the advancement of the society. The later set factors, if not definitely, tentatively squeeze a person into the narrow zone of discontent, discomfort, hatred and dejection. In brief, the grass on the other side may or may not be greener, but it’s the attitude of the person makes it so. If the love towards the other side drives a person, the grass will always be greener, if it is hatred for what one has then that is chance one has to take, but often it won’t be greener. The reality check here is the grass which seems greener to one person may not appear so for the other. It is a factor of perception. The right attitude, with right choices made at the right time will certainly make a merry of the condition.

    The history speaks for itself that if not for that illusion or paradox, human evolution and advancement would have been possible. This adage certainly gives human existence a hope for a better tomorrow. Certainly a glimmer of hope is all we need in a desperate situation as such is the present national and global situation at crossroads with nature drawing swords with us, technology being used for the destruction and humanity being used only for educational purposes. It is right attitude with sense of belongingness and responsibility we would be able to reach those greener grasslands.

    It is the vision that sees the greener side bought revolutions, changes for good, development, changes in politics, socio-economic conditions to the state where we are now. Certainly the grass on the other side appears green. It may or may not be an illusion or may be it is greener in reality but it depends on the person who sees it and what he does to reach there is what matters most.

    Despite the challenges, troubles one had to face in life, if the person is content with what s/he is and s/he possesses and feels happy about her/himself and everybody close to her/him, no grass would appear greener and even if it does it would for sure help the wheel roll on. On contrast if a person is discontent and unhappy about what s/he has and whines about the disabilities than no greener grass would quench her/his thirst.

  • Majji

    Anil & Sunil are two childhood friends with two different educational backgrounds, Anil has degree from IIT and joined one of top MNC after his education, Sunil on the other hand took humanities and completed with decent marks and currently looking for good job. Both were discussing on several aspects during their meet on some occasion, during the discussion Sunil suggested Anil to give a try UPSC knowing his educational background and potential. with all academia records Anil has, Anil spontaneously felt in love the idea and started preparing, couldn’t clear stage one in his first attempt; later realized to leave the job and prepare and after 2 more attempts he could clear the exam. meanwhile sunil due to lack of job opportunities had to choose UPSC along with his friend and was able to clear in his first attempt. The moral of this is Anil was overconfident of his abilities and also under estimated the difficulty level of exam. Where as Sunil having arts background well know in advance what it takes to clear the exam and also helped his academia background.

    We most often under estimate or take it granted any success, but if one thinks carefully it takes immense pain and dedication to succeed in life. Story of Sachin for example, there are many great batsman who can play better shots or score quickly hundreds yet not able to reach the milestones of master’s. Along with talent one need consistency and honesty and keeping feet always on ground.

    On full moon day, moon looks beautiful like plain white globe for a layman eye. however if one takes close look from pictures sent by curiosity rover or any high end telescope for that matter – its composed rough rock terrains, with different relief features like hills, valleys, plateaus, plains etc. thus one can’t say any task is easy or simple by seeing from distance or with out knowing about it.
    Its only those who tried & succeeded can tell exactly what it takes to become or to finish the task.

    Even in politics, one may assume becoming politician and ruling his people is easy and its hardly matter of money. but even this is not always true as one can see from recent Delhi elections. even after elected maintaining clean image and keeping in touch with common man idea another major challenge, on top of this pressure from opposition leaders to topple elected is another challenge. current CMs of Agarthala, Odissa are able to cross all these hurdles.

    This concept well applicable in negative scenarios, for example, one thinks middle east countries may extinct due to unfavorable climate and not conducive for agriculture, if they don’t blessed by abundant oil reserves. but this too not always true. Isreal is prime example. This tiny country with out natural resources like oil, still able to produce Largest no.of. Nobel laureates and highest no.of. patents in its kitty and pioneered waste water treatment. To simplify fight against all odds, including terrorism from Palestine.

    Its irony that very few people see the path to future tough rugged and not straight, these are the ones who reach great heights in their lives, rest take it granted every thing falls in line and future will be fine. to our surprise many of these even takes god and luck for granted. they always under misinterpretation that god always do good to good people by completely neglecting the handwork, the main ingredient to success.

    In international relations, India from current increasing closeness towards US with deals like Nuclear deal, Logistics supply agreement etc. India shouldn’t take it granted or relay completely on US as trusted partners in difficult situations. Its not all clean, we shouldn’t forget it was reluctant to share GPS info during Kargil war, and recently sold F16 fighter flights to Pakistan. even more evident from its silence to its nuclear proliferation e.g. deployment tactile nuclear weapons near to Indian boarders as counter act to India’s operation Parakram.

    Recently India surpassed china to become one of the fast growing economy. currently china going through slowing down of its economy and western still struggling to recovering from 2008 sub-prime crisis. Now India should not take this for granted and live under impression of future also will be bright. Instead it should make use of this situtation, inviting global MNCs to setup business here with favorable FDI reforms, business environment. reduce twin deficits and become self reliant on defense needs. Overall make economy robust and world super power.

    In this fast changing world, society need to alert and always thriving for more betterment. one shouldn’t live under impression future will be green & bright with out improvising their prospects.
    This need Interdisciplinary approach and govt help is much required. Vanishing industries like Khadi, Traditional handicrafts not coping up with current trends. if one looks back, both govt and community depend on this jobs, lost vision by then. This shouldn’t be case for even other e.g. out of 244 PSUs, only 96 profit making, rest 148 loss making or on verge of collapse. govt take necessary steps to disinvest or revive or sell, instead of further deteriorating their value.

    To be world power, India always stand on its foot and thrive for better heights not taking any thing for granted. We are seeing growth in GDP, but also we are home to world’s largest share of poverty. thus going forward growth needs to be inclusive growth. Grass of other side looks green only if we make it by our perseverance, hungriness towards success, to become world powerhouse. Long journey start with single tiny step. Its never been late, with visionary on chair he should take all along with him making every one part of the success story.